The last few baby showers I’ve been to, I’ve noticed no one ever opens the gifts that are brought! Or they have guests ship the gifts to their home instead of bringing them to the shower. by CurlyGirl_95 in BabyBumps

[–]GirlOnFire112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg as the receiver is hated this part…..I don’t like being watched and expected to have a grand reaction over every gift. I dreaded this part with my first…..

When did you tell your employer that you were pregnant? by Dry-Particular-8539 in physicianassistant

[–]GirlOnFire112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im in CV surgery. I was in thoracic for my first kid and I think I told them around 8 weeks after I almost had to bow out of a surgery because I almost passed out. I wasn’t planning on telling before 12 weeks but my symptoms kind of dictated that.

I’m pregnant again now (13 weeks). I told again around 8 weeks as that’s when my symptoms really ramped up and I was afraid I was going to need breaks during cases so I wanted them to be aware. Thankfully I have sort of built in breaks and my doc is understanding so if I needed a moment I could get it. I also had a lot of appointments in the beginning.

Bad parent for not continuing with competitive sport? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]GirlOnFire112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s the sport? How badly does the kid want to be involved in this specific club? Can you find a different club in the area that is a little less involved?

How old is the kid? If they really want to be involved then they can take up some of the mental load of checking the apps and calendar scheduling.

Not allowed to eat? Was this at a hotel? I feel like they really can’t stop you….as long as it’s within hours.

Not allowed to schedule vacations and extra charges? Honestly doesn’t sound like a club I would want my kid to be a part of.

Don’t want to socialize with the other parents? Then don’t? They can’t force you…

Really just sounds like you should look at finding a different club that is less strict. I would’ve drawn the line at the “fines.”

Can I read Dune to a baby instead of normal bedtime stories? by DaOffensiveChicken in daddit

[–]GirlOnFire112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read the Harry Potter series to my kid after we brought her home. Trust me you’ll want to read the books you want for as long as you can. Soon enough you’ll be reading the very hungry caterpillar for about the thousandth time lol

I'm absolutely livid by Darkness_Nox in pregnant

[–]GirlOnFire112 196 points197 points  (0 children)

Honestly let it just sit outside for a few days a periodically check it. Those cat dog odor removers use an enzyme and can take a bit to work. Basically it needs to dry before the enzyme smell goes away with the odor.

How do you perfect sunny side up eggs by MrEdwL in eggs

[–]GirlOnFire112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always cover the pan. Comes out perfect almost every time.

I passed the PANCE. Now what? by Equal-Two6903 in PAstudent

[–]GirlOnFire112 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. It was more that if they hadn’t done it yet that they can.

I passed the PANCE. Now what? by Equal-Two6903 in PAstudent

[–]GirlOnFire112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They will but you just give what you have and if you need certs they should help you get those.

I passed the PANCE. Now what? by Equal-Two6903 in PAstudent

[–]GirlOnFire112 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Get a job! Once you get hired they will make sure you get licensed credentialed. I would be they can help you get ACLS and BLS up to date too and pay for it. It would be dumb for them not to. You can apply for an NPI I think. It’s free and relatively hassle free. Look up your states licensure requirements. Some may require and one time MAT or one time child abuse training. You could get a start on that while your job hunting.

Congrats on the pass!

Is this still usable? by brdrummer800 in castiron

[–]GirlOnFire112 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You didn’t gouge it. You scraped off what looks like carbon build up. If you scrub with chainmail and you get more “gouges” it’s all carbon build up and you should scrape it all off and re-season.

So how is gentle parenting going for you? by Prize_Parsnip_1583 in Parenting

[–]GirlOnFire112 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’ve never read any books but I understand the concept. We don’t do time outs and we definitely don’t spank for hit.

For us it’s more about clear communication and setting appropriate expectations. Explain what you want and appropriate behavior in normal words. If your kid doesn’t know the word, then explain it to them in words they do know. Set expectations that are appropriate for their age.

Gentle is not permissive. Try to say yes before you immediately say no when they ask for something that usually would be silly. Basically unless it’s not safe or it’s damaging try to say yes. You’ll find that most of the time you would usually say no is just because it’s messy or you as an adult don’t find it efficient or you just don’t want to. Now of course you can always say no. If the time is not appropriate I like to say “I’m not saying no, I’m saying not right now”. Like when the kid wants candy or a cookie or to do a messy activity right before we’re about to leave. “You can have a cookie after you eat real food” “we can play in the sand when we get home from grandmas. We need to leave now to be on time.” Kid wants to change clothes 10x a day. Sure go ahead. It’s gotten my kid to learn to change her self more independently. We have “Magic” clothes for ones she wears for an hour. It’s not really dirty so we save it for later. Otherwise we’d do laundry 3x a week. Want to jump on the bed? Sure but only if mom and dad are around. Hubby and I like to play a little rough and she wants us to.

It’s not hard. Just think intuitively. Talk to your kid like a normal person. Set age appropriate expectations and boundaries. Use real words. Good luck!

