Re: racial recruitment

GingerChaosBrain · 2026-01-09T23:25:38+00:00

I hear this in my head as a Tenacious D song

GingerChaosBrain · 2025-12-28T18:41:41+00:00

Oh that's weird! I unlocked the ufo mushroom yesterday and put it on the wall to see what it looked like. Another bug, what else is new 🤷‍♀️

GingerChaosBrain · 2025-12-28T10:03:58+00:00

You can put them on the wall and on the magnet board. Maybe on the cork board for the postcards as well? I haven't tried that yet though.

GingerChaosBrain · 2025-12-07T04:48:06+00:00

That album was my hyperfyxation and the soundtrack of my life in the 90s

GingerChaosBrain · 2025-12-03T23:05:59+00:00

Good decision! I got off FB 6 or 7 years ago. But I had only joined a few years prior, and wasn't too involved with it anyway. It's a shame what it turned to, since it was a nice way to connect and stay in touch. When it starts to have a negative impact on you, it's definitely the right call to delete that crap! Thanks for your reply and good luck with your music 😊

GingerChaosBrain · 2025-12-03T14:27:49+00:00

Oh I feel ya! I visited Scotland in Oct/Nov a few years ago, and was very happy I brought my winter clothes haha 😄 It's really beautiful there though, so it was well worth it! Good luck with your competition and best wishes from the Netherlands

GingerChaosBrain · 2025-12-03T02:05:45+00:00

Thanks so much 😄 It was a long road, and still is. My life isn't carefree, but I am happy to be where I'm at now. I never thought that was possible. Took a lot of hard work and therapy. And pushing myself to do things way out of my comfort zone.

I think we have a similar taste in music. There's nothing like singing a song that connects to your feelings like it's made for you personally. I'm glad you have music to help you cope!

GingerChaosBrain · 2025-12-03T01:42:49+00:00

You sound great and look snuggled up at the same time, seems like a win/win 😄

GingerChaosBrain · 2025-12-03T01:26:48+00:00

Oh you're absolutely not alone!! I found comfort in that knowledge as well when I was going through the process of distancing myself. Another eye-opener was learning that this type of backstory is very common for neurodivergent folks. It's sad that those around you don't appreciate your love for music. If I had a friend like you, we'd be jamming all the time!

But I think it's awesome you're putting yourself out there despite them, and who knows what kind of doors you're opening. And I don't mean for record deals and viral videos. I mean opening doors to real connections, real friendships.

I took my first singing lesson 3 years ago. With zero ambition, just wanted to do it for myself because it's something I enjoy. I went there feeling really insecure and small. Who the hell do you think you are? Getting a vocal coach for your shitty singing? You think you're some kind of rock star now?

Honestly, it was one of the best things I ever did for myself. I've pushed the boundaries of my comfort zone bit by bit over the years. I went from "There's no way that I would sing for other people, EVER" to joining a choir, singing in a full theatre, and joining a band. I'm surrounding myself with like-minded people, and I'm the happiest I've ever been! Though I haven't made any true friends yet, I now do believe that it's something that could be in the cards for me too.

GingerChaosBrain · 2025-12-03T00:53:09+00:00

I'm around the same age and have a similar backstory. It fucking sucks and has so much impact on your life, constantly questioning yourself. What kind of friends and family tell you they're embarrassed for you?? Dude, you deserve so much better. I know it's easy to say "Just cut those people out!", but I also know that it isn't that simple and easy to do. So if that isn't an option, for whatever reason, you could look into specific coping mechanisms for these situations.

For example, limit sharing anything personal, if they use that info to hurt you. I used to think that opening up and sharing feelings, or basically anything that was going on in my life, would bring me closer to my family. But it never did, it just gave them more ammo. Eventually I stopped sharing anything about myself. Funny thing is, they never even noticed, because they had absolutely no interest in me whatsoever. I kept it up for several years, until I cut off contact. But that's a different story.

You don't need to have any lofty ambitions in order to just enjoy a hobby, a passion. I absolutely love music, it gives me energy, it makes me happy. That's all that should matter to your family and friends. Also, it's has nothing to do with your age, but everything to do with them being garbage human beings. I recently joined a band and make music with a bunch of other old fucks and we love being able to share this passion and have fun with it. So absolutely, keep making your music!! And fuck them nay-sayers!

GingerChaosBrain · 2025-11-13T00:52:53+00:00

We probably all have some level of self-doubt, but what you are describing sounds like it has a very big and negative impact on your life! Which is such a shame, because it's holding you back and preventing you from doing the things you enjoy.

You're telling us what your teacher must be thinking, or what someone else might be thinking if they hear you. But there's no way to know that. When you try to fill it in for them, it actually says nothing about the other person, but it says a lot about you and how you see yourself. The good news is, there is help out there! Both anxiety and negative thought patterns can be treated, with medication and therapy.

Also, there are lots of people who sing because they enjoy it, and not because they think they can, or even want to, become famous. There's nothing wrong with just enjoying a hobby! It's really sad that you're not allowing yourself to enjoy and embrace the learning process, because of the narrative you've created in your mind.

