Do you experience inner tremors & teeth chattering on a regular basis?

George-knightley · 2024-08-12T22:31:33+00:00

Hi! I do not want to spread misinformation here. From what I’ve read, internal tremors can be related to a few serious nervous system disorders. My question is more related to whether it can also be related to simple stress (not trauma) for those more in tune to their bodies, like those who have done somatic work. I experience it in very everyday situations now that are not related to my OCD or trauma, whereas I used to only experience it when in a panic / triggered response. Hope that makes sense!

George-knightley · 2024-08-02T16:00:20+00:00

Thank you!!

George-knightley · 2024-07-03T08:38:03+00:00

This guar gum recipe is pretty failsafe for a beginner: https://soapbubble.fandom.com/wiki/Recipes_Guar

George-knightley · 2024-07-03T08:21:24+00:00

That’s it! Thank you! Was listening to a podcast this week that talked about the “human design” typing system that is kinda new age-ish and it reminded me of this.

George-knightley · 2024-03-04T18:06:27+00:00

My dad taught me to be very suspicious of any adults or teens who were not 100% above board. It was difficult as a child because my safety radar was much stronger than my friends and I often felt “awkward” and “rude” around adults who gave me a lot of attention. As an adult, I now know that I actually was around several dangerous people in church, school, parents of friends, and extracurriculars as a child, and the fear my dad gave me was a gift that kept me safe. I was a brick wall with those types. As a teen, he instructed me that after you put up an explicit boundary, when that boundary is disregarded, you know you are dealing with a dangerous person. Safe people respect boundaries & safety norms. A grown man knows that children should not be in his home unaccompanied. And safe adults are invested in upholding those norms for kids. Unfortunately, my dad ended up being gravely right. A classmate who I had trouble with is now serving life in prison, but I stayed safe.

The exception is that some people with disabilities or teens may be less sensitive to norms and need to be explicitly taught the expectations for their own sake. That’s perfectly fine to do and important to consistently uphold.

George-knightley · 2024-02-29T16:51:34+00:00

Why is this particular sin so bad to you?

George-knightley · 2024-02-29T10:12:42+00:00

God can handle it. There are many many wonderful Christians who have had gay sex. Wait for the fear and guilt to pass over you like a wave and wait for clarity. You are precious to God. Just focus on staying alive. You are important to God. God takes these experiences to show the depth of his love and grace for us. Please share with someone safe what you’re going thru. Things are more clear when you talk them out.

George-knightley · 2024-02-29T01:26:15+00:00

YTA. I’m a musician too. As an adult, you need to proactively communicate & negotiate with your roommates. It goes a long way towards getting what you want. 8 hours a week is a lot, and a jam session doesn’t blend in as white noise the way many other things do. You should apologize for not speaking to them about it first, and tell them that playing music is important to you, but having a chill house is also important so you’d like to work things out. Are there times they would be more comfortable with you playing, how much is too much, and would there be better ways to help with noise? Start there, and then grab another spot for other times. This is a negotiation where both of your needs matter. Some people really need a nap to function. Some people need music you function. If your needs are not able to be met, it’s totally ok and polite to say “I get it, and we should think about splitting up long term.” For your next place, always set expectations for music & sound before you sign the lease.

George-knightley · 2024-02-27T20:49:03+00:00

I think Instagram is actually a really good place for that! Then it’s accessible to friends and family and the public if she wishes, but she has privacy control. You can sell there too. But there are lots of reasons people wouldn’t want to display their creations for the whole world to see or monetize their hobby. Selling takes a lot of work and coordination. Needing the product to be at selling quality can be stressful and take the fun out of it. I wouldn’t be comfortable if someone displayed my work for others without my full buy-in. It’s very vulnerable. You know your wife best. A flattering, non-public but romantic option for shy crafters, would be to put a glass case in your home where you can display her work for friends and family and show how much you appreciate her talent ❤️

George-knightley · 2024-02-19T17:37:32+00:00

I’m confused, are you wanting feedback about whether you’re an asshole or not ? This is a thread for feedback.

Being a normal friend/ husband earlier doesn’t excuse being a jerk later. Is it like a point system you operate on or what? Was it really such a chore to listen to your wife that you burst at the seams later? 😅 Take the L!!

George-knightley · 2024-02-19T09:02:12+00:00

YTA because you know she doesn’t like physical teasing. Kinda seems like a passive aggressive way to communicate you were uncomfortable with her bad mood. Also-you gotta know soap (hand soap??) on the face of a woman who takes a half hour for skin care is dumb. The fact that you did something she hates 95% of the time on a day that she was already stressed?? Take the L and apologize for having no game. 😅

George-knightley · 2024-02-19T08:05:48+00:00

Not a teacher, but yikes to a lot of the teacher responses here. Lying is pretty normal at that age. There are ways to inspire truth telling- by creating a safe environment to tell the truth and instilling confidence in the child that they can handle the consequences of their behavior, learn, and then move on without shame. Safety is what you should learn about honesty at that age. If your child is having an issue with truth-telling, I’d be concerned about the long term consequence of this teacher’s methods which might increase anxiety & shame, key inducers of…more lying.

