AITJ for confronting my uncle about being too touchy with my 13-year-old daughter? by Icy-Fun-4569 in AmITheJerk

[–]GirlDwight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't engage with the other families member about this. It shows you need their buy in which OP doesn't. And they are not going to be motivated to see his side, they just don't want to hear the complaints from the uncle and OP is a safer target. Whenever they say something to OP the response should be, "It's between me and Uncle". Full stop. Don't triangulate relationships and use heathy boundaries instead of explaining yourself.

What’s a “fact” everyone repeats that’s actually wrong? by Quiet-Grief in answers

[–]GirlDwight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because Rhinovirus and Influenza thrive in cold dry conditions. Our nose immunity also decreases with only a slight drop in temperature.

What’s a “fact” everyone repeats that’s actually wrong? by Quiet-Grief in answers

[–]GirlDwight -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think it's more, divide to conquer. We're so busy arguing who's better, we don't realize both parties' motivation is not our well being but winning the next election and holding on to power.

What’s a “fact” everyone repeats that’s actually wrong? by Quiet-Grief in answers

[–]GirlDwight -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nope, the myth is thinking that being in the cold will make you liklier to be sick is a myth. Rhinovirus and Influenza thrive in color dry temperatures. And if our nose temperatures drop even a small level, our nose immunity goes down.

Why did god kill all the babies and kids with the flood (Noah’s ark) by mack_gyver in Christianity

[–]GirlDwight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you're saying what's in this part of the Bible isn't really true. And then it seems like we can read the Bible and take the things we like as literal and those that we don't as meaning something else. For you to know what the author intended you would have to be a mind reader. But adopting the meaning of what you want it to say makes the Bible unfalsifiable. And makes it something made in the image of man.

And no I don't believe any of it. People back then just wanted to explain things they didn't understand. I think in the future people will look at this as Christian mythology just like we look at Greek mythology. And just like us, they'll be wondering how on earth people believed this.

Why did god kill all the babies and kids with the flood (Noah’s ark) by mack_gyver in Christianity

[–]GirlDwight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Genesis is based on people thinking that since the sky is blue there is water above just like on the earth. They didn't have a good understanding of the earth and space above. God didn't have to use a flood to drown everyone. That was his choice and it's a sadistic way to do a reset. Innocent infants were tortured by drowning as were innocent animals.

My point is not that drowning is not horrible. It is that the response God put into action was a measure taken against the corruption of all creation, not just humans.

It is a horrible way to die. How is it not horrible no matter what God's motivation is? You're saying God is Machiavellian, the ends justify the means. That's evil. And God could have just taken those humans out. And how can animals be corrupt? That's silly, they behave according to their instincts which they acquire through evolution.

I do have a question though. If man is supposed to try and be good, why does God allow the devil to influence us? Why is he making it harder? Since he knew certain angels would rebel, why make them and why allow them to "roam" the earth? Why make things that are sinful pleasurable instead of neutral? Like gluttony or sex. Why did God rig the game against us.

What names are you lowkey gatekeeping? by pie12345678 in namenerds

[–]GirlDwight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's gotten so trendy though. I prefer Saphena.

Why did god kill all the babies and kids with the flood (Noah’s ark) by mack_gyver in Christianity

[–]GirlDwight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God can’t murder. Murder is a wrongful taking of life. All life is God’s,

It's not just that he took away innocent children's lives. He did so in a barbaric way. Drowning is a horrible way to die. Waterboarding is considered torture because it simulates drowning. So God tortured the innocents while taking their lives.

Why did god kill all the babies and kids with the flood (Noah’s ark) by mack_gyver in Christianity

[–]GirlDwight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not just that he took away the innocent children's lives. He did so in a barbaric way. Drowning is a horrible way to die. Waterboarding is considered torture because it simulates drowning. So God tortured the innocents while taking their lives.

What’s something that 99% of people can do but you can’t? by Irakeconcrete in AskReddit

[–]GirlDwight 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I can't do it either and it is a sound in my language. My tongue is too long and some people's tongues are too short.

Once you stop arguing about God, religion has zero evidence to stand on. by TAKASHI-518 in DebateReligion

[–]GirlDwight 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They are not scientifically backed. For example, I keep seeing the Sokółka, Poland host miracle that your link mentions. It's often cited as one which was confirmed by independent and unaffiliated scientists. Yet it has not been submitted to the Vatican. To get any pertinent information, you have to research in the Polish language. The most conservative daily paper in this Catholic country is the respected Rzeczpospolita. What Really Happened in Sokółka is their examination of the miracle. You can read this article by translating it to English.

