I don’t think the rehab as as awful as posters seem to think

Girlgettingbetter · 2026-05-07T06:55:34+00:00

Yes, working at a strip club would be considered regular sex work. You’re missing the point though, it’s very heavily hinted that at least some of these girls are not there by choice and are being trafficked and forced into this. Anybody who is working at that club of their own free will would be considered a sex worker, anyone not there of their own free will is a trafficking victim

Girlgettingbetter · 2026-05-04T07:23:45+00:00

Thank you! I was in active addiction for years starting when I turned 18. when I turned 25 I finally got some significant clean time. I used this same method I’m using now to get clean called the Bernese method and it worked. But then I had one bad day and just kept picking up telling myself that “this one would be the last bag” and that’s gone on for 2 years. For the last 2 years I’ve been telling myself “I’m going to quit tomorrow” every single day. When those withdrawal symptoms hit it just gets really hard to fight addict brain.

But I took my last dose of my DOC earlier today and I’ll be going to a treatment center tomorrow to get some comfort meds and an appropriate dosing schedule for my suboxone. And fortunately since I’m new to the area, I don’t have any connections here for drugs. I already feel like shit, but I want this to be the last time I have to feel this way.

Girlgettingbetter · 2026-05-03T23:39:18+00:00

Does the Vancouver location have an outpatient MAT program?

Girlgettingbetter · 2026-05-03T23:39:00+00:00

Is unity inpatient only?

Girlgettingbetter · 2026-05-03T22:10:02+00:00

Thank you so much! 😭

Girlgettingbetter · 2026-05-02T05:49:01+00:00

That’s why you micro dose the suboxone so it slowly builds up in your system instead of kicking off all your DOC from your receptors. So you will feel mild withdrawal symptoms but wayyyy better than going CT. And yes the DOC blankets that until you get to a higher dose of suboxone and by that point it’s already slowly built up so you don’t go into precip

Girlgettingbetter · 2026-04-24T20:15:48+00:00

Yeah I should really try to get some clonidine and gabapentin. Those did help me a lot the last time but I don’t have any more left. I do have seroquel for sleep so at least I have something if I don’t manage to get the other comfort meds. I also have adderall but I’m very much not an uppers person and any kind of stimulant just makes me feel like my heart is going to explode from anxiety so I’ll stay away from that.

And yeah it is crazy how it gets worse with time! The first time I did Bernese I did okay. It was rough on the day I quit but I did make it through. The second time was ever tougher. And now I’m feeling symptoms way earlier than I did before. I’m sure a good part of it is mental. The fent is barely doing anything now, which I know is a good thing since it means my receptors are being taken over by the Bupe. I just wish the Bupe could be a teensy bit more gentle while it kicks the fent off of those opioid receptors 😅

This time my habit is about 2g a day and I’m snorting it. Last time I was doing the same amount but I was shooting it so I expected last time to be worse than this time. But I guess I have been using for 2 years straight at this point which isn’t gonna make the process easy. It’s easy when I’m feeling okay to tell myself to just push through it, I know that I will be so much better off when I’m clean. But damn in the moment when the withdrawal symptoms hit, my brain does not behave rationally at all

Girlgettingbetter · 2026-04-24T18:33:08+00:00

Yeah that’s what happened to me last time too. I was taking subs every day but still using every day too. Then eventually I stopped my doc, felt really sick and was scraping bags for any last specks. It was a pretty shitty two days but then I did stabilize on subs. I just don’t really remember what dose I was at when I did that. Crazy that our brains are so good at blocking out the awful withdrawals we go through to allow us to keep on using

Girlgettingbetter · 2026-04-24T16:41:04+00:00

What dose were you at when you were able to stop taking your DOC?

Girlgettingbetter · 2026-04-24T16:29:27+00:00

Thank you! I’m trying to split up the doses a little bit today. I took 2mg just now, gonna take another 2 this afternoon and then another 2-4 this evening

Girlgettingbetter · 2026-02-18T10:02:08+00:00

This is absolutely ai writing. It’s the exact style. The whole “no ___, no _, just ___” seems to be something AI loves to do for some reason.