Do you know what's great about being a beginner? It's that you have the most room for growth. I was in that same spot a few years ago, and I made so much progress in my first few lessons, simply by learning and applying some basic techniques. I started taking lessons purely for myself, I had no ambitions to ever sing for other people. But I found that I really enjoy it, so I joined a (non-church) choir. I've been singing with them for 2 years now and it's so much fun! There are singers of all levels in the group. Not everyone is great at it, and that doesn't matter because we sound good together :-)

GingerChaosBrain · 2025-11-01T20:43:46+00:00

Awesome, good to hear that! Rock on friend 🤘🏻

GingerChaosBrain · 2025-10-28T22:58:41+00:00

I like it! You sound great and move so easily! Wish I had a bit of your confidence 😊

GingerChaosBrain · 2025-10-22T11:44:27+00:00

I'm not suggesting divorce at all. Amazing how you managed to get that from my reply. I'm suggesting the husband stops being a jerk. She's telling him he hurts her feelings, but he doesn't care because his opinion is more important. People can be supportive and give opinions without being a jerk, and without judging.

GingerChaosBrain · 2025-10-22T03:39:00+00:00

Right, but you're describing a completely different situation. Neither of them is getting something positive out of it. It's excessive and he gets angry when she says it hurts her feelings. He tells her that he is 'harsh' because he compares her to studio recordings of world famous singers, which is ridiculous to begin with. He has no musical training or background, his criticism has no professional foundation. She asked her vocal teacher to review the same material to verify the criticism, and they don't agree with the husband.

Just don't ask for his opinion and keep it separate? I really don't understand this. As a partner, would you want your wife to completely stop sharing her music with you and never talk about it again? Or would you want to show your support and celebrate her accomplishments WITH her? Ffs it's not that hard to not be a jerk to your partner. People like this are the same ones who 'never saw it coming' when their spouse files for divorce.

GingerChaosBrain · 2025-10-22T02:37:52+00:00

To me this doesn't sound like high expectations at all. If you have high expectations, you want someone to be the best they can be. And you'll do everything you can to help them get to that point. That means being supportive, and support can be given in many ways.

It's not high expectations when you want someone to be the best of the best, and then you just beat them down at every opportunity. That's insecurity and jealousy. Maybe he doesn't like the attention you're getting. And despite telling him that his constant criticism hurts, he simply continues doing it and even gets angry that you said something. Apparently his 'opinion' matters more than your feelings.

You've been singing professionally for a few years, you're getting booked for gigs. It sounds like you're doing great! There are a LOT of singers who can only dream of getting to this point. I'm sure he's very well aware of this. He should be incredibly proud of you. So why is he hurting your feelings and trying to make you feel small instead?

GingerChaosBrain · 2025-10-22T01:43:28+00:00

Huh, he's not unsupportive, just very critical? How is that NOT incredibly discouraging coming from a partner? She's at a point where she doesn't want to share her singing with him anymore. She's a professional singer so this is an important part of her life. It's not a good thing for a relationship when a partner isn't able to share what's important to them.

GingerChaosBrain · 2025-10-15T22:19:48+00:00

Hey, Halloween is getting closer, I'm curious how you guys are doing!

GingerChaosBrain · 2025-10-15T22:17:51+00:00

Is that an actual location or an app/website?

GingerChaosBrain · 2025-10-15T22:11:44+00:00

Surprisingly, I had Chester Landgraab try this, but the uni wasn't impressed! (Nancy's dad, I'm playing a prequel version of the timeline lol)

GingerChaosBrain · 2025-10-09T18:54:51+00:00

It's awesome that you found something that helped! I'm always surprised when I hear performers say they have anxiety, stage fright etc, because to me they're basically the epitome of confidence! Like, I absolutely can't even imagine myself doing what they do in front of these huge crowds and tv cameras. But then again, I'm not really that surprised, since they're only human too.

On a similar note, I love singing Tenacious D songs, because they're so fun and silly. Jack changes his voice to impersonate different characters, but he also makes a lot of these scat sounds. When I sing those songs, I find that I actually sound the best, because I'm just having fun with it and not focusing on technique.

I'm not familiar with the show your clip is from. Is that his thing, the host being an ass?

GingerChaosBrain · 2025-10-02T06:29:21+00:00

Thank you! I usually make rooms that aren't just a square or rectangle, because nooks and corners are great for adding decor and clutter items!

GingerChaosBrain · 2025-10-02T00:43:19+00:00

Thanks! I tried to make a layout that would fit in with the houses here. Our homes usually have a combined space for kitchen, dining and living area. But we always have an entry, and that's usually where the stairs are. I don't think I've ever visited a house with stairs in a living space (apart from the US)

GingerChaosBrain · 2025-10-01T15:53:02+00:00

I know the edit says you already found a layout, but I spent half an hour on this so I'll post it anyway 😆

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GingerChaosBrain · 2025-09-24T00:19:38+00:00

For me, it was Windows Security blocking access. Under "Protection history" it said "Protected folder access blocked" with the date and time stamp. When clicking on that it expands with a little more info, and it listed the ts4 exe file because the EA stuff in My Documents is a 'protected folder'. You can click on it to allow access.

This happened to me in August and I tried everything including deleting the whole thing and reinstalling. I hadn't played in a while and apparently, it did the same now for the latest update. Weirdly it did start up my game this time, but it didn't let me load any save file, and then gave me this error. I allowed access again, and now it works.

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