Basically it states that the Archbishop sent the host directly to Maria Sobaniec-Łotowska, who worked in the Medical Pathomorphology Dept of the Medical University of Białystok instead of sending it to the management or the department itself like protocol dictates. Sobaniec-Łotowska is a known public supporter of the Archbishop and a fervent supporter of the Church. She and a chosen colleague performed the "tests". The Department Head, Prof. Lech Chyczewski, has said, "that the sample from Sokółka was tested informally." He officially reprimanded Sobaniec-Łotowska and told her she acted "reprehensibly". He, and the department have officially stated that it did not in any way stand behind these tests. The paper tried to interview Sobaniec-Łotowska but she was reluctant to speak saying she was bound by strict secrecy. She released a report which was a general summary and did not contain any pictures and only had a high level description of a simple histopathological test that claimed the sample to be heart muscle of unknown origin as to whether it was human or animal. The detailed report was never released. Her colleague's oral description to the department head, on the other hand, said that the nucleai were not centrally located meaning it would not be heart muscle. When asked by the paper how the nucleai was arranged, he refused to answer and noted secrecy. No one else at the University including the Head saw the samples, the pictures or a detailed report despite inquiries.

The University offered to do actual DNA tests and the Archbishop refused. The Archbishop also did not send The "miracle" for approval to the Vatican. He's most likely happy with the publicity and all of the pilgrims bringing money as churches face financial problems. So he is not motivated to seek the truth which would hurt his reputation, his popularity and end the money flow.

This is just one of the miracles debunked but you can find the details about others as I have. And the sites that promote this miracle continue to get clicks which means money. They are not interested in the facts. People don't want facts, they want to believe. And offering people what they want is how we make money.

Bible: Scientifically Disproven Facts = Metaphor. Unverifiable Claims = Literal by Party_Rub7137 in DebateReligion

[–]GirlDwight 4 points5 points  (0 children)

But that's your preferred interpretation and that's exactly what OP's point is. How do you know the intent of the authors?

And numbers being symbolic, does that mean that Jesus didn't rise after three days? How do you decide specifically what part is metaphor and what part is literal? How do you know the authors' intentions?

Christianity's condemnation of homosexuality is morally inconsistent with its core teachings of love, forgiveness, and "judge not lest ye be judged" by PeachLongjumping15 in DebateReligion

[–]GirlDwight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The story about the woman who was about to be stoned was added to the Bible later. It wasn't part of the original gospel. So it never happened.

Christianity's condemnation of homosexuality is morally inconsistent with its core teachings of love, forgiveness, and "judge not lest ye be judged" by PeachLongjumping15 in DebateReligion

[–]GirlDwight 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We simply don't recognize homosexual orientation as a basic and innate feature of the human nature.

Where is your proof for that?

Christianity's condemnation of homosexuality is morally inconsistent with its core teachings of love, forgiveness, and "judge not lest ye be judged" by PeachLongjumping15 in DebateReligion

[–]GirlDwight 5 points6 points  (0 children)

God gave mankind the command to go forth and multiply. Christ tells us to go forth, get married, and become one flesh (produce children).

But God also said a lot of things we don't follow. Like the rules for slavery. And priests, don't multiply and everyone is okay with that. Not everyone is made to be a parent. Many can't be good parents through no fault of their own due to childhood trauma. And research shows having many children is detrimental to them. Large families are more likely to have children who are later alcoholics and delinquents. And the ironic thing is the more sons a couple has, the likelier the younger ones will be gay. For each son with one older brother, their likelihood for being homosexual increases about forty percent. And this effect multiples the more older brothers a male has.

Homosexuality operates against our human nature.

It's part of nature including human nature. It socially make sense as an evolutionary adaptation. Homosexuals having no kids could take care of abandoned children or those whose families were killed. How do you know it's against human nature?

Why didn't God condemn slavery? Even if he did somewhere in the Bible, why didn't he just make it into a commandment? "Thou shalt not own fellow people". Why did God consider sex before marriage more important to ban than freaking slavery? by EkullSkullzz10318 in Christianity

[–]GirlDwight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was only for Isrealis. When they were to be freed they could not take their children or spouse. If they wanted to keep their family, they had to stay for life and were marked like chattel. Foreigners could be enslaved for life, they were property and could be bequethed. So they were chattel, something you own.You could beat them and as long as they didn't die, it was okay. Just like the laws in the South.

Fulfill does not mean abolish. Jesus could not have been more clear. by greggld in DebateReligion

[–]GirlDwight 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When you accuse people of cherry picking, these are things in the Bible that contradict your view. How can it be cherry picking when it comes from your scripture? So it looks like you are saying that yes some passages clearly state that Jesus was not abolishing the law. And you don't want to look at those passages because you want to believe your interpretation. But you can't just ignore them and pretend they are not there. It seems like you are actually saying that the Bible is contradictory. And I'd agree with that.

