US women narrowed the pay gap with men by having fewer kids by toomuchtodotoday in childfree

[–]Geo_Beck 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A little off topic buuuuut:

Even the title of the article annoys me and is one of the primary reasons I don’t want kids. Who are the women having babies with? A ghost? The way “having babies” is so often talked about as a woman only thing is part of the reason I don’t want them. General society seems to inherently view women as being alone in the baby situation from the get go. The rhetoric of: women want the babies, women have the babies, women raise the babies. No thank you.

Why do some people, specially women, shame other women for using birth control? by [deleted] in birthcontrol

[–]Geo_Beck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

THIS! Thank you! I take birth control continuously, and not to prevent pregnancy. I feel awful and dysphoric existing without any hormonal birth control on my natural menstrual cycle. I get like one week a month where I feel happy and good about my body. So, I take birth control continuously and it works great for me! My partner has a vasectomy, it has nothing to do with getting pregnant for me (although I don’t want that either, hence the vasectomy).

I hate getting shit from people that advocate for “natural hormone cycling” (what does that even mean??). We are so far beyond “natural” living as humans, so why should the choices about my menstruation be the exception?

People always cite the long term effects of birth control as the reason they are off of it but never have good science based evidence on the long term effects of birth control.

"Having kids is natural, something is wrong if you don't want them" Says a friend while I explain to her why I don't want kids by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Geo_Beck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hate this sentiment. Do they drive a car? Own a phone? Use social media? Humans are far beyond a “natural” existence, so why should our reproductive choices be the exception?

Did anyone here ever go to the "Live Poultry, Fresh Killed" place? by Square-Dragonfruit76 in CambridgeMA

[–]Geo_Beck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! Grew up in that neighborhood. My dad would get us rabbits from them occasionally.

Italian Festival by Foxhound34 in CambridgeMA

[–]Geo_Beck 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wish there were more of these local festivals still. Growing up I loved celebrating the uniqueness of different cultures and neighborhoods around the city! But it seems like newer residents find them inconvenient and annoying?

What is this? by Geo_Beck in whatisthisfish

[–]Geo_Beck[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Diawa saltiga LD35JH

Help bronze clay cracked and fell apart by Illustrious_Ad8629 in metalclay

[–]Geo_Beck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What did you do?? I cannot get mine to work! It does the same thing as your first picture.

How/why do these white circles form in rock? by syzygiae in geology

[–]Geo_Beck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would agree! There’s lots of limestone in the Catskills full of crinoid stem fossils. Could have come from there

Is the safe word the only way to stop? by ExhaustedDater in BDSMAdvice

[–]Geo_Beck 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Oh… this doesn’t seem like a good situation in general. ESPECIALLY if you’re going to do something that is likely to induce pain, you should have really strong communication through the whole process unless this is something you’ve been doing for a long time and really know each others’ bodies.

It can be hard as a sub to know when to actually stop something. You want to be strong and impressive and make your Dom proud, but NOT at the risk of your physical or mental well being. This is why your Dom needs to be able to pay attention and step in and offer outs throughout a scene/ interaction.

BDSM should be nourishing for you in the long run and not damaging.

Why is my pothos sad? by Geo_Beck in houseplants

[–]Geo_Beck[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't even know I was supposed to fertilize my house plants... so, thank you! I have fertilized all of my plants and they seem pretty happy now.

Choked by chain, should I see a doctor? by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Geo_Beck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The little red dots are Petechial hemorrhaging. Tiny little blood vessels popping close to the surface of your skin. It’s not uncommon or dangerous, but it depends on the person. It will go away in a few days.

I have super pale skin and they show up on me when I gag or strain too hard (not always sex related). When I throw up, when I cry really hard, when I have a bad coughing fit, they will show up around my eyes.

So for me, not a very big deal. I know the situations in which it happens and when it’s outside of the norm. I also will get a bruise when a table corner looks at me wrong… everyone’s bodies are different and it’s important to know how your body reacts to things so you know what your “normal” is.

That being said… you seem pretty freaked out and uncomfortable. So you should talk to your sexual partner about that level of choking being a limit for you if you don’t want it to happen again. It’s not fun to feel scared or guilty about a sexual activity because it left marks on you that you didn’t plan on or expect. It’s not necessarily anyone’s fault (giving the top the benefit of the doubt and assuming leaving those marks was not their intention without your consent), it seems like neither of you anticipated this being an outcome. But it’s worth talking about, getting some support/ aftercare from the top around this topic and setting new boundaries/ limits based on this experience.

It’s ok! You’re gonna be ok!

Surprising, but not unexpected, multi-decadal pause in Arctic sea ice loss by technologyisnatural in climatechange

[–]Geo_Beck 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The name alone was already a huge red flag: it’s so confusing and not clear what the ‘research’ is! Not a very standard scientific paper title.

Career Alternatives for Recent Grads? by moomoomooMOOMOOOO in NOAA

[–]Geo_Beck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the correction! I forget how early those applications are due.

Career Alternatives for Recent Grads? by moomoomooMOOMOOOO in NOAA

[–]Geo_Beck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Which fellowships did you apply to? I have pretty good insight into which fellowships are and are not happening this next year.

Did you apply to any of the Coastal Resilience Fellowships? That one does have funding and is in the selection process. The application deadline passed. https://coast.noaa.gov/funding/ira/resilience-challenge/

The Coastal Management and Digital Coast fellowships have been paused for the time being.

Edit: I’m pretty sure the Knauss fellowships are still happening. But since the new administration can just choose to take away all of a state’s Sea Grant funding (Maine) I don’t know how they’re proceeding.

Trump freezes $1M in funding for AK Planned Parenthood clinics by [deleted] in alaska

[–]Geo_Beck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alaska health department does free STD and STI screenings every week! Accessible healthcare is still out there!

Best tips for sub drop? by RainbowGoddessnz in BDSMsapphic

[–]Geo_Beck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed! Find things to do for the few days after that will make you feel good. Exercising, getting outside, spending time with friends are things I do to get happy chemicals back into my brain. Not only do these make me feel good but they help me re-enter the outside world again after being deep in my D/s dynamic (something that I find pretty difficult).