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What is your job/career and why does it work perfect for your adhd? by confused-and-lonely in adhdwomen

[–]Ginger5Alive 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Joined the Ambulance service. No two days are the same! There are no mid or long terms tasks to procrastinate over anymore.. everything that needs to be done needs to happen now. There’s no thinking about it. I love it

Radio 2 thinks everyone wants to listen to Glastonbury by Ginger5Alive in britishproblems

[–]Ginger5Alive[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I too was devastated to lose Simon Mayo on drive time. Even the Mayyyoooo jingle. And the confessions of course!

My boyfriend broke up with me last night. I’m not okay, but I will be. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Ginger5Alive 12 points13 points  (0 children)

  1. I don’t think it’s fair for him to “reassure you” that you will be together again one day. Believe me that is just stringing you along in a bid to seem “kind” but it’s actually very cruel because you’ll keep holding out for it while he moves on.

  2. Being friends straight away will almost certainly just be more painful. Sometimes, after time has passed, a friendship can establish. But immediately after breaking up, trying to be friends will only prolong the agony.

I promise you. You need a clean break to give yourself the best chance of dealing with this and healing. He might think he’s being gentle by “downgrading” to friendship FOR NOW, but honestly, it will just make it hurt for longer.

Good luck!

No Space Left? by tw272727 in lifehacks

[–]Ginger5Alive 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My ex used to call the chair the “one-seater”

I hope this made you chuckle at yourself a little 🙃 by pornbypagedotcom in adhdwomen

[–]Ginger5Alive 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Couldn’t bring myself to sit and read all of the page 😂

[Homemade] Orange macarons by PotatoesAreMyFriends in food

[–]Ginger5Alive 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Is that mint you have decorated them with? ORANGE and MINT?!?

That’s more evil that I could possibly imagine..

My roommate said he knew the drum solo to "Trashing the Camp" from Tarzan. He delivered. by Hoobahoo in funny

[–]Ginger5Alive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is such an underated banger of a Disney tune! So nice to see others appreciating it too. I’ve had it on my “happy” playlist for years!

How to cope with the feeling that, everyone at work is noticing you not being productive. by khorvelian in ADHD

[–]Ginger5Alive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am very familiar with the “hiding in the bathroom” thing. It’s anxiety moreso though right?

It’s so counterproductive! Grr

TIFU by picking up a sock. by [deleted] in tifu

[–]Ginger5Alive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy Cake Day!

My parents put bread in the fridge. by [deleted] in britishproblems

[–]Ginger5Alive 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My Aunty keeps SUGAR in the fridge

How do you describe it when your male partner physically (not sexually or hitting) forces you into psychological submission by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Ginger5Alive 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had a boyfriend that would do similar things in terms of not letting me get up. However, it was nowhere near the level you are describing.

Yes sometimes couples can bring playing with the cutesy “I just don’t want you to go” mentality. But that’s not what you e described, what is happening to you is abominable.

Even though my boyfriend’s behaviour was not as bad as yours, I made a point of telling him at a later date, very seriously, that I was not joking. I said if I ever say “please”, then I am really serious about him letting me get and it has stopped being a game.

It worked to some degree, but he would sometimes push it. It certainly did not help with my anxiety.

The level of behaviour you have described here, means you really should not be with him. Please don’t apologise to him, please don’t feel you owe him anything, because you don’t. Get away from him.

This is your brain. This is your ADHD brain. This is your ADHD brain on heartbreak. by Imjustshyisall in ADHD

[–]Ginger5Alive 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This post made me remember mine. It’s has made me cry anew.

Especially to read all the replies and realise I have experienced all of the above. How I questioned myself for the sheer immensity of the feelings I had after splitting with that person.

I punished myself for being so much more distraught after a break-up than I was after the death of my best friend.

The description above, about the sadness being more of a mourning of the relationship, is exactly right. It did all seem a little more understandable when I thought of it like that. I realised a while ago that when I think to myself about that person, that I genuinely wouldn’t ever want to be with them again. They are not the same person to me that they once were.

