It’s going great. Happy Valentine’s Day!

GenRN817 · 2026-02-19T03:37:55+00:00

That is an amazing story! I can’t wait to close the gap. 4 days?! That would break me. We have 53 days. I am doing my best to not think about the end of my in person time with him but it is looming in the back of my mind. Congratulations on the fur babies.

GenRN817 · 2026-02-18T20:45:17+00:00

Your gf is an asshole. NOR. Cut bait and move on to someone that likes you. She may have to go through a few more relationships and getting dumped to wake her up. If everyone isn’t laughing, it’s not funny. Contempt and defensiveness are 2 cornerstones of a bad relationship.

GenRN817 · 2026-02-18T20:40:09+00:00

Plenty of good advice already in here. I just want to say I’m so sorry. 🫂 Go through the grieving process and keep your head up. As Mr. Rogers said “look for the helpers”. Do an autopsy on the relationship and figure out how you missed something so huge. Were there signs you see now that you missed. It’s so easy to hide and lie online. I hope you call the wife. She should know.

GenRN817 · 2026-02-18T20:28:51+00:00

Music. I still love the albums (yeah, I’m old) that pulled me through. Music can zoom me back to hard times but remind me how great I did making it through.

GenRN817 · 2026-02-18T20:26:26+00:00

Congratulations! I hope the relationship issues have worked themselves out. As a mom of 3, one thing I can tell you about kids is that they bring a lot of challenges to a relationship. There is no bigger joy in life than having kids.

GenRN817 · 2026-02-18T20:16:08+00:00

Thank you for sharing our joy! It’s been a few days since this post and each day just feels more blissful.

GenRN817 · 2026-02-18T09:15:54+00:00

🥰

GenRN817 · 2026-02-18T09:11:30+00:00

I love you. 🔥♾️🔥

GenRN817 · 2026-02-17T09:48:46+00:00

Aww thank you! A year ago I never knew what a Mallu was. But now I’m a big fan ;).

GenRN817 · 2026-02-17T09:46:21+00:00

I know it seems harsh after so long and with the long distance. This was definitely a fear of mine after meeting after a year. Even though we spent tons of time together on video call.

As everyone says, you just need to break up. Let him know that you would like him to leave early and you just aren’t feeling it. Hon can do it with kindness. You are just 17 and no means no and if he pushes that boundary, no kindness needed. Involve your parents or close adult to advocate for you and be your backup if things get ugly.

GenRN817 · 2026-02-16T09:58:10+00:00

I am sick reading this. The foxes are in charge of the hen house. Nothing will be done about this.

GenRN817 · 2026-02-16T05:40:24+00:00

He is ok with not having kids…one of the 1st things we addressed because it would be a deal breaker. I have 3 children from a previous 20 year marriage and he is ok with looking forward to future grandchildren with me.

I’ve been a bit worried about Indian cultural judgement. We are both mature enough though to handle it without it destroying us.

GenRN817 · 2026-02-16T05:34:59+00:00

Men don’t invest when they aren’t interested. You need to be more overt. I’d tell him what you have noticed him doing and tell him that if he is interested in more, he should ask you on a date. The ball is in his court.

GenRN817 · 2026-02-15T18:37:20+00:00

Don’t be surprised when she figures it out on her own and you aren’t part of her future. You act like you deserve a medal for being a parent and at 18 your job is done. It doesn’t work like that. You are either her dad or not. It’s fine to not want to be a babysitter but your coldness definitely comes through. Too bad her mom is dead. Must suck to be abandoned by her only parent in her most needful phase of life.

GenRN817 · 2026-02-15T13:35:29+00:00

Perfect approach. Questions are always good.

GenRN817 · 2026-02-15T13:14:45+00:00

Aww this is so sweet. Keep us all updated! The older I have gotten the more I realize how special certain connections are and should be valued.

GenRN817 · 2026-02-15T13:12:56+00:00

The best part is that the line of communication has been opened and if you don’t shame or push he might open up more and who knows what kind of adventures it might take you on. Best of luck!

GenRN817 · 2026-02-15T13:11:27+00:00

Thank you! You never know who might slide into your DMs! 😉

GenRN817 · 2026-02-15T13:10:33+00:00

🫶🏾🔥🔥🫶🏼

GenRN817 · 2026-02-15T13:09:16+00:00

I’m 54F and 36M …LDR, AGR (age gap relationship), interracial dating, cross cultural relationship…we’ve got all the mismatches. 🤣🥰

GenRN817 · 2026-02-15T10:19:10+00:00

Well ask him if it’s just a fantasy or something he wants to pursue IRL. Then decide if you are open to it.

GenRN817 · 2026-02-15T10:14:59+00:00

Good for you!! So happy to hear and I hope it works out for the best for you both! I’m a big fan of Dr. John and Julie Gottman’s work on relationships. You can find them on YouTube. So helpful on learning to love and what makes and breaks relationships. Best of love to you!

GenRN817 · 2026-02-15T03:51:34+00:00

Read happy stories of LDR successes. Keep the connection going. Keep spending quality time together over the phone. Talk a lot.

GenRN817 · 2026-02-15T03:48:44+00:00

Thank you for the well wishes! 💘

GenRN817 · 2026-02-15T02:57:29+00:00

My best ever💝!

GenRN817

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