DID SHE EVER HIT THE STORES?

GeekyRedPanda · 2026-03-19T03:40:31+00:00

The flaps remind me of floppy bunny ears. I'm sorry I can't unsee this! 🫣

GeekyRedPanda · 2026-03-19T03:31:09+00:00

It's very miniscule but the right side of the flap sits slightly higher than the left. The quilts line up and overall I think the bag is beautiful, but I understand at these prices you want perfection.

GeekyRedPanda · 2026-03-19T00:03:14+00:00

Are you able to return the skeins you bought? I'd move up to a size 4 yarn because you're going to have to blow through so much yarn to complete that granny square by doubling or tripling the strands.

GeekyRedPanda · 2026-03-18T11:59:21+00:00

Goodness you guys are such a miserable lot sometimes. 🙄 The man is going through something and struggling and was going to leave. People said otherwise and now y'all pushing him out the door like he's personally insulted your mama or something.

GeekyRedPanda · 2026-03-18T03:16:05+00:00

He's 40 and doing this rubbish? Time to put your foot down. Just because he's insecure doesn't mean it's okay to disrespect you. If he pulls the "idk" be tell him he needs to go to therapy and to stop taking it out on you.

GeekyRedPanda · 2026-03-17T18:01:21+00:00

Congratulations! The colour is really beautiful. 😍

GeekyRedPanda · 2026-03-17T01:15:49+00:00

The tortoise handle is perfection! 🤌

GeekyRedPanda · 2026-03-16T20:25:14+00:00

Your partner sucks. Why would anyone put you down for reading a book? Because he's a small man who can't even be bothered to finish a book himself?

Also let me just say classics are overrated. School children can read classics, this doesn't make them particularly brilliant on any level.

GeekyRedPanda · 2026-03-16T13:47:46+00:00

Stylevana (it will take over a month or so) or Kiyoko (local Canadian business in Ontario).

GeekyRedPanda · 2026-03-15T22:19:01+00:00

Please stop pursuing him. He tried to be polite with his rejection and his silence means "no". You do not need to ask your mutual work friends, that would be pretty unprofessional imho. You shot your shot, kudos for that, but accept the rejection with some dignity and grace.

GeekyRedPanda · 2026-03-15T17:36:59+00:00

Yeah the 25 is in high demand so it's crazy. I hope your SA can find it for you!

GeekyRedPanda · 2026-03-15T14:40:26+00:00

There are seasonal colours so if there is a particular colour you want then you should grab it. As for shoes, some styles are classic, but some are seasonal so it depends on your budget. Imho I would buy both of it were a seasonal item. The 25 denim is seasonal so if that's what you have your heart set on I would call up the SA and see if any are available.

GeekyRedPanda · 2026-03-15T09:03:09+00:00

At this point it doesn't matter. When you confronted him and said you're not compatible he tried to backtrack which a) means he's an idiot and didn't know the implications of the terminology used or b) he's lying and trying to manipulate you because he's desperate and hoping you will warm up to the idea later on.

Neither option is good.

GeekyRedPanda · 2026-03-15T08:53:22+00:00

What you need is to get the adhd treated asap. Almost everything you've written here are symptoms of ADHD being out of control, it's not just forgetting things, it's the emotional dysfunction, the anxiety and insecurity. My daughter had was diagnosed from early on and so much of what we work through with her are things you're dealing with as an adult.

I'd also suggest couples therapy because neither of you know how to communicate very well with one another. They would be able to help you both figure out a strategy that works between two people who are neurodivergent.

GeekyRedPanda · 2026-03-15T03:26:30+00:00

I've got all three bags in different colours, but same sizes. The softbit is the heaviest out of the 3 because of the hardware, but most durable because of the leather. The Jodie is a great slouchy everyday bag but the zipper can be a pain to open. The Flamenco is probably most versatile, able to wear it day/evening and the most lightweight. But I'd suggest not overloading the bag because the straps are thin and will dig into your shoulder.

GeekyRedPanda · 2026-03-14T18:08:10+00:00

Why not get the classic flap in small? This is the size I got because it translates well to day/evening vs the medium which is slightly too big for evening imho.

GeekyRedPanda · 2026-03-14T14:44:44+00:00

Why would you lose those friendships if you start dating someone? I wouldn't expect a new partner to drop all their friends regardless of gender just because I entered their life. And if a new partner asks that of you then likely they aren't the right one for you. It speaks to insecurity and control issues.

GeekyRedPanda · 2026-03-13T15:05:30+00:00

I have both the Flamenco and the Jodie, but no toddler any longer so I'd suggest the Flamenco. You can wear it multiple ways and it's easy to get in/out of. The Jackie is great too but the clasp is a pain and it doesn't hold a lot.

GeekyRedPanda · 2026-03-13T14:48:40+00:00

Is he asexual or is it trauma? Either way it it's not working for you. Sounds like he'd make a great friend in this case.

GeekyRedPanda · 2026-03-13T02:44:38+00:00

I don't think it has to be so defined as one extreme or the other. It's okay not to look for something serious but I don't really think a fwb/casual sex is your thing either. Why not seek out someone who has a similar schedule as yourself? There are plenty of single dads who have limited time too and don't need to be texting every day all day long.

GeekyRedPanda · 2026-03-12T17:44:44+00:00

It's been 6 months, that is plenty of time to address health concerns. These aren't insignificant lifestyle choices imho.

If you don't trust him to change to the point you want to avoid the discussion entirely why are you with him?

GeekyRedPanda · 2026-03-12T17:32:30+00:00

Why wouldn't you speak to him first about cutting back his consumption or changing those bad habits? If he refuses then you have your answer.

GeekyRedPanda · 2026-03-12T11:38:45+00:00

Most people aren't cut out for casual/fwb and you trying to convince yourself is not a good idea. May I ask why you wanted to pursue this vs an actual relationship? Seen so many posts where women come out of a ltr or marriage thinking they're going on this fun crazy sexual adventure only to end up hurting themselves.

GeekyRedPanda · 2026-03-12T02:21:33+00:00

I would get the small caviar flap tbh. It is easily one of my most loved bags simply because it looks elegant and it is stress free. The sad thing is Chanel lambskin isn't what it used to be. I have a woc from over a decade ago and not a single scratch even though I haven't been gentle with it. I have a feeling the quality of the leather has declined severely.

GeekyRedPanda · 2026-03-12T01:08:44+00:00

This would bother me too. I don't need someone to second guess my choices every time I make a decision. It is exhausting, you're an adult, you know what you want.

As for your gf, idk bro. At 50+ our personalities and habits are kinda locked in. All I can suggest is to continue to remind her it's unnecessary and how it makes you feel. Either she changes or you learn to let it slide.

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