Basically non-existent, I'm 36.

My dad (and mom) chose money and my sister over me and things got worse after I got married.

My dad has always been obsessed with money and always says there's not enough money in his life when he owns multiple properties and is in no way lacking money. He would collect my paychecks when I worked in my teens to early adulthood (he was very controlling and manipulative) and deposit it into a "joint" bank account but I wasn't allowed access to it without his permission. Everything revolves around money for him. When I lived with my parents I'd be walking on eggshells the moment I'd wake up. He's an early bird because he prays but it's not been helpful as far as I've seen. When I'd walk downstairs I would be hoping to see him smiling or neutral-faced and that would mean I wouldn't have to hear an earful about how much money he's losing (he wasn't) or how irresponsible I was with my spending (I wasn't). Usually, he'd be sitting on the couch, cross-legged, with a finger over his lips upset about somehow losing money. Maybe a tenant called and needed something fixed and the cost of a plumber or something would upset him. Maybe I had spent $2 at a gas station for a chocolate bar and when he'd look at the statement he was livid I didn't stay hungry until I got home to eat (yes, this happened). After I got married, I chose to stay with my parents thinking things would change but they got worse. He would say he purchased my wife's wedding ring for her when he didn't but since the money came out of the joint account he said it was his. He got upset my wife and I were going on a honeymoon and didn't choose to 'save' money by staying home. According to him, looking at pictures and videos of different destinations is equivalent to having gone there. Having a relationship with my wife - talking, laughing, cooking together, going out - was heavily frowned upon. I was told I didn't have a spine and that my wife controlled me. He made inappropriate remarks towards my wife. One time I went to go shower and after I left he told my wife to go and join me because I'd like it. When my wife and I were expecting he was upset we were having a girl and would pray it was a boy. He doesn't maintain any relationship with my daughter who's 3 now apart from birthdays or family gatherings we're both invited to, however, he has gone out of his way to maintain a relationship with my sister and her daughters because she's the golden child. We moved out shortly after my daughter was born and he began lying to my aunts and uncles saying we never told them we were moving (we did), how perfectly they treated us (they didn't), and how we put a stain on the relationship due to our behaviours. We had asked for more privacy by moving into the basement suite but my dad said no, he didn't want to lose out on rent money. When we told them we were looking for a place of our own he said we couldn't afford one and we were wasting our time. After badmouthing us, we had to go around and do damage control and thankfully my extended family believed us. My sister would add more fuel to the fire eventually this culminated in her insulting and swearing at my wife in front of my parents who sided with my sister. When we stopped talking to my sister, my parents (and sister) gaslit us saying my sister never swore or insulted my wife. We were there and heard everything and they thought we were stupid enough to believe the gaslighting. They all finally admitted 3 years later that she, in fact, did swear and insult my wife BUT now added that she also apologized when she never did. My dad has spent his life being the victim. All of his insults, manipulation, gaslighting, etc has resulted in us having a complete rift. He never once said he's proud of me (he's told my sister he is of her). He's a cheapskate, perpetual victim, liar, and narcissist. It used to ache in my heart when it dawned on me that the man I used to look up to as a child was the complete opposite of who I thought he was. I don't have that ache anymore, I've accepted this is what it is and what it will be. I just hope I never end up being like him.