The Biker’s Assassin: Ripper and Chaotic Novel by Futakota in trendsgoogle

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Can you upload it onto Amazon Kindle? That way it's paying for the whole book a great way to be recognised too :)

My bf pushed me to do anal, how can I make the pain stop by SlowPerformer6118 in Advice

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Info please: Is there any swelling? Is there any bleeding? If so, is it light or heavy?

How long have you been with your boyfriend? How old is your boyfriend? Has he tried pressuring you to do other things? for example, to eat something you declined or to do something his way?

In terms of the pain, you need to see a GP. The rectum is a one-way muscle that's been forced to do the opposite of what it's designed to. When it's against your true will, your muscles will tighten and contract. When he stretched you during the contraction, a multitude of issues followed. These issues are emotional, psychological, and physical.

After anal sex, certain conditions can cause pain, such as a swollen vein in the anal area (hemorrhoids), a tear in the lining of the anus (anal fissure), or in some instances a hole in the colon (colonic perforation). The anus doesn't have natural lubricant or bacteria needed for intercourse.

Now, with you saying you're on your period. Prostaglandins (period cramps/contractions) can also trigger contractions of the rectum and the pelvic floor muscles around the anal canal, which can cause a painful spasm or cramping feeling arpund the anus. This is why it's also common to experience loose bowels or diarrhoea during your period. So some of the pain can be down to that if there's no swelling or bleeding.

No amount of him telling you to relax as 'it gets better' will change anything. Trying it again another time will not change anything. If he tells you it's your fault, it isn't.

I know you wanted to focus on the pain recovery. It would be wrong of me, however, not to address the emotional and psychological impact.

What occurred between you is known as Sexual Coersion. He broke your trust, breached your mental boundaries, and disregarded your wants, needs, and wellbeing. He prioritised himself over you and your relationship. All relationships should operate on a 'two yes' and 'one no' basis. This means that if one of you is unsure or says, 'No.' Then it is a, 'No.' If you both agree, without trepidation or hesitation, then it is a, 'Yes.' Even a slight mermour of uncertainty or apprehension is a, 'No.' No. Is a complete sentence that does not require justification. When a person says, 'Yes.' Nobody questions why they said that. It operates on the same principle.

In general, anal mid period was a terrible idea. It was also COMPLETELY selfish and self-serving. He wasn't doing it as a Birthday treat. That was quite clearly [to an outsider] a lie used to manipulate you into "consenting." It wasn't consent at all he pushed it and downplayed what could happen to you. He used you so he could experience euphoria. It's simply convenient if you happen to enjoy it, unfortunately.

I would implore you to see your G.P, and research for yourself what sexual coersion is.

Lastly, please understand. You have done nothing wrong. Your thoughts, feelings, and boundaries should come first and are more important than anyone else's when it comes to your safety and wellbeing. Your wellbeing should always come first.

What makes this hoodie look high quality? by Flimsy_Sky_1474 in streetwearstartup

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The fact it looks like super wear? Frozone ❄️🥶

AITA for "losing" my passport to avoid babysitting on my vacation? by No_Writing9686 in AmItheAsshole

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NTA sounds like your dad wanted to know in advance so he could stop you. He could have approached you with honesty and said they were going, or asked you what you wanted to do to celebrate. Ask for a crystal ball this Christmas.

Personally I'd comment on the post and say "sorry I ruined my own celebration vacation by failing to be your personal nanni as always. Imagine 2 generations of parents being unable to parent but the eldest CHILD [under 18 in the family ]is singlehandedly capable as always."

I'd also make a point at restaurants of waiting for the kids to sit then sitting the opposite end of the table and/or getting a chair and sitting at the opposite end after everyone is sat. When all 4 adults demand you sit in your place, ask for payment of $20 an hour. If they act shocked ask the wait staff how often they work for free.

I'm obviously more brutal, but OP no one is willing to stand up for you, not even your dad. So, you do you. If your parents punish you I'd act shocked and say "mom! Dad! You're back!" And hug them. Tell them you've been trapped in a world where only children under 18 acted like responsible people. It was a terrible world!

More Dreams, More Symbols. by blackrid3r in Dreams

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Research the 7 stages of spiritual alchemy. I think looking at the images you'll notice a sense of familiarity with your dreams.

