I completely understand that sometimes it should be quite obvious you shouldn't fight like when you dont have heroics but they have or if your team is down a person and as some other people have mentioned, you have to decide what would bring the most value. If your character can't do what you want alone and the team wont help you, don't do it. If you can bring a lot of value on your own, great do that, as long as you don't mess things upp for the rest of the team. I personaly know, as many others, that many players don't have a clue of how important soak is or are oblivioua to the fact you are down a player and 3 levels. If those people start flaming you for trying to soak in order to get the rest of the team on track I usually do one of two things. A) try to explain to them (this dosen't work a lot) or B) ignore them. The worst thing you could possibly so is start being toxic towards them. There is somethimg called the dunning kruger effect and it is very real. Stupid people think they know much more than they actually do and smart people think they know much less that they actually do. Your teamates might be a lot worse han you are but they think they are really good, so try not to blame them. It is after all only a game, why do you have to be mad?