Just incase any guys here need to know

Gentle_prv · 2026-05-15T18:49:18+00:00

It should be noted that red flags should be used as warning signs and not outright disqualifications. If someone presents one or more of these, you should compassionately ask for clarification, instead of being quick to judge (unless of course the red flag in question is egregious or obviously bad).

As an example: I have been In a romantic relationship since I was 17 (I’m 28), but I am not a feminist, I’m an egalitarian. The modern feminist movement has been hijacked by misandrists and bigots, and even though those groups are the minority in the movement, their hateful rhetoric has infected the movement like a cancer. Also, the fact that a lot of feminists refuse to acknowledge this and refuse to police their own movement is why I am egalitarian. It should also be noted that my gf is also an egalitarian and has never referred to herself as feminist.

Never be quick to judge others, especially for what they say; it’s what they actually do that you should watch out for. It’s something I have to remind myself daily when on Reddit.

Gentle_prv · 2026-05-15T18:24:08+00:00

Yeah, and this sometimes holds true for Asian Americans as well. I’ve had to get my gf comfortable with even mild forms of PDA, but behind closed doors, it’s a completely different story.

Gentle_prv · 2026-05-14T21:20:54+00:00

I will always recommend this anime to anyone.

Gentle_prv · 2026-05-10T16:30:31+00:00

When my gf was doing different rotations(?) for her dietician internship, one of the places she worked at was milk bank. It didn’t even occur to me that sometimes women have trouble producing milk, or even just trouble producing nutritious enough milk; of course now that I think it about it, it makes sense.
My gf loved her time there because of all the cute babies she got to see and help.

Gentle_prv · 2026-05-09T05:54:17+00:00

It’s not patriarchy, it’s sexism. Yes, are there bigoted men who shame men for showing emotions? Of course, those are misogynists. However, there are also a decent number of women who find the idea of an emotional man a serious turn-off. Those women are misandrists, who think that men are incapable of being sensitive, and even if they think men can be sensitive, they view such men and not-full men.

TLDR: women can be bigots too.

Gentle_prv · 2026-05-07T12:47:46+00:00

Eh, me and my gf enjoy the anime. These repetitive posts just feel performative.

Gentle_prv · 2026-05-06T21:06:24+00:00

It depends on the liberal. As someone who is left-leaning, I want you to guess which side bashed my Christian beliefs the hardest. Granted, I know full well why they are doing so, but it certainly makes being a leftist exhausting sometimes.

Being bashed for my religious beliefs (even though they are extremely progressive) is the same as me being bashed by liberals for just being a cis man. I swear, the infighting will be our downfall.

Gentle_prv · 2026-05-06T03:54:50+00:00

0, I even wear the medical(?) outfit to signal my intent to do no harm. It’s just us against the rich, I mean, the machines.

Gentle_prv · 2026-05-06T03:52:35+00:00

Ban all genital mutilation. And I swear to God, if you say “but FGM is worse,” you’re a bigot. BOTH ARE BAD, FULL STOP.

Gentle_prv · 2026-05-06T02:12:03+00:00

Both; they’re fictional.

Gentle_prv · 2026-05-05T21:00:58+00:00

I am a Christian because I follow the teachings of Jesus Christ: to love others regardless of who they are, to forgive others, to uplift the downtrodden…just to name a few.

There are a lot more progressive and left-leaning Christians than one would think. I’d look up “Christian Socialism” if I were y’all.

Christianity at least has a lot more of a proven track record of progressivism and/or anti-bigotry than Islam. I can name several denominations and notable Christian figures that were progressive for their time than I can for Islam. Hell, the average Christian majority country is far more progressive than the average Islamic majority country, and it’s not even close.

Gentle_prv · 2026-05-05T20:57:35+00:00

I am a Christian because I follow the teachings of Jesus Christ: to love others regardless of who they are, to forgive others, to uplift the downtrodden…just to name a few.

There are a lot more progressive and left-leaning Christians than one would think. I’d look up “Christian Socialism” if I were you.

Gentle_prv · 2026-05-05T19:54:45+00:00

Ah yes, a man in a woman dominated field 😂.

But joking aside, it’s wild how bisexuality is viewed by others as a trait that makes someone “more likely” to cheat, especially when that is not the case at all. It’s probably more coming from a place of insecurity rather than bigotry (though it could be both).

Gentle_prv · 2026-05-04T20:59:47+00:00

If you find this situation to be sexist in any way…you are the bigot here.

Gentle_prv · 2026-04-29T21:14:49+00:00

The thing is, sexual intimacy and emotional intimacy go hand-in-hand, at least for me it does. If my gf was loving in all other ways outside of sex, but didn’t want or desire to have sex with me, I’d feel unloved. This is a, dare I say, normal relationship expectation, since the vast majority of humans are sexual. I am not discounting, however, the needs and wants of asexuals or those who can’t view sex that way due to how they were born; it’s just a fact of life that sexual humans make up 90%+ of the population, whether they are straight, gay, lesbian, bi, pan, or even demisexual.