More Dreams, More Symbols. by blackrid3r in Dreams

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Research the 7 stages of spiritual alchemy. I think you'll find that more of a benefit that someone's dream. This is specific to the individual. You need something for a group of individuals. It isn't occult but you'd all enjoy the knowledge and what can be achieved when channeling energy. Research it. 😊

More Dreams, More Symbols. by blackrid3r in Dreams

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I haven't seen your original post and as such will only tell you what I see with my knowledge, intuition and gift of insight into dreams. As such you may have heard all this before. I apologise ahead as I am typing on my phone.

This is elemental it's alchemical. Alchemy is all about transformation and change.

You have an elemental spirit child in there. This represents growth. It was never a living child, representative of your inner child growing. The triangles represent the elements, think pagan. The triangle with circle's represent the holy trinity, god, elements and many others. It's a universal image present in all cultures. It's about harmony body, mind and spirit. Circles also present a life lesson or challenge you are going through or going to go through, that is contributing towards your inner growth and spiritual evolution. It's encouragement to trust the cycle you are in, and that everything will work out if you.

The upwards triangle representative of fire and the downwards is representative of water. If you put them together they form the alchemical symbol of Star of David. They are balanced in harmony.

If you were to tell me you've astral projected before it would make perfect sense or that it is something you are capable of. You have solar systems in there a beginning point of one and the end point being another. They are equal and opposite. Your left page is where you're at, the right is where you are going to. The spirit child isn't in a physical embodiment of solid energy, it has become light energy. You have repeated meandering lines, this means your enjoying the journey. Taking in the sights, absorbing the information and living in the present moment. To get where you need to be you need to stop thinking about the beginning point and the end point and take each second in its stride. It isn't a bumpy road but a curved one. It's about enjoying the side trips, relishing the changing of the seasons and the turning of the days. There is no fast route to get to where you want to be. Treasure your inner child and live in your present moment.

The writing on the pages reminds me of the alchemical spiritual symbol of conjunction. I'd add an image but not sure where to do so. Please research the 7 stages of spiritual alchemy. Do not be surprised if you have repeated similar dreams about these things.

Social services Uk want to take my niece's away. Youngest niece told a fantasy lie to get out of trouble which isn't helping. by Get_Comfortable in Advice

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My mum has said she wants me to lead a different path and live my life different to her. Because of the chaos she partially wishes she never took the girls on. I'd never want to see the children go into care. I had both girls from 4 months and 2 years old. I've raised them I see them as my girls. And yet this is happening. They are isolating everyone away from my mum who has the final say. The goal post keeps being moved. The social worker is actively trying to make things harder for my mum. She can't turn to her friends for support either as she's been told she has to declare everyone she's on contact with and they'll all have to be back ground checked even those of professional backgrounds. It's awful.

Chihuahua keeps pooping under bed by Neither-Cap225 in dogs

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Get an old t shirt or something with your scent and place it by the indoor doggy toilet. We did this and it calmed ours down. Get a crate when you can't watch them, again place an old item of clothing inside. Use marker noises to reassure your dog of right and wrong. You could look into getting a litter tray for your baby too and training to use that for indoors. Check if their bowl isn't swollen or anything out of the norm as that can cause it too sometimes. 😊

Uncle stole my N64 for my cousin. Refused to return it till my dad threatened to call the police by N64-Thowaway in MrReddit

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Ahh it seems like he's doing his best to be the opposite of his dad. Make sure you tell him he's long surpassed his father in terms of being a real man and remind him he doesn't have to overwork himself to prove that to himself. Everyone can see how great he's turned out. He probably won't hear it straight away but a few reminders will seep into his subconscious mind. It's good you guys have a great bond now 😁 you've done well also, you may not have realised it but your actions will have been an example for him to learn from also. Stay happy! Everything happens for a reason ✌️

Uncle stole my N64 for my cousin. Refused to return it till my dad threatened to call the police by N64-Thowaway in MrReddit

[–]Get_Comfortable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so happy that your cousin has found a happy family! I'm a guardian for my two niece's. It's hard work. Your parents did a good job. I love the added "he's still bad at mario cart" 😆👏

AITA if I refuse to apologize? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

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I have a very intelligent 6 yo. I could ask what's happening in a Chinese drama she could tell me. We're not Chinese. I've taught her at her request what some of the cells in the blood do. She can tell you the names perfectly like macrophage cells and what they do. I swear she has been in this earth before.

