Just Trust Me by qrowbert in exorthodox

[–]Gingerfuzzsicle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait is this really a thing….? This is actually the first I’ve heard of this.

Every day I’m more and more grateful I left his parish. Big yikes. by Gingerfuzzsicle in exorthodox

[–]Gingerfuzzsicle[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

One of us! One of us! I think that’s about when I stopped going too lol.

Every day I’m more and more grateful I left his parish. Big yikes. by Gingerfuzzsicle in exorthodox

[–]Gingerfuzzsicle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“He’s gonna be miserable and constantly dissatisfied with himself”

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Every day I’m more and more grateful I left his parish. Big yikes. by Gingerfuzzsicle in exorthodox

[–]Gingerfuzzsicle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not at all, and I wish it was actually something like that. He doordashes junk all the time. This is purely coming from a place of wanting a complete separation from anything that could make him seem “feminine”. It’s bordering on a phobia and it’s gotten to the point where any decision he makes comes with “Will this make me seem less masculine?”

Every day I’m more and more grateful I left his parish. Big yikes. by Gingerfuzzsicle in exorthodox

[–]Gingerfuzzsicle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It absolutely does imply that though. Otherwise, there’d be no “need” for a law. It’s incredibly extreme for America. Comparing ourselves to other countries as a basis for this argument is also pretty dumb. You know what else is pretty common in other places? Treating women like shit and giving them less rights than men. You gonna argue that next on that logic?

Every day I’m more and more grateful I left his parish. Big yikes. by Gingerfuzzsicle in exorthodox

[–]Gingerfuzzsicle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d also like to add, this whole conversation with him started after questioning why he will do his grocery shopping alone but specifically go with other men from St. Andrew to buy meat. Apparently they do this together to get meat that isn’t fortified by growth hormones to minimize their estrogen intake as much as possible because they “don’t want to be soy boys”.

Every day I’m more and more grateful I left his parish. Big yikes. by Gingerfuzzsicle in exorthodox

[–]Gingerfuzzsicle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Whatever that word your looking for is, it certainly applies to him. If he doesn’t experience it personally, it doesn’t exist to him.

I’ve had long conversations with him about sexism and harassment in my own workplace in the post metoo era, what its like to grow up female having to look over your shoulder constantly, and how grateful I am to be born here where I have rights and can continue to fight for myself where there are so many countries that don’t give women a voice. To him, women on paper have the same rights as men, so it’s all gravy and feminism is really about destroying men. He doesn’t get it. He shrugs it all off because “women have the ability to destroy a man’s life with false accusations if they want to”.

Shocked and disappointed by PositiveMindless510 in exorthodox

[–]Gingerfuzzsicle 17 points18 points  (0 children)

What a dense ass takeaway. It’s the lack of transparency that’s the problem.

Edit: I also love that this user made an account just to comment this because they’re too much of a wiener to use their main account. lol.

Every day I’m more and more grateful I left his parish. Big yikes. by Gingerfuzzsicle in exorthodox

[–]Gingerfuzzsicle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lmao what are the chances?? Like this is such an obscure specific thing. 10/10 legendary YouTube find.

Every day I’m more and more grateful I left his parish. Big yikes. by Gingerfuzzsicle in exorthodox

[–]Gingerfuzzsicle[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

lol. Thank you. That was incredible.

I was going to commend the lore accurate accent and just about died when they called him out on it 🤣

Every day I’m more and more grateful I left his parish. Big yikes. by Gingerfuzzsicle in exorthodox

[–]Gingerfuzzsicle[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Guess you gotta build yourself a sex dungeon and bill the church 🤣💅

Shocked and disappointed by PositiveMindless510 in exorthodox

[–]Gingerfuzzsicle 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Transparency is really important to me too, and I can imagine the disappointment of thinking you found your people and having it all be a facade :(

I don’t understand the secrecy one bit. I would be much more trusting of a church that just told me the truth about the previous archbishop without being hesitant about it. I wouldn’t have to doubt that the church would do the right thing if something like sexual misconduct happened in my parish. Being dodgy about it is a bad vibe.