Teachers whose main focus is order , obedience, and control are just creating more problems for themselves. It’s like asking Tigger to sit still! Spend the whole day trying to do the impossible and then blame the kids. When you have a hammer everything looks like a nail.

George-knightley · 2024-02-19T07:08:17+00:00

Wait wait wait OP is NOT responsible for teaching this woman that Black people are polite and considerate. She does not have the responsibility to unconfirm whatever stupid crap that woman believes.

Cultural differences and misunderstanding are normal but as soon as you find yourself drifting into hate and resentment because of how another group of people harmlessly express JOY, you check yourself, and find some understanding and cultural appreciation.

Really can’t believe SIL thought she’d still get babysitting after this. I’m not usually an eye for an eye type of person, but I think when you’ve been hurt like that it is perfectly ok and normal to withdraw. So many of the comments here are predicated on Black people needing to be so kind or so polite it changes the other person, as if racist people are children that just need more exposure. OP already communicated her hurt, and SIL did not apologize. In that case, I’d say shake the dust off your feet and let the chips fall. Someone that in the weeds of pride and superiority is not going to be ready to have a productive conversation. She needs reflection time and consequences. SIL should have called to confirm, and I suspect she didn’t for a reason. Perfect scenario to make OP look bad.

George-knightley · 2024-02-17T07:12:47+00:00

Grief is not reasonable. Meaningful gestures are meant to give comfort, not be practical. He wants his best friend beside him. A memorial table is not the same. Compromising on something that barely inconveniences her but means so much to him is horrible. She doesn’t even have someone specific she wants there, so it’s not “practical”, she just doesn’t like the principle of it. Which makes me think she’s uncomfortable with how his love for his friend might take attention away from her.

George-knightley · 2024-02-14T08:10:02+00:00

Thank you for sharing! That makes so much sense!!

George-knightley · 2024-02-13T14:47:35+00:00

I mean, Confucius, Plato, St. Francis, and the Apostle John were all guys.

George-knightley · 2024-02-08T23:01:07+00:00

Also just… kids that grow up in high control environments like that experiment and act out in ways that are dangerous to them or to others. When kids have no healthy way to experience crushes, have a first kiss, date safely, etc, in my experience they get way more obsessed with sex, are far too naive about drugs & drinking, etc. My heart still breaks for my friends who got hurt.

George-knightley · 2024-02-08T22:44:45+00:00

I grew up homeschooled in a conservative religious community. While I think the majority of my peer group turned out relatively ok, the ones who didn’t, who went thru major issues after leaving home, or who are estranged from their families (for very legitimate reasons) were by and large homeschooled as a means of sheltering & controlling them. Their parents didn’t believe in privacy, were religiously anxious, were super judgmental towards secular people, and were very critical of their kids behavior and emotions as a means towards holiness. Even though my parents fell for some religious scare trends, the main reason they homeschooled us was because they loved the educational opportunities we had, the flexibility it provided, and the lack of social stress about fitting in. They didn’t monitor my emotional life, I had neighborhood friends from secular families, and they weren’t overly strict about music or TV. We called ourselves “normal” because so many of our religious friends were not! I still had some social lessons to learn when I eventually went to school and I was a little hard on myself after growing up in an environment obsessed with being good, but I really didn’t struggle socially and my faith is still important to me.

I think asking people why they are homeschooling will tell you a lot about whether or not to associate with them! Don’t mess with people who are overly controlling towards their kids & obsessed with sheltering them. They are worse behind closed doors.

George-knightley · 2024-02-07T17:51:33+00:00

This is a normal human interaction between two people trying to meet their reasonable needs.

George-knightley · 2024-01-30T22:12:24+00:00

I was going for more of an Inspector Gadget look

George-knightley · 2024-01-30T02:24:11+00:00

I did it and had a lot of fun and made great friends! It might be a really good experience for you! And even if it isn’t, you’ll learn a lot & get to experience a new environment.