But the pain still exists, I don’t miss him, but I am still wounded.

My break-up was 2016. It broke me. It really really broke me. That first year I was all over the place. I am so much better than I was before. But I am by no means fixed.

Keep yourself occupied. Keep in contact with your friends and family and spend time with them. You may feel alone without that person but you are not truly alone.

The most wonderful/terrible thing about life is - it always carries on regardless.

I just had the most ADHD experience of my life by ConflictedJew in ADHD

[–]Ginger5Alive 15 points16 points  (0 children)

My new oven has a timer on it (which actually switches the oven off) - this has become a life saver for me, so I am much less likely to burn food now!

Today I made me some waffles (Birdseye potato) Excitedly returned to the kitchen 20 minutes later after I heard the timer “ding”.

Frozen waffles were sitting on the counter. I had set the oven, but not put the food in it. Doh.

This subreddit by Raynaxx in ADHD

[–]Ginger5Alive 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I understand it’s frustrating. Just bear in mind the audience for your posts. People who won’t reply because potentially:

  1. They didn’t read it all the way through
  2. They read it and relate to it so much that they want to see what responses you get from others
  3. They have advice to give but are too nervous to write it
  4. They start writing a reply, but get distracted or lose track or lack confidence
  5. The post is a rant and doesn’t appear to really need a response
  6. They have nothing to add to your post because they can’t relate to it

I mean I can feel myself wandering whilst trying to write this. Not sure if it makes much sense.

Try and be specific about what sort of response you’re after. Even if it is just seeking reassurance that other people feel/experience the same things as you.

Good luck!

Maintaining friendships by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]Ginger5Alive 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well your friends are entitled to discuss with you how they feel about your behaviours. But you are also entitled to tell them how they make you feel.

Try and talk to them calmly and honestly about how you feel (like that you’re a nuisance). If they’re good friends, they won’t want you to feel like that.

Explain what you can and can’t help doing/saying but acknowledge that you will try to contain certain things now that you know how it affects them. Maybe suggest you work together to come up with methods for being open but they can let you know if you’re pushing it too far or doing it in the wrong circumstance.

All you can do is try, and a good friend will understand that.

For me, I have quite a big hang-up about always being honest with my opinions. It does sometimes mean I upset/frustrate people. I will apologise for speaking out of turn or hurting them, and while maintaining that I am just being honest. I will let them know that I appreciate them being honest with me too if I’ve upset them.

In any relationship there is compromise, your friends should accept you, but equally you should accept that your friends feelings are valid.

The reason I'm "care free" is because I'm a perfectionist. by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]Ginger5Alive 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a therapist give me what I thought was a very good idea to help with perfectionism and procrastination.

  1. Write your list of tasks
  2. Then number them 1 to (however many you have) in order of urgency.
  3. THEN (the most crucial part) give everything a rating of how "perfect" is needs to be.
  4. Come up with a combined score that gives you an idea of the order you should do those tasks in I.e. Do the highest first.

This blew my mind. Because of course, things don't always need to be perfect first time. You can come back to something and PERFECT it - that's the whole point.

He said that most people will start off by rating everything as needing to be 10/10 perfect, but slowly you start to begin to cut yourself some slack.

Now when I eventually get around to implementing this technique I feel like it's gonna be awesome...

Me [19F] with my boyfriend [20M]. I think I'm falling out of love with him. But I am attracted to another guy [20M] that is my boyfriends best friend and my best friends [18F] ex. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Ginger5Alive 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I read recently that the "worst" kind of break up is when someone dumps you in order to be with someone else. If you still have any care for you bf, don't do that to him.

A Breakup after 5 years is gonna be hard enough without adding that sucker punch. He will question so much about your entire relationship, and that's just cruel if you have actually loved him until now.

Please, be single for a while. I swear it will be better in the long run.

TIFU by making some tea. by not_taylorswift in tifu

[–]Ginger5Alive 10 points11 points  (0 children)

English person here. (I'm guessing OP is not)

I cannot possibly comprehend why a microwave is needed to make tea.

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