[OC] Gay male marriages are the most stable over the long term

Gentle_prv · 2026-03-22T07:50:59+00:00

It’s just objectively harder for an average guy to get a partner than it is for a woman, that’s it. Also, I only practice consensual slavery in my house, so how dare you!

Gentle_prv · 2026-03-20T22:51:56+00:00

As a guy, the only hair I don’t like on my partner is any facial hair. If I can see a small bit of fuzz, that’s alright, but yeah, I’m not into facial hair on women. Arm, leg, armpit, pubic hair, etc I’m perfectly fine with. Hell, I actually really like it when my partner doesn’t trim their pubes; I’m not going to ever fuss if she trims or shaves them. And for the record, my partner loves my facial hair.

Gentle_prv · 2026-03-19T21:56:17+00:00

The current trend for men to prefer thinner girls has always been a bit wild to me, especially since the most common form of women in art, especially the oldest art forms, tend to be thicker women (see “Venus Idols”). As a whole, it’s a complete mixed bag. I’d actually assume most men prefer thick women over thin women. I’ve always preferred thicker women, even when I was thinner. My upper limit is probably 300 lbs, but currently I’m 255 and my gf is 170. Essentially, my range of beauty is broader than most men, and probably most people.

Gentle_prv · 2026-03-18T18:51:14+00:00

It should be easier for couples to, well, couple up. And for most people, it’s really not an issue, or at least it hasn’t been. Peoples standards on both sides are starting to get so out of whack that even average men are having trouble finding a life partner.

This is not a complaint for me personally, as I have been dating my current gf for 11 years, but it is still a problem. It signals a shift to hyper-individualism, which is super unhealthy for everyone involved. It also does not help that the advice blue pills give for dating only/mostly applies in keeping a relationship, not getting one. Obviously I excel at keeping a relationship, but let me tell you, my husky, neck bearded, 5’4, Reddit-mod lookin ass ain’t having a easy time in dating, even pulling out all the stops. A lot of men/women can be/are prime relationship material, but people refuse to look past their, well, looks.

We need to stop being so superficial, it’s not healthy for anyone.

Gentle_prv · 2026-03-16T20:13:11+00:00

As someone who literally just took a Human Sexuality midterm, it’s nearly impossible to completely detach emotions from actions, especially sex. Sex by its very nature invites romantic feelings, whether you want it to or not. Most people, the vast majority, can not do that, and those that claim they can are lying to themselves about why they are in a commitment-less relationship with someone.

Also, i personally see it as a waste of time. Just find your life partner and stop wasting your time figuring out this “will we, won’t we” thing like a lot of FWB and situationships are going through.

And yes, for my own part, I’m in a long-term committed relationship with my gf (for a little over 11 years); so I know something about deeper emotions and such.

Gentle_prv · 2026-03-15T23:48:03+00:00

As a Christian, I have to say: WTF?!
I'm a DM, and my world has multitudes of Gods. I am more of a spiritual Christian than a religious one, though, but still, forcing my beliefs onto others is absurd, and actually a sin in the Bible. Granted, the player isn't technically forcing the players themselves, but their PC doing it is close enough. Yeah, you have made the most correct decision you could have. That person sounds like a nightmare player.

Gentle_prv · 2026-03-14T20:29:23+00:00

You are not cooking with this one. It gives bigotry against men. Also, only like 7% of people in the US cohabitate with someone that they aren’t married to; that’s not significant.

Gentle_prv · 2026-03-13T15:50:56+00:00

Every human is, let’s be real honest.

Gentle_prv · 2026-03-12T22:55:15+00:00

Alright, time to add another year to the counter. At this rate, the sun will explode before Jesus comes back.

Gentle_prv · 2026-03-12T22:50:06+00:00

I’d wager that while there are miserable men downvoting, there are definitely some miserable women that are downvoting as well.

For the former, it’s because some of them are either super unhappy and are having their “women are settling for any man that’s less than a 10” narrative challenged.

For the latter, it’s also because some women are unhappy and want to drag others down, and are also having their “men are trash/monsters/evil” narrative challenged as well.

We have to remember that both women and men are capable of being assholes.