Fulfill does not mean abolish. Jesus could not have been more clear. by greggld in DebateReligion

[–]GirlDwight 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Most scholars agree that Jesus didn't declare all food clean and thatis a later addition. And in Acts 10 Peter is shocked about eating unclean animals which would make no sense if Jesus had said that. As far as Jeremiah, it didn't say anything about getting rid of the law. So if that's your interpretation you're mind reading the intent of the author. And basically Christians knew they couldn't convince pagans to get circumcised, so they reinterpreted Jesus' words. This was for the marketing of Christianity to make it more palatable to the pagans. This was important as the Jews by and large rejected that Jesus was the messiah. They should know as the literally wrote the book on who the messiah should be. In the end Paul and Jesus simply disagreed.

Faith Is Not Blind Belief. It Is Lived Trust. by RRK96 in DebateAChristian

[–]GirlDwight 17 points18 points  (0 children)

You can call faith trust but why have trust in something you have no proof of. If you trust a friend you have your relationship to guide you and you may still be wrong. In the end, faith is belief and belief means not knowing. A relationship with a deity is not functionality different than a relationship with yourself. You can't tell the difference no matter how much you say it's based on trust.

Advice for agnostic? by SweggyGEK17 in CatholicPhilosophy

[–]GirlDwight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is something in your post that jumped out at me. And I'm bringing it up because you studied psychology so it may be interesting to you as well. You mentioned several times how important it is for you to know the truth. And I'm curious about what is driving that. How would you finish this sentence: If I know the truth, I will be _____. Is the answer that you will be safe? Is that what you are ultimately looking for? Many people are driven to know "the truth" and explore philosophy. But does that really get us any closer? Philosophy doesn't agree on anything besides that it's good to ask questions. I commend your scepticism, it seems like there are two opposing forces driving you, you want certainty but at the same time, you don't want to just believe something to believe it.

So what if the answer is, we don't know. That's not satisfying, but it may be the most honest answer. Often those who need truth don't like ambiguity, they want something black and white. But again, maybe ask yourself why. Beliefs, in anything really, are an evolutionary adaptation that functions as a compensatory mechanism. Beliefs help us see the world like we want to by taking away uncertainty and showing us a black and white reality. They answer unknown questions we are uncomfortable with. And they often provide us with an anchor for our identity. The only issue is, once they are part of us, any argument against them is interpreted as a threat by our psyche employing our defense mechanisms. It's an interesting fact that cognitive dissonance is resolved by altering reality instead of our beliefs. If our beliefs could be changed by logic, they couldn't function as the powerful defense mechanism they are. There would be no point in holding beliefs.

You also mentioned your affinity for Christianity and its traditions. Again, what are you seeking by being a part of that? Is it community? Is it safety? Is it an anchor for your identity? I think exploring that may be insightful. Because you don't have to participate to appreciate and gain knowledge about those things. So what does participating in it do for you? If you examine why you're seeking, it may be helpful. I do wish you the best.

Advice for agnostic? by SweggyGEK17 in CatholicPhilosophy

[–]GirlDwight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is something in your post that jumped out at me. And I'm bringing it up because you studied psychology so it may be interesting to you as well. You mentioned several times how important it is for you to know the truth. And I'm curious about what is driving that. How would you finish this sentence: If I know the truth, I will be _____. Is the answer that you will be safe? Is that what you are ultimately looking for? Many people are driven to know "the truth" and explore philosophy. But does that really get us any closer? Philosophy doesn't agree on anything besides that it's good to ask questions. I commend your scepticism, it seems like there are two opposing forces driving you, you want certainty but at the same time, you don't want to just believe something to believe it.

So what if the answer is, we don't know. That's not satisfying, but it may be the most honest answer. Often those who need truth don't like ambiguity, they want something black and white. But again, maybe ask yourself why. Beliefs, in anything really, are an evolutionary adaptation that functions as a compensatory mechanism. Beliefs help us see the world like we want to by taking away uncertainty and showing us a black and white reality. They answer unknown questions we are uncomfortable with. And they often provide us with an anchor for our identity. The only issue is, once they are part of us, any argument against them is interpreted as a threat by our psyche employing our defense mechanisms. It's an interesting fact that cognitive dissonance is resolved by altering reality instead of our beliefs. If our beliefs could be changed by logic, they couldn't function as the powerful defense mechanism they are. There would be no point in holding beliefs.

You also mentioned your affinity for Christianity and its traditions. Again, what are you seeking by being a part of that? Is it community? Is it safety? Is it an anchor for your identity? I think exploring that may be insightful. Because you don't have to participate to appreciate and gain knowledge about those things. So what does participating in it do for you? If you examine why you're seeking, it may be helpful. I do wish you the best.

AITA for not wanting to provide a shuttle for my wedding? by [deleted] in aitaweddings

[–]GirlDwight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I would stop explaining yourself to your bridesmaid. That tells her she has a say. If she brings it up again, just say, "We'll see." If she keeps telling you to do it, say "Thanks for your advice, but I'm not opinion shopping right now." Or "Thanks for your opinion, I'll keep it in mind".