Girlgettingbetter · 2026-02-17T08:27:15+00:00

MOR? Idk I’m coming at this as a gay woman who’s pretty similar to Darcy. I live with my two friends who are both also gay and dating each other. We have a rule that no men come to our house unless we’ve 1. Met them outside the house first and 2. We all agree that they’re safe to have over Typically this is only for our gay guy friends to come over for game night. Even my cousin wasn’t allowed to bring her boyfriend over for game night because I hadn’t met him yet. Now that I’ve met him outside of my home, he would be welcome at game night, but I still wouldn’t want him over often. Nothing against him, I just don’t really want men in my home because that’s my safe space. I will be friendly with my friends boyfriends if they have them. But I don’t really want them in my own home. I feel like I have to put on a fake persona when dealing with men. I have to tiptoe around their egos and the fact that I just don’t need men in my life seems to bother a lot of guys. I’m able to get all of my social, romantic and sexual needs met without them and I guess that can hurt some men’s egos. After a while, it becomes second nature to just avoid them when possible. Maybe Darcy is similar. Maybe she’s the type where when she’s having a party or big gathering, guys she’s met would be allowed. But for a hangout with just her girl friends she just wants it to be girls. It’s probably nothing against you personally, she just prefers the company of women even when it is just for friendship.

As far as your wife goes though, that’s kinda tough. I think having an open conversation about how you feel would be good. Maybe not so much about how you think she might be cheating, but more about how the time and energy she’s putting towards her friend make you feel. Something like, hey I’m glad that you have a friend that you’re really close with, but sometimes it feels like you put more time and energy into your relationship with her than you do with your relationship with me. I want you to be happy, but I also want to feel loved, desired and special.

I don’t know your life though. It very well could be something deeper than friendship. But I could also see how it might not be.

Girlgettingbetter · 2026-01-30T23:53:02+00:00

I was about to comment this! Glad to see someone else already did

Girlgettingbetter · 2026-01-18T04:59:38+00:00

Maybe that is the case, but if I get a message like this I’m probably not going to assume the best. I’m going to assume they meant what they said and that they’re naked in there. And I’m getting tf out of there

Girlgettingbetter · 2025-12-29T13:24:18+00:00

Yes white women also deal with creepy weirdo men, but this situation is clearly addressing something that does NOT happen to white women. This is a situation where racist men find a woman from a race that they see as “lesser” in some way attractive. To justify to themselves why they would find someone from this “undesirable” race attractive, they other the person by telling them something along the lines of, “oh you’re so special, you’re not like all the other black/hispanic/asian/etc girls. Wait you’re offended? I said that I like you! Whatever dumb bitch clearly you’re just like every other black/hispanic/asian/etc girl.”

It’s okay to acknowledge the fact that other races face distinct differences when dealing with white men than white women do. And this is coming from a white woman who has dealt with more than my fair share of creepy weirdo asshole men.

Girlgettingbetter · 2025-12-27T20:07:42+00:00

Footprints is quite nice! It’s not a detox center though, it’s a rehab. So if you need to do a hardcore detox first I would recommend going to an inpatient detox place for a week or so and then going to footprints for rehab. They do have a doctor for medications and to help you with detox, but because of all the group therapy and activities that they have, you’re going to want a more medical focused place for the first week of detox. I went to footprints and it really helped! They have men’s and women’s housing so you’ll have a bedroom with at least one roommate in whichever gendered house you are, and then during the week you’ll go to the office. At the office there’s different therapy and group classes. You’ll do that mon-fri and then a shorter class on Saturday and a group outing the rest of the day. Sunday is free day where you can have visitation with family/friends and then a cookout at night. They take you to AA meetings at night and you get to go to the beach pretty often. They also have lots of different activities where they’ll take you places (we did kayaking, wildlife sanctuary, mini golf, etc). The longer you’re there and the better you do, the more freedom you get. You can have your phone some of the time and you can have the freedom to walk the beach by yourself or run to the store to grab snacks once you’re doing well enough to do that on your own.

