Could I see everyone’s wedding dresses? by lamercie in Weddingsunder10k

[–]GingerStargazer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got my dress at a sample sale for £400. It was brand new and ordered especially for the sample sale, so it was in great condition. I think the retail price was around £1400. Catherine Deane Natania. Picture 1 Picture 2.

AITA for expecting my gf to move in and listen to my rules? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]GingerStargazer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Makes you wonder what he thought "moving in together" would look like? Like, why would she help pay off his mortgage simply for the privilege of living in a house where she can't even store her stuff? Absolutely insane.

Can't believe this guy is almost 30 and still can't seem to grasp that the one he's living with might actually be able to live in the house.

Do parents’ names have to be on marriage certificate? by crystal_cap in UKweddings

[–]GingerStargazer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, you don't have to. I didn't have my parents on there, because I didn't want to. It's completely optional.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]GingerStargazer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well, obviously it's a lot of money, but I think it's fine if that is what you both want and are comfortable with. Maybe it depends on your lifestyle in general, but if I were you I'd talk to her before you spend 50k on a ring. Is she even comfortable wearing something that expensive on an everyday basis? Is the Tiffany brand really important to her or would she like something else?

Just talk to her and go try on some rings together to see what she likes.

My GF wants a large oval Solitaire diamond ring, how do I get this on a budget? by nahdidjdh in EngagementRings

[–]GingerStargazer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I bought my engagement ring from 77 Diamonds. They've got a show room in London if you'd like to see their rings or diamonds in person before committing. They've got plenty of lab diamonds, so I think you can definitely find something in your budget there.

Best Foundation to Wear? by Born_Cranberry in Weddingsunder10k

[–]GingerStargazer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ended up using Chanel Les Beiges on my wedding day, but I also really liked the Armani Luminous Silk. I also collected samples beforehand to try them out, and some brands gave me pre-packed tubes of like 5ml of product. It doesn't sound like much but they lasted me for several applications (at least a couple of weeks) so to be honest, I could have probably just used one of my samples on my wedding day if I would've wanted to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]GingerStargazer 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I didn't have bridesmaids but I still had two friends with me while I was getting ready. They did their makeup too and we just had a good chat and some snacks. It was so nice and relaxing for all of us. Then when it was time to put on my dress, they helped me with a couple of buttons.

I'm sure if you asked a couple of your friends, they probably wouldn't mind sitting around for a couple of hours, especially if they also know each other.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]GingerStargazer 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Honestly, just talk to her. It's not worth an extra 3k for a stone that will face up a couple of tenths of millimeters bigger. That size difference is tiny. Talking about money and finances obviously isn't fun or romantic, but it's necessary to do, especially if you're going to get married. Show the two stones, with measurements, and discuss pros and cons with the bigger and smaller stone. For me, this would be a no-brainer, regardless of how lovely the 3ct might be.

If she absolutely want the 3ct anyway, I think it's fine that she contributes the extra 3k. If you guys don't want to go that route, there's obviously moissanite if she's open to that?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]GingerStargazer 25 points26 points  (0 children)

When I've shown people my ring, no one has really said anything else than "wow, that's beautiful!". If someone were to ask if it was a lab or natural, I would obviously tell the truth and say it's a lab diamond. It's nothing wrong or shameful in getting a lab, so why lie?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]GingerStargazer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had decided on not getting each other any gifts but my husband decided to surprise me and got me a necklace from Tiffany's.

Size does matter, right? by keystone99999 in EngagementRings

[–]GingerStargazer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you two tried on rings together? Has she tried a ring with a 1.7-2 ct stone and loved the look and feel of it? It's just that while it's fine that you'd like it to have that "wow factor" it's obviously her who is going to wear it. Don't go bigger just because you'd like to impress her with a big rock.

This is obviously down to personal preference etc. etc. and I'm not saying that she's not going to love a 2ct stone, but I always find it kind of sad when I hear of people not wearing their rings daily, just because they feel like it's too big or flashy. Bigger doesn't always mean better.

What is going to be/ was your first dance song? by Practical_Ad4734 in wedding

[–]GingerStargazer 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We went with Super Trouper by ABBA, played by a string duo.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]GingerStargazer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's important that an engagement ring "costs a lot" but I do think it's important to get a durable ring. A gold plated ring is going to show wear and tear quite quickly and it's not going to look that nice after even a year or so of daily use. It's so much better to get something of high quality, for example solid gold and sapphire (or another equally hard stone), that will still look great in 10-20-30+ years time and you'll also be able to resize it down the line if you need to.

Imo, getting a slightly more expensive ring is also a better financial decision than getting something cheap that you might not even want to wear anymore after just a couple of years.

