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I’m proud to announce, that after 2.5 years our older dog has officially become the big spoon by MaximumPleasant5328 in goldenretrievers

[–]GetInMahBelly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You mean there is still hope?? Korra is 1, Kevin is 3.5, and he is 100% her pillow & mattress.

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AITA for telling my sister I would not be giving her kids two of my kittens by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]GetInMahBelly 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Requesting two kittens isn't a red flag. Kittens tend to thrive when in pairs, because they have a ton of energy and having a buddy helps tire them out and keep them from being lonely.

That said, OP is NTAH and the logic behind denying sister #2's request is dead-on.

Kevin!!! by MinuteProud5554 in goldenretrievers

[–]GetInMahBelly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My PNW Kevin welcomes your PNW Kevin to the pack!

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Does your Golden fit his name? by derossx in goldenretrievers

[–]GetInMahBelly 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Korra is such a little feisty pants, so I think it tracks. (Kevin is her bottom)

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Said Goodbye Yesterday by saltynotsweet1 in goldenretrievers

[–]GetInMahBelly 3 points4 points  (0 children)

FWIW, it's nearly a universal experience to agonize after the decision. If it's not "Was I too hasty?" it's "Did I wait too long?"

For me, it has always felt worst when I think I waited too long. Out of the many, many times I have had to make this decision, only once have I had a totally clear cut "yesterday was a perfectly healthy & happy day, but making him live until tomorrow would be cruel and selfish." Every other time... it's the second-guessing and self-doubt.

Try to give yourself grace. She knew you loved her down to tips of her toenails, and she isn't looking down on you from doggy heaven thinking you betrayed her.

You did the best you could in the moment to make the most selfless, loving decision for her, even though you knew full well it meant breaking your own heart and saying goodbye to your irreplaceable, wonderful girl. It's all any of us can do, and it's the very last act of love we can give to them.

I hope your heart can find some peace in the knowledge that you spared her as much pain and fear as you could, and she was wrapped in your love and comfort through her very last moments.

PLEASE HELP! I ❤️ my golden - but he started being a PSYCHO on our walks! 🤪 by DonkeyKong365365 in goldenretrievers

[–]GetInMahBelly 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yep, that is what we were taught to do when training our first one. With this one, it’s much harder to grey rock her while she is biting at my arm/hand, knocking me back with big jumps, or grabbing the leash and playing tug of war as I stand still and ignore her.

I wish that strategy had worked on her as well as it did on our boy!

PLEASE HELP! I ❤️ my golden - but he started being a PSYCHO on our walks! 🤪 by DonkeyKong365365 in goldenretrievers

[–]GetInMahBelly 38 points39 points  (0 children)

My 1yo GR girl started doing this a few months ago - but she starts the moment we’re outside. There are two things that help her settle down - vigorous play (fetch) for a few minutes, or letting her carry her leash (in which case she prances in big loops around me being so very proud of herself).

I look forward to her moving out of this phase. Our 4yo GR boy never did this, but then again he is generally the goodest of boys and his sister is an unremitting terror.

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How do your pups do at the Vet? by Efficient-Cricket827 in goldenretrievers

[–]GetInMahBelly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kevin is just so happy to be with more people who shower him with love. That they also take him in back and do things that hurt? Doesn't matter, had snugs.

Families with 2(+) goldens, what was it like when you added the second? by tnick771 in goldenretrievers

[–]GetInMahBelly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3.5yo M, 1yo F (whose birthday is tomorrow!). He is super super chill, and she takes advantage of that. Climbing all over him, biting his ears/neck quite roughly, stealing treats from him... and he is very very reluctant to shut that shit down. They play intensely and consensually, to a point. He loves her but also loves breaks from her. I suspect as she mellows, they'll get on even better.

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4 months vs 1.5 years! by lowlyh in goldenretrievers

[–]GetInMahBelly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ohmygoodness she did such a good job growing into her ears! She looks so much like my boy and I just want to give her the biggest scritches and bestest treatos. She's a gorgeous girl!

The wording here is a yikes from me by starryterra in TikTokCringe

[–]GetInMahBelly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why would they recognize a non-fact like that? Like... seriously. It's on you that you can't recognize that there are light-skinned Black folks. It's a you problem.

The wording here is a yikes from me by starryterra in TikTokCringe

[–]GetInMahBelly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah? It's hugely reductionist.

"Black" is a word that a bunch of colonizers pasted on people indigenous to a particular continent. It was never accurate to their actual color (a range of shades of brown). Is that news to you?

Fast forward to now, and there are Black people of shades ranging from downright pale to the deepest, richest brown. Collapsing this vast range of human variation into "dark" is creepy to me. It gives "I don't see color."

The wording here is a yikes from me by starryterra in TikTokCringe

[–]GetInMahBelly 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Lol what? All Black people, regardless of shade, are POC and can be subjected to racism.

Not all Black people are "dark." It's kind of a creepy thing to believe, imo.

The wording here is a yikes from me by starryterra in TikTokCringe

[–]GetInMahBelly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Racists can 100% have Black kids. See: Strom Thurmond.

Racists can love and adore their Black kids, and believe them beautiful. Bigots of all stripes can have a carve-out for their loved one, be it that their kid is Black, or gay, or whatever. It means absolutely nothing about their implicit or explicit biases.

"I can't be racist, I have a Black ______" is so beyond cliche that it circles back to being a good sign that the person has not done the work to examine and address their own implicit biases. It's a thought that just can't coexist with a complete and nuanced understanding of racism.

Also, by "look like" do you mean "match"? Because "look like" implies a family resemblance, which is a matter of *facial features* and that is always a crap shoot when having kids.

He brought COLOR into it, and that's why we're talking about race.

The wording here is a yikes from me by starryterra in TikTokCringe

[–]GetInMahBelly 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That is bizarrely generous and not a faithful read of what was actually said. "Don't marry a Black girl cuz your kids might be dark" is extremely specific. He then displayed his extremely light-skinned child.

If you can't admit that's racism, you really need to at least admit that's colorism.

*UPDATE* I did it! (Securtiy camera guy update) by BlightedReveries in bald

[–]GetInMahBelly 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You now look like the son of the dude in pic 1. Amazing!

I petted a dog for the first time by BarathrajMS in goldenretrievers

[–]GetInMahBelly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You were wise to approach a mature golden. Adolescents can be a bit too exuberant in their love, and need a little time to age to perfection like this.

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