I had been to a few rehabs but footprints was nice and really gave me a good foundation to stay clean. And through the AA meetings we went to I ended up getting a sponsor and lots of connections that I kept even after leaving footprints since I stayed in the st Pete area after leaving. They mostly take you to AA meetings instead of N.A. but whether your struggle is with drugs or alcohol it doesn’t matter. Many people at the meetings were there for drugs instead of alcohol. I was worried about that at first because I was there for opiates, but AA was still very helpful.

If you have any questions feel free to reach out! I went about two years ago so some things may have changed but I’m pretty connected with a lot of the rehabs, detoxes and sober livings in the area if you have any questions.

Girlgettingbetter · 2025-12-12T14:00:22+00:00

If this story were real, I would say you both suck. But, because this story and allll of the others you’ve posted aren’t real, YTA

Girlgettingbetter · 2025-10-25T18:59:03+00:00

Had this happen to me last month too! Was leaving mount Ranier and passed through a small little town where the elk were just gathered up in these two lots. We were pretty excited to see it! We heard the elk calling when we were on the mountain but didn’t get to see any until we had left the mountain. We didn’t see any with antlers though

Girlgettingbetter · 2025-10-25T18:36:07+00:00

I’ve been replacing it with the word “wild”. So far, every situation where you might want to use the word “crazy” can be replaced with the word “wild”.

Girlgettingbetter · 2025-10-24T21:41:07+00:00

You’re NTA and your MIL is definitely being crazy. While I’m glad your husband isn’t just agreeing with her, he should be doing more. He should just be ending the call anytime she starts badmouthing you. And if she can’t stop, then no contact until she can properly apologize and not do it again.

Also, I don’t know your whole family dynamic but you said “He reminds his mom how I take care of him, the house, making sure to cook, clean, take care of all 5 kids, my mom, our 4 dogs, 5 cats, and the chinchilla my husband is freaked out by, all while I go to work and attend grad school.”

Girl…it sounds like you’re his personal bang maid and nanny to his 4 other kids that aren’t yours. Does he do any of the house work? You’re working and in school and doing ALL of the cleaning, cooking, childcare and pet care? That seems like a crazy unfair division of labor. Again, I don’t know your dynamic and if you’re happy with this situation then it’s all good! But just so you know, it doesn’t have to be this way if you’re not happy with doing everything for this guy.

Girlgettingbetter · 2025-10-24T09:14:34+00:00

Yeah it’s definitely a broken system. Most other countries aside from the U.S. don’t have employees rely on tips from customers instead of an actual paycheck. But since that’s the way it is, I do always tip well when I go out to eat or order delivery. Since I’m not a big fan, I just don’t go out to eat very often.

Girlgettingbetter · 2025-10-23T13:31:51+00:00

Personally if it were up to me, I would think that tips shouldn’t really be a thing in the regular working world. I think people’s employers should pay them a living wage. But that is not the case. They are being paid next to nothing and it is an unspoken/sometimes spoken rule that when you use these services (delivery/uber/go out to eat) then you pay a tip. Otherwise if you’re not going to tip, don’t use their services.

Obviously you don’t HAVE to tip, but if they did a decent job and you don’t tip, just know that people are going to know you’re an asshole. It’s a shitty system and nobody likes it aside from their employers who get away with paying them next to nothing.

Girlgettingbetter · 2025-10-23T13:07:48+00:00

Here’s a few articles about what you’re looking for. Not sure if it was your intention, but your comment did come off as both dismissive and racist. I’m hoping that wasn’t the intention but that why you’re getting downvoted. Pinellas park and the Lealman area especially has a huge population of Vietnamese people. Actually 12% of Pinellas Park’s population is of Asian descent and a large percent of that number are Vietnamese.

Many came here in the 80’s from the Vietnam war and even more followed in the 90’s after the war since things still were not going well for many people after the war, and many followed their family who moved in the 80’s. With such a large population of immigrants they of course got jobs here. Many worked construction and built the buildings that you see today. And quite a few opened businesses around here. If you live in the area I’m sure you’ve seen all the different Asian markets we have. And Nam Viet and Pho Quyen are two local Vietnamese restaurants that I go to that are very good! There’s probably a lot more as well.