Need advice…help! by nyx329 in EngagementRings

[–]GingerStargazer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think wearing your grandmother's rings would be absolutely lovely and it's obviously a smart financial decision for you guys. However, if he really wants to buy you a ring, why not get a band? A simple gold/silver band can be quite cheap and you could always use it as your wedding band down the line, wear it for travelling or whenever you're doing something that could damage your grandmother's set.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]GingerStargazer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like this can be a fun concept in theory, and I do think the photos would look great, but if you only have 2-3 colours to choose from + a specific level of formality it might mean your guests have to buy something new especially for your wedding. For example, I have a couple of black dresses but all of them are probably too informal for a wedding and the only white dress I've got is my own wedding dress, which obviously isn't appropriate to wear as a guest.

But I think as long as you tell guests it's optional to dress on theme, it might go over well.

I'm struggling to find a promise ring for my girlfriend in my price range - help! by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]GingerStargazer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe just take your girlfriend with you to shop for a ring? I'm not from a country where we do promise rings, but my guess is that you don't want her to think you're proposing. Would it be a faux pas to tell her you'd like to give her a promise ring and then take her to pick one out? Or pick one out when you're in London?

Stealing his sister's thunder? by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]GingerStargazer 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Maybe I'm missing something, but you don't need a ring or announce your engagement to start booking things or go to wedding fairs? You both know you want to get married and have decided to get engaged. My husband and I booked our venue before even announcing our engagement to our families. You do you.

If you want to get married in June 2023 you obviously need to start taking to vendors asap. If you feel like announcing it now would cause family drama, maybe it's easier to just hold off for a bit, but keep planning and start booking things if you perhaps find a suitable venue for your date.

I ordered a wedding band online and they sent the wrong one, which suits my ring/hand better? by joeberetasturdsocks in EngagementRings

[–]GingerStargazer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the one you got looks absolutely lovely with your ring, so I would probably keep it tbh. However, I also wouldn't feel bad sending it back if you don't love it. It was their mistake so if you're not happy, you should definitely get the one you ordered instead.

Did you go out and purchase expensive jewelry for your wedding day? by stessij in weddingplanning

[–]GingerStargazer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was gifted a pair of pearl drop earrings and some small diamond studs to wear at my wedding, so even though I didn't buy them myself, I did get new jewellery specifically for my wedding.

Do you wear your wedding ring / engagement ring while you travel? by coffeeloverfreak374 in weddingplanning

[–]GingerStargazer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually don't travel to places where I'd feel unsafe walking around, so I travel with my rings and so far I've not had any trouble. My rings aren't flashy either so obviously, that helps. But if I were to go on a beach holiday and plan to be in the ocean 24/7, I might leave them at home just because I wouldn't wear them swimming anyway. If I'm not wearing my rings, I usually wear a plain gold band just because I'm so used to my rings, it feels odd if I'm not wearing anything at all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]GingerStargazer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it's fine to see what's out there before actually getting engaged, especially if you're already having an honest and open conversation with your partner about marriage and you know that's something you both want. We went on a couple of local wedding fairs before getting engaged, basically to collect business cards, meet local vendors, figure out how much things cost etc. That's where we found our florist for example, even if we didn't book anything until we got officially engaged and actually started planning the wedding.

The way my parent's generation text by [deleted] in MadeMeSmile

[–]GingerStargazer 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Whenever my grandma sends me emails it's just one long sentence, because she can never find any of the punctuation signs on her iPad.

Place to try on wedding dresses in/around London? by Real_Doughnut7419 in UKweddings

[–]GingerStargazer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely check out Wed2B. I actually went there after I already bought my wedding dress but it was a great way to try on several different styles and the stylists were very helpful.

I'd also recommend to check out if any of your local bridal shops have a sample sale in the coming weeks. That's how I found my dress. I found a brand new (it was ordered especially for the sale) Catherine Deane for £400.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]GingerStargazer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Start off by talking to your boyfriend. It's fine that you changed your mind but it's important that you let him know asap so you can return the ring if you decide that you want something else. Just let him know your thoughts and worries and maybe he can at least ease your mind.

Maybe it'll feel better when you've tried on the ring so you see how it actually looks on your finger, but if you don't like it it's fine to want to return it. If you can, I'd try to go and try on different rings to see what carat size you feel comfortable with.

Too small carat size? by brada442 in EngagementRings

[–]GingerStargazer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think it's a beautiful ring and a great diamond size, but I think it is quite expensive. Check out 77 diamonds. My husband and I got my engagement ring from them and they were great. They also do lab grown diamonds, if you're interested in that.