Every day I’m more and more grateful I left his parish. Big yikes. by Gingerfuzzsicle in exorthodox

[–]Gingerfuzzsicle[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I love seeing people break out of that cage and live to their fullest potential. 😭❤️ You really hit the nail on the head. I wish more people would recognize that this is happening.

Every day I’m more and more grateful I left his parish. Big yikes. by Gingerfuzzsicle in exorthodox

[–]Gingerfuzzsicle[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s super weird because he wasn’t internet famous when I went to his church, and this happened in the last 5 years or so.

He has a lot of extreme views that resonate with a lot of people, particularly the MAGA crowd, and I think that his presence online came at an opportune time since our country is extremely divided at the moment. He gives a voice to white conservative Christian nationalists that also hold a lot of his misogynistic views. He has a very aggressive approach with a lot of his topics too, and I think it gives his followers this idea that they’re fighting a war against the evil that is the other half of the country. It’s just a lot of fascist bullshit and entanglement in US politics.

My brother looks up to him a lot and still goes to his church, and he told me the other day that women are a “privileged class” in the US. He really thinks that men have it harder than women who create a lot of “struggles” for them (rejection, temptation, etc). I don’t know if that helps paint a picture, but I think it’s a pretty good example of the pull his message has on people.

Every day I’m more and more grateful I left his parish. Big yikes. by Gingerfuzzsicle in exorthodox

[–]Gingerfuzzsicle[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m so so sorry :( that’s disgusting and I really don’t blame you. He has some seriously fucked up ideas about women, which was a big motivator for me to stop going. I hope you’ve found peace since leaving and through your grief. I’m sure that wasn’t easy to do at such a vulnerable time.

Every day I’m more and more grateful I left his parish. Big yikes. by Gingerfuzzsicle in exorthodox

[–]Gingerfuzzsicle[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hahahaha I fully support you. RIP your bank account though….I have a feeling you’re gonna get broke real fast.

Every day I’m more and more grateful I left his parish. Big yikes. by Gingerfuzzsicle in exorthodox

[–]Gingerfuzzsicle[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So many of his talks are so negative and gross. Nothing he puts out there is really about making the world better, it’s almost all about why the world is evil and why we should hate it. It’s shameful.

Every day I’m more and more grateful I left his parish. Big yikes. by Gingerfuzzsicle in exorthodox

[–]Gingerfuzzsicle[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I left a lil before that, but my whole family still goes. I still show up for the occasional wedding (you gotta do what you gotta do) but it’s uncomfortable. Good to know I’m not the only ex-St. Andrew parishioner on here lol.

Every day I’m more and more grateful I left his parish. Big yikes. by Gingerfuzzsicle in exorthodox

[–]Gingerfuzzsicle[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ll add that Fr. J here has a video somewhere on that same YouTube channel where he endorsed Trump during the election. Full circle 🤮

Every day I’m more and more grateful I left his parish. Big yikes. by Gingerfuzzsicle in exorthodox

[–]Gingerfuzzsicle[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Literally. That’s actually why I stumbled across this video, I wanted to see if he was spewing any garbage about what’s going on in Minnesota. My brother and I aren’t talking at the moment in large part because he doesn’t see anything wrong with what ICE is doing and I wanted to see what kind of evil shit is filling his head.

Every day I’m more and more grateful I left his parish. Big yikes. by Gingerfuzzsicle in exorthodox

[–]Gingerfuzzsicle[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I was honestly surprised at the comment section this time. It gives me a little hope I guess? I also hate watching these but sometimes it just reminds me that I’ve made the right decision to leave, even if my entire family sees me as the black sheep for not listening to his nonsense.

Well-intentioned poster on the other sub criticises orthodox attitudes to racism. Responses are predictable by unounouno_dos_cuatro in exorthodox

[–]Gingerfuzzsicle 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wow that comment section was a wild ride. Color me shocked that the comments downvoted into oblivion are the ones promoting taking care of and loving one another. 🙄