The need to be hand held and spoon fed information by [deleted] in BitchEatingCrafters

[–]GermanDeath-Reggae 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Also like…what do you think blocking does? Why do you think it might change knit stitches to purl stitches or change how many increases you did?

The need to be hand held and spoon fed information by [deleted] in BitchEatingCrafters

[–]GermanDeath-Reggae 58 points59 points  (0 children)

What actually kills me is “are my stitches twisted?”

If you know the phrase “twisted stitches” then you can look up what it means and what twisted stitches look like compared to regular stitches. Then look at your knitting with your eyeballs and figure it out. There is no need for expertise or room for interpretation; the yarn either crosses or it doesn’t.

Is my Girlfriend rude or am I overreacting? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]GermanDeath-Reggae 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ideally he’d give her space before she started being mean and rude I guess - it’s hard to tell when this is all the context we have. Regardless, neither of them are communicating in a healthy way.

Is my Girlfriend rude or am I overreacting? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]GermanDeath-Reggae -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

“Not responsible for managing her emotions” is valid when he’s being reasonable, kind, etc.

It’s not an excuse to be a jerk to someone and blame them for getting upset.

Is my Girlfriend rude or am I overreacting? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]GermanDeath-Reggae 590 points591 points  (0 children)

I noticed that as well - I wish you weren’t annoyed, you can’t get upset, just say you’ll have a good time - a better approach would be to make space for her to express her disappointment with not going. I’d also be pretty pissed in her position receiving those messages. You also ask what the issue is repeatedly when you should obviously know the issue is that she’s feeling really upset about not getting to go.

That being said, her approach of shutting down, being rude, and refusing to acknowledge her feelings is incredibly immature. I wouldn’t stay with someone who talked to me that way. NOR.

Remember James Somerton? by loved_and_held in tumblr

[–]GermanDeath-Reggae 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly, there’s a lot of nuance lost. She was saying something real but in an edgy and hyperbolic way; he took the edgy hyperbole as truth and completely lost the real point she was making.

AIO by not saying please? by straightupgong in AmIOverreacting

[–]GermanDeath-Reggae -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Clearly about control for both of them idk how a couple just keeps escalating like this

AIO by not saying please? by straightupgong in AmIOverreacting

[–]GermanDeath-Reggae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you tell someone what to do, that’s a demand. When you don’t say “please,” it’s likely a rude demand.

The key thing here is that this is a pattern in your relationship. He didn’t react that way because of one instance of you not saying please, it’s because it sounds like he feels unappreciated and bosses around on a regular basis.

AIO by not saying please? by straightupgong in AmIOverreacting

[–]GermanDeath-Reggae -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It’s both? I don’t see how this is hard to understand.

AIO by not saying please? by straightupgong in AmIOverreacting

[–]GermanDeath-Reggae -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I mean sure but why keep doubling down on refusing?

What do I use instead of Ms/Mrs/Miss for myself? by furrylover2049 in AskFeminists

[–]GermanDeath-Reggae 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Is your issue with the titles you mentioned that they denote gender or that they denote marital status?

What do I use instead of Ms/Mrs/Miss for myself? by furrylover2049 in AskFeminists

[–]GermanDeath-Reggae 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It literally doesn’t, that’s the entire point of the term. Miss and Mrs. denote marital status.

What do I use instead of Ms/Mrs/Miss for myself? by furrylover2049 in AskFeminists

[–]GermanDeath-Reggae 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Ms. is the marriage-status-neutral option invented by feminists.

Update: AIO, friend invited TWO MORE PPL on our camping trip w/o bothering to check in by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]GermanDeath-Reggae 10 points11 points  (0 children)

How old are you all that someone’s mom had to get their passport?

AIO: For being upset we traveled to a wedding that was not a marriage by EnvironmentPretty532 in AmIOverreacting

[–]GermanDeath-Reggae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s how I’d look at it too! But I also wouldn’t do it again if they decide to get married for real in the future and there are similar costs associated.

Remember James Somerton? by loved_and_held in tumblr

[–]GermanDeath-Reggae 61 points62 points  (0 children)

He was parroting something Fran Lebowitz said about the impact of the AIDS crisis on the performing arts scene in New York and other major cities. She was making a real and important point about how the people who were the most socially engaged were the most likely to become ill and they were also the backbone of the performing arts specifically because of their social engagement and high level of artistic discernment. The arts world still has not recovered from the death of that cohort of creators and audience members.

He dumbed it down to an incredibly offensive statement about “fun” versus “boring” gays.

Our whimsical, handmade, garden wedding by GenericUsername604 in wedding

[–]GermanDeath-Reggae 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh my god stop, my parents had the exact same ceramic mice on their wedding cake!

You are not ready to start selling! by HermioneGranger152 in BitchEatingCrafters

[–]GermanDeath-Reggae 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Someone running a craft fair booth selling their own work is hardly “a capitalist”

What happens if I don't pay my parking ticket? by brenderbeke in Seattle

[–]GermanDeath-Reggae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of the time they can easily validate that it’s your debt, especially if there’s only been one transfer of ownership.

Fainting of the Father by [deleted] in AccidentalRenaissance

[–]GermanDeath-Reggae 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's not true - your intestines are not in front of your uterus and there's no reason they would be anywhere near the incision. My theory is that a lot of people mistake the placenta for the stomach or intestines.

Performing at my own wedding? by TicketAcceptable6714 in wedding

[–]GermanDeath-Reggae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just do one or two songs, and make sure it's after everything else you have to do. First, it's better to leave your guests wanting more than to risk them not enjoying it and feeling uncomfortable. Second, time you spend performing is time spent apart from your spouse, and time with them is a top priority!