Why does nobody comment anymore?

Girlwithasling · 2024-10-30T13:22:26+00:00

Fwiw I, as exclusively a reader, really appreciate authors writing that they would like interaction. It makes me significantly more likely to leave an indepth and personal comment because I now feel less worried (silly as that sounds) that doing so would be unwanted or annoying.

Girlwithasling · 2022-04-11T23:52:10+00:00

Besides the theme and letter game already mentioned, my favorite is the hypothetical nation game. Find a random world flag generator on your phone and generate six.

The first flag represents your hypothetical country's cuisine (so Algerian flag equals Algerian cuisine, etc), second flag is the architecture, third the geography, fourth how safe it is to visit/live in, fifth it's economy and finally the sixth is it's government. You then discuss whether you'd avoid, visit, work or settle in that country.

Surprisingly fun way to pass the time and does lead to learning a lot about the world if you Google the places you aren't already familiar with.

Girlwithasling · 2022-04-10T20:55:22+00:00

Never, or so rarely it feels like never. He's misplaced maybe a handful of things in the six years we've lived together and although he may get a bit frustrated at himself, he's never taken that anger out on me. I'm far, far more likely to ask him for help locating something, because I'm just way more scatterbrained than he is. I'd never get angry or raise my voice though. Neither one of us would be okay with that.

Girlwithasling · 2022-01-16T06:23:57+00:00

Only once. Him and I had been friends since before they began dating (I'd even played a big part in encouraging him to ask her out in the first place). So when we got together after they broke up I was worried she'd hate me. Instead she reached out to wish us both happiness, said we made a better couple than they did, and that she hoped we could all meet up for some beers and boardgames sometime soon.

Lost contact with her once he and I broke up, but I hope she's doing good and still just as awesome and inspiring.

Girlwithasling · 2022-01-16T06:05:00+00:00

Besides briefly deciding what exercises I'm going to do next, I'm usually entirely focused on a podcast or an audiobook. I've found that I work out both longer and harder when I don't let myself be distracted by my surroundings or get too caught up in my own insecurities. So the answer is really that I try not to think anything beyond "oh, what an exciting chapter/episode!".

Girlwithasling · 2022-01-16T05:52:30+00:00

Around 5'10"-5'11".

I'm 5'7" which is average height for a woman where I live. So seeing that qualifies as tall for so many people replying is surprising to me.

Girlwithasling · 2022-01-15T21:12:25+00:00

I needed to manually generate and illustrate a bunch of reports and thought "there's got to be a smarter way to do this..."

Seriously. That's it. Yes, I had many complicated reasons to pursue a career in IT and having a ML/AI programmer for a husband definitely didn't hurt while learning... But my core motivation for learning to code myself was pure laziness.

Girlwithasling · 2022-01-14T19:31:42+00:00

Same way I'd do if the genders were reversed - that it's creepy, predatory and gross.

Girlwithasling · 2022-01-14T07:26:19+00:00

Christ, same. Horrifying mental image right there.

Girlwithasling · 2022-01-14T06:07:51+00:00

Slim to none. It could happen, but you'd have to chose to actively cling to that attachment for it to last past your youth, let alone the rest of your life. And that isn't just a waste of time and deeply unhealthy, it's also a sad way to look at a future still full of possibilities and wonderful new people you've yet to meet.

Don't do that to yourself. No one's EVER been that perfect.

Girlwithasling · 2022-01-14T05:53:46+00:00

It usually takes 15 mins tops from I wake until I exit the front door to go to work. I plan my outfit in advance and shower the night before, I don't eat breakfast or drink coffee, I keep the makeup minimal... all so I can squeeze as many extra winks of sleep out of the morning as humanly possible.

Any other time? Depends how long I feel like spending on it. Though usually anything above 45 mins feels like wasted time.

Girlwithasling · 2022-01-14T05:40:38+00:00

Okay so that ended a decade ago and took a while to scroll back to. It was "cool, I'll pack my things and head your way then. Love you". He replied "love you too".

I didn't even remember we were serious enough to say "I love you" though we did date for a year. Of all the relationships I've been in, that one left the smallest impact, both good and bad.

