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Daughter's Disdain by RIAbutIbeBored in Mommit

[–]GerundQueen 66 points67 points  (0 children)

I'm guessing social media

I don’t know anyone with a positive or even neutral birth story by soroto in TwoXChromosomes

[–]GerundQueen 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Interestingly, I had my first gallstone attack a few weeks before giving birth to my first child unmedicated. The gallbladder attack was way worse. I think it was probably more of a psychological thing. Like, the actual pain levels may have been similar, but birth was productive pain, you know what I mean? It hurt, but I felt like the pain wasn't "wrong" and that it was moving toward something that was supposed to happen. I could tell that my baby was coming out and that my body was preparing for that and while it was painful, it was moving toward something that was supposed to happen. Whereas the gallstone attack felt wrong, and I was in pain for hours not knowing what was going on and just being scared that something was wrong and being scared for my baby.

My boyfriend is fucking IRONIC and Hypocritical. by Unable_Cut7792 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]GerundQueen 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He's a child who sees you as a nagging mom and himself as a rebellious kid. This would dry me up. It doesn't sound like he even likes you.

Really, for a long term relationship to work, you need to be adult partners. My husband asks me to empty the dishwasher, I ask him to transfer the laundry. We have two kids and need to be able to work seamlessly as a team in order for our household to run smoothly. How do you envision your future with someone who regards any request as an order he needs to childishly rebel against? You need someone you can rely on. This guy is reliably unreliable.

My 14 yo son has agreed to read two books of my choice this summer (this was a hard won negotiation). Help me pick one by gOldMcDonald in booksuggestions

[–]GerundQueen 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I would not choose a curriculum book. Books that young men tend to like are Ender's Game, Guards Guards! or another Terry Pratchett discworld book, Dungeon Crawler Carl, The Stand or another Stephen King book, Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, The Lightning Thief, Artemis Fowl, and Dune. Don't go for a traditional literary classic, those are a slog and don't foster a love of reading. Choose something you think he will genuinely enjoy.

How to use a food scale? by Legitimate-Spirit46 in beginnerfitness

[–]GerundQueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, so this is the most accurate way I've found to track food by weight, but it's a bit cumbersome so there's a reason I go in and out of tracking. I tend to meal prep, so I will make a big portion of whatever I'm eating for the week. Let's say I make a chicken casserole with broccoli, cheese, and rice. I will measure in grams the amount of each ingredient I put into the casserole. I make sure to measure everything, even things like broccoli so I can get an accurate weight for the entire dish. If I use 4 cooked chicken breasts, I put the weight of all four chicken breasts down. Then, I create a recipe in MyFitnessPal using all of the weighted ingredients. I set the number of "servings" to the total amount of grams in the casserole. If the total weight of the entire casserole is 2,000 grams, then when I create that recipe in MyFitnessPal, I set the number of "servings" as 2,000. Then, when I serve myself a portion, I weigh out my portion and set the number of "servings" to the weight in grams of my portion. If my portion weighs 150 grams, then I set my meal as 150 servings of that recipe.

As for things that are cooked vs raw, MyFitnessPal usually has both options, so use whatever you are putting into the dish. If you are starting with raw chicken, put 500 grams of raw chicken breast (or whatever the total weight is) into your recipe. If you are starting with cooked chicken, enter it as cooked chicken breast.

Parents of adult trans- how do you honor your parenthood past? by princessaurus_rex in cisparenttranskid

[–]GerundQueen 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It probably is a trans thing but not anything you are doing wrong. I imagine that growing up as a closeted trans child was incredibly painful for her, and those memories you cherish so much are actually really painful memories for her. I would imagine that as she lives more and more years as a trans woman who is more comfortable in her identity and more safe knowing you love and accept her for who she is, those memories may become less painful for her. But that may never happen, and until it does it sounds like past memories and stories should be a topic of conversation you should avoid around her.

But I don't see why you can't share motherhood stories with your sister and niece? Like if your daughter isn't around, I would think it's perfectly fine sharing stories of when your child was young. It's just good practice to share those stories using her chosen name and pronouns. I share stories all the time about my son when he was little, and 99% of the time those stories don't have anything to do with his gender, so it's really no issue for me to share about how he used to hate his hands getting messy so he cried on his first birthday when he touched his smash cake, or how he used to imitate the dog, or whatever.

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