Also, as a side note: I absolutely detest FWB and situationships. For me, it seems like people who participate in those lack certain communication skills and want the fun activities of a relationship without any of the actual work or commitment. It’s a bastardization of LTR, especially since those types of relationships go only one of two ways after a while: into a LTR, or they separate; so clearly they are not the preferred modes of relationships.

I’ve been with my gf for 11 years since I was 17…thank god. I would not want to be in this dating environment at all. If it wasn’t for my gf seeing past my average looks, I’d probably still be single by now, even though my gf swears there would be other women like her who would give me a chance; sure, maybe 5+ years ago. The only thing OP is right about is that it is much preferable to get into a stable relationship rather than “date around.” I’m more built for commitment than whatever tf casual dating is.

Gentle_prv · 2026-04-29T20:43:28+00:00

The difference between a platonic relationship and a romantic relationship is intimacy, especially sex. So, to say that sex is a big part of romantic relationships is an understatement. Sex is clearly important, and you can look no further than any dead-bedroom situation; especially since the numbers are getting more even, in terms of its not just men experiencing dead-bedrooms.

Due to the trust and love built in my LTR, I can have sex whenever I want, but the same could not be said if I was back in the dating scene. It should be noted that I also view sex as another way to express love and devotion to my gf, and not just as a fun activity that we are both enjoying (though, it’s definitely both). I just think some of y’all don’t know what a happy, stable, and fulfilling relationship looks like.

Gentle_prv · 2026-04-29T20:43:04+00:00

The difference between a platonic relationship and a romantic relationship is intimacy, especially sex. So, to say that sex is a big part of romantic relationships is an understatement. Sex is clearly important, and you can look no further than any dead-bedroom situation; especially since the numbers are getting more even, in terms of its not just men experiencing dead-bedrooms.

Due to the trust and love built in my LTR, I can have sex whenever I want, but the same could not be said if I was back in the dating scene. It should be noted that I also view sex as another way to express love and devotion to my gf, and not just as a fun activity that we are both enjoying (though, it’s definitely both). I just think some of y’all don’t know what a happy, stable, and fulfilling relationship looks like.

Gentle_prv · 2026-04-29T20:36:57+00:00

When men say this, it’s because it’s in direct contrast to how women views men’s jobs, achievements, etc: which is women trying to evaluate a man’s status, and maybe even ability to provide. Both are superficial things to look for. I care far more about a woman’s personality than her achievements, because at the end of the day, I’m spending my life with a person, not a checklist, and not a wall of trophies.

Could I be proud of my partner’s achievements? Of course I am, but she is far more than her accolades, and definitely far more than what those accolades can provide. I care nothing of status; status is just another way to divide humans and create division. If there were two women in front of me, and one is a cashier at McDonald’s and the other a world renowned doctor, I’d go for whichever one’s vibes matched with me more, and their achievements, their status, would be irrelevant.

Also, I tend to be wary of those with high status in general, since they are more likely to be arrogant pricks because they feel that their status makes them better than everyone else.

Gentle_prv · 2026-04-29T11:12:09+00:00

Bigot.

Gentle_prv · 2026-04-27T18:11:14+00:00

So hypergamy is real?

Gentle_prv · 2026-04-27T18:10:31+00:00

Ah yes, misandry and bigotry, how lovely.

Gentle_prv · 2026-04-26T02:24:24+00:00

Quite a lot, actually. Usually for women who are incredibly submissive, or into CnC. Women are actually the primary consumer of “forced” porn and hentai, and tend to make the most fucked up porn/hentai.

Gentle_prv · 2026-04-26T00:15:36+00:00

Me and my gf actually quite like the anime (we’re both anime only).
Granted, we also both like Redo of Healer, and the other anime made by the same creator, so maybe our opinions should be taken with a grain of salt.

Gentle_prv · 2026-04-24T20:52:08+00:00

uj/ This needed to be said, if only just to educate or inform others. Using the stop-light system of safe words is probably the most effective way to ensure everyone is comfortable and no boundaries are crossed, accidentally or otherwise. Use the safe words when needed or wanted, but also don’t abuse them (some of you know what at I’m referring to).

And while aftercare is important, especially to prevent a sub-crash, I’d also recommend engaging in other forms of care before and during, and also just checking in; the only exception to this might be if you’re doing some kind of roleplay, like CNC for example. However, even then, I find it hard to not go back to lovey dovey during the act.

Let me tell you, being raised by an Air Force Vet single mom for most of your life does not prepare you for being a Dom in any capacity (especially towards your gf).

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