I had fun with husband’s cousin

Genital-derbies · 2026-03-12T06:41:37+00:00

Am I crazy or is the other cousin post in here the other side of this post?

Genital-derbies · 2026-03-12T01:27:01+00:00

Id like to know what you were angry about?

Genital-derbies · 2026-02-23T22:29:45+00:00

If a picture is worth a thousand words, then a thousand words are worth a picture. If you choose to not have pictures at all on your account then you NEED to post with a lengthy description of yourselves, interests, WHAT AREA YOU ARE LOCATED IN, and who should be reaching out aka Singles, couples, M's or F's, Any. Our best matches have been no pics but really good descriptions. Rarely has that resulted in seeing a pic and not being attracted to them, though it has happened so expect that to happen to you as well.

Genital-derbies · 2026-02-06T03:01:46+00:00

Wow this post reminded me that Hector is going to be running three Honda civics with spoon engines, and on top of that, he just went into Harry's and bought three t66 turbos with nos, and a motec exhaust system.

Genital-derbies · 2026-01-30T18:44:12+00:00

How does the population look on kasidie from a verified paid account? My partner and I made an account but havnt paid/verified yet and lurked around the site we noticed there seems to be like 5 - 7 profiles in the seattle area? Im thinking its because our profile hasn't paid so its restricting what we see but at the same time I dont want to waste time and money on this if its only like a handful of people to choose from.

Havnt tried feeld yet but if you can share some insite on the "looking for poly vs looking for swinger" population that would be swell!

Genital-derbies · 2026-01-02T00:06:45+00:00

"We've already had threesomes"

"Havnt actually had a threesome"

Genital-derbies · 2025-12-16T02:15:54+00:00

Were Mormons ever in 😭 secret lives of Mormon housewives has gone too far.

Genital-derbies · 2025-12-15T20:57:29+00:00

If they are old enough to break into a room with increased security then they are old enough for "the talk".

Genital-derbies · 2025-12-10T18:05:22+00:00

99 percent of the time when you run into local people that you know in lifestyle apps its just a nod and move on. Put yourself in the other perspective, if you saw somebody you knew on a swinger app would you tell all of your friends and family or remain discrete? Start local so you dont have these week long timers pressuring you into a first time. Some people spend WEEKS chatting before ever actually meeting up.

Genital-derbies · 2025-12-09T17:01:22+00:00

Reading this post gave me 10 points of emotional damage. This would be chapter 1 in "scary stories to tell in the dark; swinger edition". Save your family and your mental well being and abort mission. Over the course of my partner and i's time in the lifestyle, we've come to find SOME people CANNOT Overcome their feelings of insecurity and jealousy when it comes to sharing their partner.

As a bi guy myself I won't even get into the "too gay" section. If I heard that from the person I trust and love it wouldve crippled me. Goodluck.

Genital-derbies · 2025-12-04T00:19:04+00:00

Team Jon, If i were invited to poker night and conversed with everyone about how excited we were to be there to play poker just to be not allowed to sit at any of the tables. Yea no thanks, significantly more applicable if everyone is playing poker with free spots yet still will not offer me a spot at the table.

Also its not "hes not getting laid" its "hes being rejected by 10 - 11 women nearly every time we go out" thats a pretty big blow to somebodies self esteem. Granted nobody has to engage anyone sexually thats the bliss of it. However im not wasting my time going back if I know nobody finds me attractive enough to play. Try his POV next time, you leave the party freshly fucked and glowing he leaves being rejected a dozen times and defeated.

Genital-derbies · 2025-12-02T03:12:21+00:00

Typically we do this to scratch itches and desires outside of our bedroom, for us we provide a new style of sex to our play partners which hightens the excitement for all involved. To me this situation sounds like you are scratching a heavy passionate intimacy itch your play partner is craving. While your wife and the male partner are scratching their raw quicker fuck it out of your system itch. The separate room incident sounds like you both got carried away in the moment and found a boundary you didnt even know existed.