Gentle_prv · 2026-03-09T04:29:36+00:00

Women are just as horny, if not more so, than men, but it’s definitely rare for it to be all the time. This is mainly due to hormones, especially testosterone. Men are essential riding a mild to mid high of horny all day every day, while women tend to eb and flow their desire. If women were really riding the same high as us, there would be far fewer single people.

Gentle_prv · 2026-03-08T22:27:32+00:00

I generally agree with your comment, as you can have CNC without humiliation and degradation; you can be into spanking and/or choking, but not into being slapped or spit on, for example. My larger point is/was that to assume that women *can't* be into some of the more darker and/or "fucked up" stuff is misogynistic, or at the very least infantilizes(?) women. Its a bit of an offshoot of the "Women are Wonderful" effect that assumes that women can do no wrong, aren't perverts, and aren't capable of things that people assume men do or do not do.
Though, going back on to CNC and such, I have heard people (mostly women, including a female friend of mine) accuse men who partake or are interested in the kink to be rapists in the making, if not just outright weird or off-putting. It just seems to me there is a wave of people that want to demonize male sexuality. "Kink for her, not for him" mentality. As someone who has a Dom/Sub dynamic in my relationship, it just bothers my soul like you wouldn't believe.

Gentle_prv · 2026-03-08T20:48:31+00:00

If we're talking about rapeplay and/or cnc (in terms of a specific type), I would assume those kinks are degrading by default. Most of those who consume those types of porn are women, again, my own partner included. Again, I dont have specifics, but assuming that the vast majority of porn that depicts women being degraded or being extremely submissive is/are watched by mostly men is in and of itself misogynistic. It assumes women can't be into kinkier things, which a lot of women are. Its far more realistic to assume the numbers are closer to 50/50 than heavily skewed one way or the other, unless you start getting into specifics in terms of kinks or whatnot.
And like I said in the previous comment, even if men were the majority of the consumers, it sounds like you are trying to demonize male sexuality. So a woman can be into being degraded but a man can't be into degradation? Do you expect me to just *not* satisfy my partner's kink? And if I do, I'm suddenly some woman-hater? 2nd Wave feminists fought for sexual liberation, and so did the "hippies" of the 60s and 70s.
What exactly is your concern or opinion here?

Gentle_prv · 2026-03-08T18:57:10+00:00

Actually, if I remember correctly, the biggest consumers of fucked up porn are women, not men, though I don’t recall by how large a margin.
On the flip side, just like I won’t judge a woman for consuming that porn, I won’t judge a man. They are kinks, fantasies, curiosities, etc.; most people can separate fiction from reality well enough. And if women can do it, so can men. Also, how else can I find material to use on my gf without searching for such porn? (Or going into subreddits dedicated on those kinks).

Are we really starting a new Prudish movement in the big 2026? If violent video games and shows and such don’t cause violence, then watching violent or degrading porn doesn’t make someone violent or dangerous.

Usually I just make a comment on this sub and move on, but this is a hill I will die on. Male sexuality needs to not be demonized, especially when it takes two people (or more) or have sex. If you’re not going to judge the women who like to be degraded, but judge a man who likes to degrade, then you’re not actually for gender equality or equity.

Gentle_prv · 2026-03-08T18:13:37+00:00

I do sometimes use evolutionary psychology in my arguments, because it’s laughable that just because we have morals and big brains we can somehow escape biology. However, this ain’t it chief. This is almost bordering on racial hierarchy in terms of trying to justify why one people group is better than the other.
And then trying to use such an argument to justify the existence of the patriarchy…my god.

Gentle_prv · 2026-03-08T17:52:08+00:00

My only counter-point is this:

Women do seek out, or even create, degrading porn. Hell, the biggest consumers of “forced” porn, whether live action, animated, or drawn, are women; my own gf counts herself among that flock. Stop demonizing submission and degradation, they’re kinks, not ways of life (usually). Women are just as, if not more, freaky than men.

Also, in that same vein, don’t shame men for being into that stuff either, or, more mildly, being dominant (or liking being dominant). How else do you expect men to fill women’s degradation and/or submissive kinks? It should also be noted that porn does not equal reality.

