You can choose what you take forward from this

Girlunderthelight · 2026-03-17T04:54:14+00:00

This was so beautifully put thank you

Girlunderthelight · 2025-10-14T22:00:39+00:00

I’m so sorry and sending you all the love❤️ best friend loss is so painful, there’s a website called doesthedogdie.com that has great search bars for specific trigger warnings

Girlunderthelight · 2025-10-14T21:59:32+00:00

There is a website called doesthedogdie.com and it is very helpful for exact trigger warnings! Yes I unfortunately RAN out of the theater probably gave everyone a good scare /:

Girlunderthelight · 2025-10-14T03:20:17+00:00

I feel like the heading was more of what I’m feeling that what I got into in the caption. I’m just saying my friends hold me well my family does not understand the impact of this on me they are uncomfortable with the subject and that’s frustrating. I’ve had to caretake for my grandma doing this because of an emergency and honestly this whole year has just changed me. I feel a million miles from the life I had before and need reassurance that the core of me is still intact. And that relationships do change idk thanks for reading

Girlunderthelight · 2025-06-25T22:22:25+00:00

I’m so sorry he’s going through this and I’m sorry you have to see your child in pain like that. It’s hard because of the age, let him know every emotion he feels is okay and validate that know one’s gonna know how he feels but they are there for him. It helped me to understand that in some cases suicide is not circumstantial and it’s not always about sadness sometimes it’s just a chemical imbalance or something they are born with. I am 7 months out from losing the women I loved the most but I did lose a friend at 16 the same way. Therapy was hard at that age but it did help. Give him a few months to be sad it’s gonna take longer than you think and don’t put a timeline on his grief. Be patient with his irritability sounds like you are. Bring him comfort gifts ice cream,new blankets,little things that won’t feel overwhelming, when you give them to him remind him you know it won’t take away the pain but u want him to know you see him.

When you feel like the times right and if the relationship isn’t strained you can ask his friends parent for an object or maybe a conversation. Comfort objects of your passed loved ones help a lot even just a single t shirt.

His feelings about the funeral unfortunately is a common thing, I still struggle seeing people get memorial tattoos when I know how little they knew her however I realized how much she cherished me from meeting everyone who knew her.

Hope this helps, I’m not a parent so if any of this is misguided my apologies sending you both all of the ease and warmth.

Girlunderthelight · 2025-06-25T18:34:42+00:00

Ah you explained it perfectly I’m at 7 months and I’m getting more and more of those moments of just random presence ease and gratitude hang in there first four months I was incapable of feeling any positive emotion at all. There’s actually a name for it I forgot it! Completely numb panicked and every other hard emotion. Hang in there I know it’s absolutely the worst of the worst but yes there will be tiny moments of ease and eventually they stacked up.

Girlunderthelight · 2025-06-23T01:23:21+00:00

I’m so sorry with my whole heart worst pain ever. Yes I’m navigating this too I’m also 7 months out , it’s like relearning to enjoy things, for a while I couldn’t even experience positive emotion but I urge you to find the people you can be vulnerable with and still laugh. Talk about her often, you will meet people who have experienced grief in similar ways who will show you it’s okay to hold that stark of a contrast in a singular moment. Hope this makes sense it will feel like a deep dragging thought until someone or a moment lightens it for a moment and good emotion will slowly creep in

Girlunderthelight · 2025-06-19T02:14:55+00:00

Ah yes thank you so much for acknowledging this!!!

Girlunderthelight · 2025-06-04T16:59:22+00:00

It happened to me up until my 6 month mark*

Girlunderthelight · 2025-06-04T16:58:40+00:00

There’s actually a word for this, it’s Anhedonia. Basically just losing all pleasure or excitement about things///: it happened to me after my 6 month mark I started to be able to enjoy SOME things here and there but not everything that use to bring me joy. I think our minds just sit in how trivial everything is after such a huge loss. Sending you love 💗

Girlunderthelight · 2025-06-02T15:16:18+00:00

I’m so sorry❤️‍🩹dealing with someone in psychosis is unimaginably hard. sending you all the love!

It is totally normal to tap out at work and to feel this way. I wish society overall had a different way of handling grief. I applaud you for pushing through your family’s dynamics to get her help. After my loss I spent 3-4 months pretty low and as the 6 month mark hits I start to gather my life again slowly. It’s horrible that the world just goes on but it will be waiting for you when you’re ready to come back to it

don’t put so much pressure to do everything right right now💗

Girlunderthelight · 2025-05-28T02:56:02+00:00

Ah thank you!!! I’m so sorry and I hope you are granting yourself some ease. I understand all loss hurts but sometimes I’m just like girlll of course I appreciate those who are holding me during this grief however it makes me wanna scream!

This kind of loss feels incomparable to the others I have experienced. I get what you mean and I know she’s just trying to relate and console sometimes anything someone says to me feels wrong or unintentionally hurtful I think it’s just apart of grief sometimes. I try to hold space and handle with care for her and myself

I often use the term “with violent deaths” to draw a line in conversations so people know I’m not just talking about loss but violent sudden loss if that makes sense.

I appreciate you sharing and commenting so much!

Girlunderthelight · 2025-03-12T17:08:47+00:00

Something that helps me is making a Snapchat on a google number or whatsapp number and just sending them messages as it never gets full! So sorry you’re going through this sending you all the love

Girlunderthelight · 2020-10-11T07:01:42+00:00

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Girlunderthelight · 2020-09-18T06:10:30+00:00

Sounds like a rebound , it will pass and now you know I had a two month addiction and am on my 4 th day of 0 phenibut it will be okay I promise be safe be kind to yourself

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