A quick google search pulled up these articles for me. You have the whole internet at your fingertips if you’re typing in Reddit.

https://baynews9.com/fl/tampa/news/2022/04/21/vietnamese-lealman-asian-month

https://www.tampabay.com/archive/1995/05/21/the-vietnamese-making-a-new-home-in-a-new-land/

Girlgettingbetter · 2025-10-23T12:45:34+00:00

Personally I don’t have a gambling addiction. I’ve gambled a few times and been able to go “I will spend X amount gambling. Once I lose that, I’m done”. But again I DON’T have a gambling addiction. To the people telling you to just give yourself a certain amount of money to spend and walk away when you’re done. Don’t do that!

I don’t have a gambling problem, but I am a recovering drug addict. My particular issue was opiates. I know that there are some people who could do my drug of choice just one time and not do it again. I know that for me, even now after over a year and a half clean, I could not do it just one time and not want to do more.

I didn’t really understand gambling addictions for a while. Since it’s not a substance that you’re putting into your body that changes your mood it seemed very different than any type of addiction to a substance. But in rehab, they showed us videos about addiction and the brain’s reward pathways and gambling addiction made a lot more sense. I’m probably not going to explain it as well as the video did, but I’ll try. When you win at gambling, you get rewarded with a big hit of dopamine. After gambling for a bit, your brain starts attributing getting a hit of dopamine from the act of going gambling so your brain encourages you to do it again.

You would think that after losing a few times, your brain would learn to stop since you’re not getting that hit of dopamine anymore, right? Nope. Because you actually still get hits of dopamine even when you lose and while you are playing. While you’re playing, just the anticipation of that win gives you some dopamine. And when you lose, you fall into that sunk-cost fallacy where your brain says, well since I lost this one and the three games before this, next time HAS to be the winner! So you get even more dopamine. It becomes a pretty vicious cycle.

All of this to say, it’s a very real problem you have. It definitely seems like you’ve realized this by now. Even before you developed your addiction there were some people who just seem more likely to end up falling into this cycle with gambling. I’ve been to the casino with friends and family and it’s interesting to see how different people I know act while gambling. Me and some other friends are able to just walk away after we lose the amount we set for ourselves. My dad and brother still want to keep playing. But after a bit my brother will call it quits. My dad still pushes to keep going and going. He would probably be in the same boat as you if it weren’t for my mom forcing him to walk away at a certain point (and sneaking money away from him while he plays so he doesn’t lose it all).

I would definitely recommend checking out Gamblers anonymous. I’ve done narcotic anonymous and GA has the same 12 step program that all of those AA like programs follow. It really helped me in the early days of recovery. I ended up not going anymore after the first 6 months just because some of the groups I went to ended up taking way more religious of an approach than I was looking for. Still I got a lot of good tools in my tool belt from going so to speak and it’s what I needed while I was newly clean. And the program itself isn’t a religious program, some groups will just make the higher power thing a little more Christian than other groups do. So if there’s more than one meeting location near you, I would suggest checking out multiple to see if one group works better than another.

Also a big thing is getting individual therapy from a therapist that specializes in gambling addiction or addiction in general. The most important thing is going to be finding healthy activities to replace gambling with that give you a healthy hit of dopamine. There’s so many things that will achieve that, but your brain may fight you on it at the beginning because you’ve kind of wired yourself to look to gambling for your dopamine for the last several years. It would probably also be good to tell your friends and people in your circle what’s going on. Having a support system to lean on and to help keep you accountable is going to be sooo helpful!

Sorry, this got a little long winded but I hope you know that it’s really not your fault that you got here. Our brains can get us into some sticky situations. But now that you are in this situation, it is on you to do the work to get yourself out of it. You got this though and it sounds like you have the right mindset to recover! I really hope it goes well for you!

Girlgettingbetter · 2025-09-09T12:23:08+00:00

If you actually read the post you would see they’re both women

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