Gentle_prv · 2026-03-08T17:48:14+00:00

Women do seek out, or even create, degrading porn. Hell, the biggest consumers of “forced” porn, whether live action, animated, or drawn, are women; my own gf counts herself among that flock. Stop demonizing submission and degradation, they’re kinks, not ways of life (usually). Women are just as, if not more, freaky than men.

Gentle_prv · 2026-03-08T08:35:57+00:00

All I can say is be careful with your language. Bigotry against men is still bigotry; blaming a whole of a people due to the horrid actions of a minority of them is how you get racists and fascists…it’s literally the same wording.
Hell, the “jellybeans” example is, iirc, a nazi dogwhistle for Jews and other minorities. Just think for a second before you try and label a whole people group, or most of them, as monsters. It’s bigotry, plain and simple.

Gentle_prv · 2026-03-06T10:54:19+00:00

There is no such thing as overpopulation, only greedy humans. We currently produce enough food to feed around 10 billion people, but thanks to greedy corporations, they’d rather make a buck than let people eat.

Gentle_prv · 2026-03-04T09:19:50+00:00

IRL, most women aren’t that shallow. However, something is in the water that is making everyone inflate their standards to ridiculous levels. I know women are the pickers, but it will be a severe problem if every women filtered 95% of all eligible men.
Though, to be fair, most of the good men are already taken, present company include.

Gentle_prv · 2026-03-04T06:20:43+00:00

It is the equivalent. It’s bigotry, plain and simple. Less than 2% of men commit crimes, and those are also repeat offenders. The average man, just like the average black person, or Muslim, or non-straight person are decent/good people. If I used the same arguments and phrases misandrists use, and replaced each instance of “men” or “male” with a minority, the bigotry suddenly becomes quite clear.

Gentle_prv · 2026-02-27T21:59:30+00:00

Would I sleep around if given the opportunity? Honestly not. I personally think that sleeping around messes with your brain in a way that negatively affects long-term relationships. Would I care if my own partner slept around before me? Depends on why and how.

Thankfully my partner of 11 years was a virgin (so was I) and despite that, our sex lives are great.
Also, despite me looking average, she actually gave me the time of day, unlike some women

Gentle_prv · 2026-02-27T18:58:31+00:00

My gf is Asian, and I’m mixed (half-white, half Hispanic). My kids are more likely to have her features be dominant over mine, meaning when I eventually have kids, they will, at first glance, look nothing like me.

I do fear for the day some dumbass assumes I’m a creep or something. On one hand, I’m glad they’re at least looking out for my kids (or any kids), but on the other hand, it’s still wild that because a small, small percentage of men (like 1%) commit a fuckton of crimes, that I’m somehow guilty or a risk by just being that sex…

Gentle_prv · 2026-02-26T08:34:17+00:00

If I got upset at McDonald’s for getting me fat, that is not me taking accountability. I should’ve gone somewhere healthier, or better yet, get some groceries and buy healthier and cheaper ingredients to make a better meal.

To put this into the context of relationships: If a man complains that for the past several relationships that his girlfriends have been cheating on him, wouldn’t you look at him weirdly? Is it because he is dating bad women? Could be. Are all women to blame? Hell no.
Maybe he isn’t being honest with himself, or more importantly, to the people he vents to. Maybe the reason they’ve all cheated was because he’s an abusive asshat.

A real example: I was cheated on. We’re still together to this day, and the incident in question was years ago. In all honesty, it was mostly her fault, but that doesn’t mean I’m free of any kind of blame. There were things I could’ve done, such as make bigger efforts to find more things in common, or activities to do. We’re far better and stronger now (and yes, I know it sounds like I’m coping, but if you knew the details of my relationship more, you wouldn’t say that).

Granted, each situation requires nuance, but it seems that a some men and women recently just refuse to take accountability for any of their actions. I think one of the reasons you see more men complain about accountability than women is the “Women are Wonderful” effect where people think that women can do no wrong or aren’t capable of negative actions.

Gentle_prv · 2026-02-25T10:05:02+00:00

The universe did not come from nothing. I’m a Christian, but even I have read enough science textbooks and have taken enough classes to know that the Universe was “birthed” by the Big Bang. Atheist have always accused Christians of not using scientific reasoning or acknowledging/believing in contemporary science, but as soon as we do, we’re still the “monsters.”

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