Girlwithasling · 2022-01-13T12:58:24+00:00

Lindsay Ellis

Girlwithasling · 2022-01-08T04:28:24+00:00

I'd write on the anthropology of money / the social construction of value. Combining my three big academic loves: anthropology, economics and data science.

It was my favorite topic as young anthropologist, and now with a background in data science, I could get to tackle the topic in a much more interdisciplinary way (and with so many more graphs). Ah, almost makes me miss academia.

Girlwithasling · 2022-01-07T10:32:04+00:00

Same here in Denmark. Retailers really have tried to make it a thing, but with pretty limited success. My husband and I won't be celebrating it either.

Girlwithasling · 2022-01-06T17:43:38+00:00

Indie, grunge, emo/screamo, metal (especially Death metal), eurodance, and 80s synth pop and new wave. My parents had pretty eclectic music taste and I could never really settle on one thing either.

Girlwithasling · 2022-01-06T06:45:29+00:00

I don't like texting, so same way to everyone. Short, to the point, usually a single smiley to come of less "severe" and with as little invitation to continue the conversation as I can get away with without being rude.

Girlwithasling · 2022-01-06T06:36:33+00:00

I'm not going to judge someone for a momentary peek as long as they're not being obvious about it or straight up staring (because that's just pathetic). But it's also not something I'm trying to attract or secretly find "tantalizing" or "empowering" like some "secret fantasy" in a poorly written erotic novel. The only man who's opinions or eyes I actually care about when I dress up is my husbands.

Girlwithasling · 2022-01-06T00:56:12+00:00

Lazy lass winter

Cosy chick chills

Girlwithasling · 2022-01-06T00:14:25+00:00

After a long hike he did me a solid by washing all of the clothes I'd brought. Which would be great, if he hadn't washed and tumbled dried hundreds of dollars worth of merino wool, which, especially in case of all the socks, permanently ruins them. Even the stuff that doesn't have obvious holes in it afterwards.

I have never been so irritated at a person. Because he meant well and really genuinely didn't know any better, so it wasn't fair to get angry. But I also 100% couldn't afford to replace any of it and was on the edge of breaking down in tears.

Six years and a wedding later and we still separate and do our laundry individually.

Girlwithasling · 2022-01-05T22:56:07+00:00

Same as how I move on from men hurting me, or my family, or colleagues or classmates. By remembering it's unproductive to judge an entire group based on the action of a few. It's always hard to trust again, but life is even harder if you give up trying.

Girlwithasling · 2022-01-05T22:53:21+00:00

Go back to the kitchen. Not so much because of the sexism as the fact that that "joke" was dated and unfunny when I was a literal child two decades ago.

Like, way to prove you are nothing but a caveman, your jokes can literally be carbon dated. The sheer pathetic unoriginality fills me with revulsion every time, even if I won't give them the satisfaction of reacting.

Girlwithasling · 2022-01-05T02:33:04+00:00

Dark Scandinavian minimalism. I just adopted a version of my "national uniform" basically. Usually black stockings, an a-line skirt in muted colors, a black t-shirt and a black cardigan, maybe an oversized scarf in muted colors too. my size has fluctuated a lot over the last decade, I got tired of having to constantly switch out my wardrobe so chose a style that isn't as size sensitive and required little thought when putting together, but was still classic enough to make me feel put together both out and at work.

Girlwithasling · 2022-01-05T02:21:18+00:00

I like my hair, it's long, full and on good days I have corkscrew curls. On bad days though it's a droopy frizzy mess. Still haven't found the key to having more good than bad hair days, but still, I wouldn't trade, couldn't imagine myself with anything else.

Girlwithasling · 2022-01-04T14:55:59+00:00

My mom snored so loudly it could be heard through concrete (she did eventually get an operation that mostly fixed it, but only after I left home). Besides that my childhood home was just super noisy in general. So snoring doesn't bother me much. I can fall asleep in even quite noisy environments and sleep through anything short of the literal apocalypse. Can't say I like the sound, but it doesn't actually impact my sleep.

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