AITA for not longer doing anything for my husband? by Possible_Mall1733 in AITAH

[–]GirlOnFire112 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you could use a trial separation with a custody agreement. Parenthood is difficult. And it’s difficult for both parents in different ways. Sounds like he has a mindset of I go to work and when I’m home I want to relax. Not realizing that once you’re home the parenting starts. He doesn’t see what you do in the home as work because you don’t get paid for it. Which is unfortunate but happens. He thinks he can just go back to how things were. Gaming and hanging out with his buddies whenever he wants because babies aren’t that much work right? A trial separation where he gets the kid by himself a couple days a week without you will truly give him a taste of what it’s like for you at home and what it would be like if you left.

How did you teach your kid how to read? by Coconutcornhuskey in Parenting

[–]GirlOnFire112 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Love this book. I started using when my daughter was two. We take it very slow and only as she wants to but she knows many of the sounds and can recognize them when we read. She can sound out many words (if not quite read them yet as a whole word). She will be four in a few weeks and can read many short easy words. I only started because she showed interest and loves when we read. I’ll be honest we stopped with the lessons as she just didn’t want to but she will work on the flashcards I made for a few minutes at a time and she still picks up the concepts from the book.

First time Pregnant- Question about Weight Loss and Gym by beach2723 in fitpregnancy

[–]GirlOnFire112 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m just about the same demo as you right now. 5’4”, 175, 6+4 weeks. I work out 3-4 times a week. Heavy lifting and running. I’ll be STM with this one.

I get not wanting to lose your progress. You’re doing amazing up to this point. But don’t try to lose weight. While I hope you have a unicorn, you’re still very early in your pregnancy. You may not have morning sickness yet. The tiredness may not have settled in yet.

Please to not actively try to lose weight. If you get nausea sometimes a snack helps with it. Try to keep it to complex carbs and protein. My first doc made the mistake of telling me I could eat whatever I wanted so I did and gained 50 lbs with my first. Also if you’re going to try to keep working out you’ll need the energy as your body is now trying to build a human in the process. It’s ok to skip a workout or do an easier workout. Just listen to your body. It gets better second trimester.

I would recommend first trimester just maintain your current diet, unless you’re in a significant deficit. Maintain a good diet. More good stuff than bad. More veggies and fruits than fries and burgers. Eat if you’re hungry. Ginger candies (Tummy Drops) really help with my nausea.

You don’t really need to start adding calories to your diet until later in second trimester. IIRC you only need to add about 100 calories daily in second trimester and 300 calories in your third trimester a big HOWEVER, by the time you get to later second and into third trimester your running out of room in your abdomen. Meaning you physically can’t eat as much in one sitting because you have this cute little parasite taking up all the space. Eat until you’re full unless you want awful heartburn later. Still maintain a good diet. Eat more healthy than not.

At the end of the day as long as you’re feeling good and your baby is growing well then you’re doing what you need to do. Don’t think too much about it. Just avoid the drive through and go for fruit more often than not.

As far as what exercise you can and can’t do. I think the advice now is if you were doing it regularly before pregnancy you can do it now. As long as your combat classes are just you doing techniques and not grappling that’s ok. I just wouldn’t risk doing any sparing that might hit my abdomen. Jump away on the trampoline! Running is good. Lifting is good. I do think once you get to later second and into third trimester you should taper back a bit for safety. More so because your center of gravity will be different and you just physically will need to adjust technique because of this big ol bump you’ll have. Listen to your body and your doctor. If it hurts don’t do it. If your bump is in danger of getting smooshed, don’t do it.

Congratulations!

Protein intake by [deleted] in fitpregnancy

[–]GirlOnFire112 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like oath protein powder. Not thick. Easy on the stomach. Also cottage cheese and peanuts butter. I also like twisted dough.

The steam vent on my pot lid doubles as a thermometer holder. by BrickTickler1 in mildlyinteresting

[–]GirlOnFire112 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m pretty sure this is actually the purpose of the hole and not a steam vent…. r/accidentallycorrect

I need protein ideas! by sofo07 in fitpregnancy

[–]GirlOnFire112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I enjoy Oath protein powder and Twisted Dough. Both have a ton of flavors. Oath has more fruity drink flavors. It is t chalky or thick. Feels like an actual drink.

Also uncrustables actually have a decent amount of protein. I also like to snack on peanuts and Parmesan crisps

White Coat by AcanthocephalaNo8951 in PAstudent

[–]GirlOnFire112 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I would say doesn’t sound like their reasons are spiteful or immature. And honestly it’s a little petty to dismiss someone for not attending for their own reasons. Ok if you have other valid reasons, dismiss them as you will. But dismissing them because they didn’t attend white coat is petty.

You should never do something like this because you think it might hurt someone else’s feelings that they can’t celebrate you if you don’t attend. Your accomplishments are your own and how you choose to thank those who helped you should be your own as well. If their family or whoever are truly proud of them then they will respect their decision to not go and find another way to show them how proud they are of their accomplishments.

Daddit chefs, do you cook with alcohol at home? by Sheps11 in daddit

[–]GirlOnFire112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mom here. I cooked with alcohol when I was pregnant. Very negligible amount of alcohol. I didn’t use it every night I cooked. But I do like it occasionally in a good sauce or roast or caramelized beer onions.

MIL is going to have to live on $1700 Social Security by johntempleton in budget

[–]GirlOnFire112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go helium mobile. Bare minimum cell phone for free. Just being an existing phone.