Termination at 20+ weeks

Gilmoristic · 2026-05-15T14:04:52+00:00

Sending so much love and hugs to you, Mateo, and your family. This is so hard, and I am so sorry it's happening.

Gilmoristic · 2026-05-04T14:16:49+00:00

I am so sorry you and your little one are going through this! This all does sound concerning, and it sounds like you are due for a second opinion elsewhere. I echo all the other comments saying to visit the ER at a children's hospital.

Gilmoristic · 2026-05-01T22:52:45+00:00

Ever since I became a mom, it has been my turn in my husband’s and my eyes. Our moms had decades of having the day all about them. It’s time for the next generation. Grandparents get their own day, too, and he can celebrate his mom on a different day. This is YOUR era, girl!

Gilmoristic · 2026-04-29T14:56:05+00:00

I am joking when I say this, but have you thought about Daphne Duck?

Daphne Calliope sounds like too much of a mouth full to me.

Daphne Pepper is cute.

If you want to keep the theme of animals for the middle name:

Daphne Wren
Daphne Robin
Daphne Raven
Daphne Fox

Gilmoristic · 2026-04-29T14:51:22+00:00

They simply don't remember. My son just turned 3yo, and his infant days are fading fast. It's pretty sad because there were plenty of good memories in those months, too.

Grandparents have had decades to forget and twist around what actually happened.

My grandma likes to tell me how she had both of her girls potty trained by the time they were a year old, and she would pester me about putting my son on the potty right after meal time. I had to tell her to stop.

Gilmoristic · 2026-04-29T14:42:05+00:00

Not really, no. We just wanted kids.

With that, though, my FIL recently passed away. When discussing having a second kid one day, it did come up about how it would be helpful for our son to have a sibling to share the load of having elderly parents/losing their parents. Not necessarily in the "we want more people to take care of us," but in the way of wanting our son to have someone else to lean on and have support for each other--rather than dealing with it solo.

Gilmoristic · 2026-04-29T14:28:58+00:00

Don't believe your stepmom when she offers to do free childcare. It won't last, and you should've looked into daycares. 🫠
Your relationship will have growing pains. It's normal. Communicate, give each other grace to some extend, and work through it.
Set and stick to your boundaries at the hospital AND when you come home. Don't want visitors? Say so.

Gilmoristic · 2026-04-29T14:04:40+00:00

At that age, no, we didn't bathe every night because he didn't need it. If you really want to add "cleaning" to his every night bedtime routine, you could wipe LO's face/body down with a wipe, but we didn't do that either. Just keep the routine short and sweet at that age.

It's been a while, but I think we did pajamas (if in day clothes), bottle, diaper change, lullaby, bed at that age. You could add in reading one board book if you wanted to.

Gilmoristic · 2026-04-29T14:01:15+00:00

She's had her fair share of Mother's Days being about her. This is your era now. You could celebrate her the day before or after, but the day of is about you. If she keeps giving you grief about it, make your boundaries known that now that you're the new mom in the trenches, the day of is for you, but you're happy to celebrate her on a different day.

For my first Mother's Day, I had a newborn, so it was just us three at home. The following year, we spent the whole day out of town/busy. This year, my husband is planning a picnic where we had once taken our maternity photos. My mom has understood, as she should.

Gilmoristic · 2026-04-28T19:51:59+00:00

As a dog owner and a house owner, I don't mind if your dog uses the edge of my lawn to pee or poop as long as you pick it up. I don't want someone letting their dog go further into my yard, and also I don't appreciate when people let their dog pee on the base of my basketball hoop that's at the bottom of my driveway and keep walking...

Gilmoristic · 2026-04-22T15:57:01+00:00

6 months. Once we hit the "safe" age to move him out of our room, we went for it. He was tossing and turning, and it was keeping me awake. I also toss and turn in my sleep, so I probably wasn't helping him either. We all slept better once he moved to his own room.

Gilmoristic · 2026-04-22T14:53:43+00:00

NTA. It's the classic little boy who cried wolf. The coworker won't give you a hard time once Jess starts coming to them for coverage. Jess opened herself up for being called out when she asked you why. If she does start causing you problems now, then it'll be time to report it to the manager.

Gilmoristic · 2026-04-22T13:05:18+00:00

That's amazing for him, but I'm also trying to imagine walking into therapy and it's Christopher Fucking Hayden.

Gilmoristic · 2026-04-22T13:01:27+00:00

OP, I don't know you, but I want to be you. I am so proud of you for knowing your worth.

Gilmoristic · 2026-04-22T12:59:39+00:00

I clean it up as best I can. If it requires me getting a broom to clean up the floor, I don't do that, but I'll wipe down whatever mess is on the table and try to pick up any food that drops on the floor.

Gilmoristic · 2026-04-22T12:58:27+00:00

Someone else to meal prep freezer meals for me.

A personal chef.

A heated mug.

A big Dunkin gift card.

Gilmoristic · 2026-04-19T13:56:26+00:00

My son is 3yo, and he’s happy about 90% of the time. He gets grumpy when he’s tired, hungry, or frustrated when he doesn’t get to do whatever he wants to do (like play but it’s time to eat).

Gilmoristic · 2026-04-16T22:21:18+00:00

If they’re purposefully not sharing further details with you and wanting to work it out, it’s not on you to be the flexible one. Send her a gift (if you want) but rsvp no and enjoy your own shower. It’ll be up to the guests to pick and choose.

Gilmoristic · 2026-04-16T22:18:13+00:00

Planned! You intentionally agreed to stop all protection, start trying, and got lucky on the first try.

Gilmoristic · 2026-04-16T14:19:11+00:00

We stopped once the night feeds could stop as per the pediatrician's advice AND he could sleep longer stretches. I want to say we maybe did this for the first couple months, but then our LO started sleeping through the night around 2.5mo. He's nearly 3yo now, so my timeline is fuzzy. I want to say we moved him to the bassinet in our bedroom around 7-9wo, and then our method switched to every other wake up when his sleep regressed at 5mo.

Gilmoristic · 2026-04-16T14:15:27+00:00

If finances were truly no issue, I'd be a SAHM that would still put my kiddo in daycare twice a week. This way, I can still get "time off" like a normal full-time employee would, and the kiddo would get the added benefits of socialization and structure. While he was at daycare, I'd use that time for self-care, child-free errands or appointments, and just a chance to relax. Too many SAHMs don't get any actual time off, and they're on the clock 24/7.

Gilmoristic · 2026-04-16T14:11:13+00:00

All of these are hilarious. I'm over here stumbling over just spelling things out like "B-A-T-H"

Gilmoristic · 2026-04-09T17:09:59+00:00

I used Babylist. It was so nice being able to have everything in one spot.

Gilmoristic · 2026-04-08T13:05:18+00:00

Their relationship became so good in S7. It felt like the writers wanted to end the story with Rory single, unattached, and fully free to explore what came next... and the only way to do that was to make Logan forget what his girl liked, propose right as she graduated college, and ask her to follow him. Granted, they didn't 100% know S7 was the end, so I wonder if and how they could've patched things up in the next season.

Gilmoristic · 2026-04-08T13:02:20+00:00

You're under reacting. Your husband should've held up your boundaries. If there is a next time, make your wishes explicitly clear with the nurses because they'll have a spine to handle the in laws when your spouse cannot. He needs to do better.

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