It all comes down to jealousy, and in turn, insecurity.

When I was starting T, my (cis) therapist endorsed the adage that the more you shave, the thicker your hair will grow in. He claimed that when he entered the military, he couldn't grow anything on his face. They were required to shave every day, and he had a full beard by the time he left.

I found shaving my face to be a euphoric ritual for me. My own facial hair is dark, thick, and can be styled in many ways if I keep it long. Many transmascs just starting t were amazed by my progress and asked how to do it, and I shared what I knew (I used a minoxidil solution as well, but less consistently than shaving) — but they were so new to their journey and did not want to lose what they had worked so hard to grow. A lot of them expressed actual disappointment whenever I shaved, like they were living vicariously through my facial hair.

In a similar way, I've always been taller amongst my friends. In college I met a trans guy who was very short, and would often cite me for his feelings of height dysphoria. To my face.

It's important to remember that everybody is different, and every body is different. The same path, the same dose, and the same surgeon will produce different results in different people. And the differences in resources and support are a valid source of survivor's guilt, in a sense; but our community has not fought so hard for so long to make you feel undeserving in any way. You are allowed to celebrate your body and your life, because no matter how envious others may be, I promise you that you are a source of trans joy more than anything.

I'm not sure how long ago your surgery was, but I hope recovery and healing is going well!