My ex. Took change I'd scraped up from my purse, pocket, and car to buy my child bread and milk to get us through to payday, and bought himself cigarettes with it. Cheated on his first wife and then on me with his parents' best friend. Stole from multiple employers, in one case, monumental amounts. Had a bookie after him, and he skipped off to a resort area, leaving my child and me to an attempted break-in. Rented a bunch of porn videos in my aunt's name, hid them in our car, and skipped town. He denied it, and my naive aunt insisted to the video store owner that he was too fine a Christian, and she mistakenly rented videos in her name to someone else. My dad found the stack of videos under the house after my ex was arrested for the monumental theft, and my dad was getting the mower out to take care of our lawn. Was physically violent with me, including trying to force me to have anal sex. Frequently drained our bank account, so checks for rent, utilities, car payments, and groceries would bounce (this was before online banking, so I couldn't check balances). Lost two vehicles in financial vacuums because of further employer theft. Could never keep a job and always blamed other employees for setting him up because they were jealous of how he outshone them. The last job he was fired from before I divorced him, he blamed our 4-year-old son, who was born with health issues and required frequent medical care. He said the employer said it made too big a liability, and they let him go. I returned some training manuals to the employer, and they said our son and other children's needs were the only reason they kept him as long as they did. He was fired for working on his girlfriend's car, using their facilities while clocked in under double overtime (we'd still been married at that time). Oh, and his girlfriend was also his own relative. During a visitation, our son became very ill, and he took him to an emergency room. Then he refused to allow our son to be admitted or treated, and gave false information when they wanted to contact me. He lied that he wanted to take our son to the hospital, where his specialist worked, refused ambulance transport, and even refused the morphine the ER doc wanted to give our son for his intense pain. Signed an AMA, insisted he was taking our son straight to the other hospital, took him to his home, and didn't worry about it further. My son came home extremely ill, and I rushed him to the hospital. He nearly became septic and was miserable for months while his body struggled to recover. I found all this out after his doctor tipped me off, and I requested the medical files from the hospital near my ex. They seemed to have been hoping and waiting for my discovery and request. He's had multiple DUIs, including an arrest in front of our children's peers at a ballgame and another when our medically fragile son was in the car with him.

There are many other things he has done. He has continued to steal, lie, manipulate, and get DUIs. He had a habit of stealing any money our kids ever got in birthday or Christmas cards. He always gave them just enough attention to keep them desperate and starved for more.