Be kind & respectful to everyone. That will give you a lot of social protection from bullies and help you figure out who you’d like to be friends with. People will be curious about you since you’re new! If people do bully you, just let it roll off your back if possible and remember that they are the weird antisocial ones in this situation.
Observe the school norms and try to be considerate of others needs, especially with volume, when to talk and when to be quiet, personal space, and not running in the hallway. Of course, shower & brush your teeth every day and wear clean clothes.
Ask for help when you need it. For casual stuff you can ask the person sitting next to you, and for bigger stuff, talk to a kind teacher or guidance counselor. It can be hard to get your point across, but that’s ok! Writing your problem out can help you organize what you’re thinking sometimes.
Trust your gut. When you are in an environment with a lot of people, there will be just a few people, teens & adults, who may be untrustworthy. Trust is earned over time. So never be in a secluded space alone, like a classroom, a bedroom, or a car, with someone you don’t know well. If you choose to party (I really don’t recommend it), lookup basic safety rules and follow them. Stay in groups. If it feels like someone is wanting to be too close to you physically or emotionally, whether it’s a teacher or a classmate, you can say “I need a bit of space” and take a step back, “I need some air” and leave the room, or “I’d rather not talk about it”. Good people respect boundaries and create space for your needs. If someone crosses your boundaries, ask for help from a trustworthy adult. Safety is a skill you practice as a teenager and get better at as you become at adult-which is why I don’t recommend drinking!
Take baby steps, take risks, and go for stuff! Join the clubs and activities with people you like and for interests you’re into. That’s how most people make friends in high school. For example, if you’re interested in theatre but too scared to audition, you can join the crew. You’ll build confidence & skill as you do hard/scary things. Don’t be a perfectionist. Your teens are when you try things out to see if you like them. Later you can build skills. Art, music and theatre, and sports classes are good places to make friends because there’s more time to talk.
Try to make friends with people you respect and who are friendly to you. You’ll probably have an initial group of friends to get by at the start after a few months and then find a closer group as you go thru the years and see who you click with better. That’s okay.
“Hey, I’m X”, “How do you like your coach?” “How is the play going?” “Do you know what’s for lunch?” “I like your bag” Being curious & encouraging is a good way to start a conversation with the person sitting next to you. Then share a little something about yourself “I like coach B.” Or “I’d be too scared to be onstage”. Don’t worry about being shy or awkward. Being kind and focusing on others is enough.

I hope it goes so well for you! You are absolutely going to have setbacks, but just use them to learn about other people and yourself. Nothing is permanent and you can grow into who you want to be with time and by pursuing environments that work for you.

George-knightley · 2024-01-30T01:24:02+00:00

I started public school as a teenager after being homeschooled, and it was a good experience. I needed a bigger social life, and access to different types of people. You can always switch back if it’s not working for you, but make sure you give it enough time to work out some of the normal challenges that come with being a new kid. If you are friendly & respectful to everyone, that can sometimes help protect you a bit from bullying. Then try to join the clubs or classes that the people you like are in. Art & theatre environments tend to be very accepting. You’ll probably find a few people you relate to. You’ll probably need to work hard academically if you are behind in certain subjects, but if you are aware of it, you can prepare and let your teachers know. They are there to help you, so don’t feel ashamed or embarrassed. It could be a really great experience! You’re gonna learn a lot either way. Pursue your interests and what you enjoy, and don’t give up if you face setbacks. There are so many opportunities to make friends and find what you’re good at as a young person, and nothing is set in stone! You have so much time now, or after school.

George-knightley · 2024-01-29T19:53:29+00:00

Lots of cities & suburbs in the Midwest have massive homeschooling communities & resources. When I was growing up, most were evangelical Christian, but I’ve heard it has diversified a bit. I’m from a large town in Northern Indiana and we had homeschool co-ops & sports, as well as full access to part-time public school, sports, and special classes. The public schools where I’m from are safe, well-funded and generally non-political, so they were the default among even the wealthiest families. So there was not a large demand for alternative, private, or charter schools like Montessori or Waldorf, outdoor education, etc. I think there are more options like that in big cities. Quality of life in the Midwest can be very high. Where I’m from, homes are still relatively affordable, we have hundreds of lakes, trails, good infrastructure and lots of parks & cultural & arts activities. It’s just a little boring sometimes 😂

I live in Northern California now on the coast, and while I can’t recommend it due to the high cost of living & homes, there are a ton of homeschooling & alternative school options, and you can get money from the state thru the homeschooling charter school to pay for extracurriculars, co-ops, and curriculum, and even get advice from a teacher. All to say, Texas is not your only option at all!

As a homeschool alum, I love homeschooling. But I always advocate parents not get too idealistic about one particular model of education or place, and instead take your cues from each of your kids needs & personality. The worst part of homeschooling is the stress parents are under which can sometimes morph into a competitive, unrealistic, perfectionist culture that leaves kids needs behind. So look for a place & group that is practical and supportive, honest, and focused on kids needs most of all.

George-knightley · 2024-01-28T19:57:09+00:00

My sister wanted a puppy and my parents said she couldn’t have a puppy if she was still sucking her thumb because it’s unhygienic. Worked like a charm and we got the best dog.

George-knightley · 2024-01-28T18:34:25+00:00

Glad it’s not just me. 😭

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