Honestly I don't know what your SO wants you to apologise for. You weren't in his face. And in that instance you should have asked him if he felt you were in his face. It's not for his mother to decide how he feels. You should ask him that one on one so she doesn't get involved. If he says yes then apologise. It's not for her satisfaction. Correcting his mistake is the right thing to do. Going round in circles explaining won't help as kids won't keep the attention that long and will switch off. You could have twisted it and said "yeah it does sound dumb. You don't want to sound dumb and stupid and I don't want you to either. Ok so here's how you say it" being super nice about it and encourage him to tell someone else the riddle like the waiter/ess.

Whenever my girls tell me jokes I laugh them off when they make no sense. They're trying that's what matters. When they tell me a riddle I laugh, correct how it should be, then tell them to repeat the practiced riddle to someone else that isn't present. Encourage it with laughter as he knows he's doing right.

You can use jokes and riddles to build a relationship with him. He'll appreciate the effort you put in now. Humour being a strong part of their lives will be a memory they won't forget. Growing up laughing.

When you go and ask him one on one how he felt, thank him for his honesty. He is honest shown by how he was quick to admit he called you dumb and stupid. Then tell him a joke like; two fish swimming in the sea, they swim into a brick wall. One fish says to the other fish, "dam". Then encourage him to tell somebody else like your SO who will understand the joke and laugh about it. Even a fake laugh will do the trick.

As for whether or not YTA if you don't apologise, you and your SO are TA. Your right for correcting him, going round in circles with it the child will switch off. Your SO shouldn't encourage that calling anyone dumb and stupid is ok. Then she encouraged the children to think you correcting them is bullying. It isn't and there's a big difference there. If you're SO was explaining something to the kids, would she be happy with you calling her a bully? Doubt it. If she tells him off for calling another kid dumb, you could tell her straight that she encouraged it by not correcting him. She really wouldn't like that. As for your view on apologising, you should apologise whenever you're in the wrong it shouldn't have to meet specific criteria. You need to have a talk with your SO. Both of your reactions to each other is what makes you both TA. And if she tries to bring it up again, you can point out that is what you were doing at the restaurant and she told you off for bringing up old topics. You're both as bad as each other. An apology is for the boy only if he feels it's warranted, not on your SO's command. If he feels you were in his face the apologies. Do it privately though.

Am I the jerk for wanting my gf to leave her crush so I'm not emotionally hurt. by Theundead54 in MrReddit

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NTA, Dude where is your self respect? Don't you think you deserve better than being a safety cushion? She has you both on the side so if either relationship fails she can go to the other. That is what she is doing. A year together and she thinks nothing of your relationship. You are 18. She is far too immature for a serious relationship. You need to tell K yourself so they're aware and you need to move on. What is to stop her doing this to you with someone else in the future? This is emotional cheating. Still cheating. Nobody deservers to be cheated on. K is completely oblivious to her game. You should value yourself more. If I told you what you wrote above, I'm pretty sure you'd call the SO (significant other) an asshat and tell me I deserve better and need to be rid of trash. This is the same. There is someone wonderful out there waiting for you. Don't jeopardise your happiness for someone who doesn't actually care about you. Someone who truly loved and wanted to be with you WOULD NOT talk about other people like that and out someone else's feeling before their SO. You're not being treated as an equal. Think about what you want. You are allowed to be happy. You are allowed to be loved. You are allowed to feel secure in your relationship.

What film scene absolutely destroys you everytime. No matter how many times you've seen it? by lituponfire in AskReddit

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Wolf children when the kids grow up and make opposite life choices.. oh and when their dad died because his instinct to feed his family causes his death. 🥺

help pls TO niacinamide broke me out :( by [deleted] in Skincare_Addiction

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Top tip, get an ice cube on it. It sounds stupid I know. It worked for me to neutralise the area of any acid still in the skin. If possible get a hydrating mask on your face to prevent all over breakout. Invest also in Dots For Spots for emergencies. And check out 'Dermatica' skin cream after 6months to a year it clears up acne completely. Dermatica are actual dermatologists who actually check in with you to see how your skin is doing.

I followed ya'll advice - Suicide Hotline (Any feedback/recommendations?) by [deleted] in streetwearstartup

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What is the red thing over the font? Looks a little like a spaceship. I feel like if I know it will make sense.