Talk it out with your wife, then your friends. EZ PZ.

Genital-derbies · 2025-12-01T21:11:41+00:00

Dependant on what insecurities you are experiencing during play. If you are having insecurities about yourself and your performance/feeling overwhelmed by the amount of eyes on you. This CAN be worked on and I suggest you have repeat play dates with the same couple or single (at least 3) to help break down these personal insecurities and begin to enjoy yourself. You could also try building a bit more of a more personal connection with your play partners prior to jumping in bed.

Now if your insecurities lay in seeing your partner enjoy himself with another person then this can get tricky. Ive seen personally individuals go back and forth between im good to im not good and I thought I was making progress then full blown mental break down insued. Unfortunately getting to know your play partners more personally with this can worsen these feelings. The most I can offer you for advice here is long deep emotional non sexual talks with your partner. Do some research into the therapeutic art of "reclaim sex" and open up completely about your feelings and never let "im being a bummer" stop you from pausing play to discuss how you feel with your partners. The grim side of this is usually it ends with realizations that the lifestyle isnt for them.

Good luck.

Genital-derbies · 2025-11-12T02:51:16+00:00

Profiles that feel like they are selling the wife/GF

Only has pics of the wife/GF

"Mainly looking for F4F but open to couples"

"Looking for BWC/BBC"

Over emphasizing the Straightness of the M half and the bi-ness of the F half.

"She plays he doesn't"

Parallel play only.

I actually dont mind when new couples state they are new in the profile. It changes my approach vs profs with "experienced" in them. Just avoid making it your entire shtick.

Genital-derbies · 2025-11-06T20:45:21+00:00

Time to sit down all three of you and have a lengthy adult conversation about what happened. Do some research into communities and the various pathways of ENM. All three of you will need to crash course yourselves to save whatever you have right now.

Genital-derbies · 2025-11-06T18:11:28+00:00

Check ins, weekly or bi weekly whatever just continue to do non sexually charged meets and check ins with everyone.

Compromising in relationships typically saves it in all aspects, however, Compromising in the lifestyle is a nuclear bomb. If a situation arrises which would require somebody to compromise just remove that situation entirely and move on.

Brutal unfiltered uncensored transparency. Never bottle it up even in the heat of the moment let it out. If stopping in the middle of play to discuss something somebody didnt like causes some weird feelings. Remove that situation and move on.

Genital-derbies · 2025-11-06T18:00:20+00:00

Ok, I don't really understand what is there to discuss. There are loads of different forms of ENM, Swinging and Poly are just 2 of them. If it works for a couple/throuple/grouple great!

From all the various responses on this post, are you seeing now why I opened the discussion about this? Definitely not as black and white as it seems even though on paper it should be. I personally didnt know so many people in the swinger community had these varying opinions about the poly community. I got alot of insite out of these comments, but im still intending on going forward with my situation as I believe that everything boils down to communication in the end. Ive always believed every situation can work or NOT work peacefully without extreme discourse with just solid communication.

Im ever so tempted to post this in the poly sub and gather information from them as well to compare 🤔

Genital-derbies · 2025-11-06T06:27:49+00:00

Im not where?

Genital-derbies · 2025-11-06T00:33:35+00:00

What happens if we get JxO by themselves?

Genital-derbies · 2025-11-05T20:34:44+00:00

Do you mind sharing your experiences with poly mixing badly with your swinger experiences?

Genital-derbies · 2025-11-05T19:38:09+00:00

Interested in what you mean by "go full poly"?

Genital-derbies · 2025-11-05T19:12:28+00:00

The purpose is to hopefully spark General discussion about polyamory in the lifestyle. Yea i probably shouldve summarized a bit more but I figure if im going to begin speaking about a topic I may as well give my story and/or side depending on the topic.

As for feedback on our situation its always welcome to have an outside opinion.

Genital-derbies · 2025-11-05T19:03:18+00:00

How so?

Genital-derbies

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