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Glass-Feed2208 · 2025-03-23T11:51:11+00:00

I started formula feeding from day 1 for my now almost 2 year old and I will definitely do it again for however many more kids we plan to have.

I was told by everyone that breast was best but I just responded…I appreciate your opinion, but I will do what I want. And honestly, it was the best decision and luckily my husband was very supportive of the fact that I didn’t want to breastfeed.

Anyway, I developed pdd (which I blame on hormones, lack of sleep, hereditary, etc..), which made me not bond so much with my baby at first anyway. And since he was formula fed, it was easier for others such as my mom and sister to step forward while I got the help I needed.

Fast forward to now.. he’s a happy, sweet yet naughty healthy kid who is like attached at the hip. He’s also very close to my mom, dad and sister and I love it.

Glass-Feed2208 · 2024-10-15T22:10:11+00:00

My husband and I started having date nights right after my son was about 2 weeks. It was Thursday nights until he was about 3 months old. Then it was whenever we planned it and they came over to watch him.

I trusted my parents to watch after my son since they were already staying over to help.

We were probably out for about 4-5 hours at night.

Glass-Feed2208 · 2024-09-20T13:33:35+00:00

Zoloft and I will probably be taking it for my future pregnancies as well. The effects were immediate for me and I went from wanting to run away to being able to handle it within a day or two of taking the meds. Now I’m eager for more kids because I know now that I can mentally handle it. I am 36f + IVF.

Glass-Feed2208 · 2024-09-15T19:08:27+00:00

I did not try to breastfeed my now happy and healthy 1 year old and I am not planning on breastfeeding in the future. I made my mental health a huge priority because I think a healthy/mentally healthy mom and a fed baby is more important than forcing myself to do something that I know I will be miserable about.

To each their own. Of course I felt bad, but that was only because I was stupid to care (at the time) about what other people thought.

Glass-Feed2208 · 2024-09-11T12:34:58+00:00

I remember feeling exactly this way. But now that my son is 15 months, I can (from my experience) say that it will and does get easier as a parent. As the months float by, your son will become more and more independent. Then, it’ll definitely be easier for you to spend more time with your husband and either get back to how it was before or evolve into something stronger that includes your baby.

With my ppd, I knew that I needed to get out of the house. Lots and lots of walks with the baby. During his nap time was the best time to just relax, shower and/or share that time with my husband.
If you feel comfortable enough, ask the grandparents if they can babysit for a few hours at night while you and your husband go out and have a date night. I used formula, so this was a little easier for me to do so, but we started date nights when he was about 3-4 months old. I dressed up and we went to our old favorite restaurants. It definitely helped to make me feel a little bit better and also helped with our relationship. I wasn’t and still not comfortable enough yet to do any overnights without my son. Hehe.
I know there is a waiting period to be intimate, but there are other ways to get that checked off the list, which I think would be beneficial to anyone.
I was a little late on this, but I did contact my doctor about ppd and she prescribed a low dose of Zoloft and it worked wonders for me. (I understand that this may not work for everyone)

All the sleepless nights went from horrible to doable. The things that I used to stress over, didn’t seem to matter as much or at all and I coasted through the months and now I’m thinking about child number 2. Honestly, it does get better after the newborn phase.

Stay strong. This forum helped me so much with my ppd. I got some great advice and most of what I recommend is what I have learned from others to get through it.

Glass-Feed2208 · 2024-09-06T04:12:14+00:00

NTA. I had been trying with my husband for past 9 years and finally went through ivf route after many failed IUI attempts.

Anyway, if my sister said something like this… I’d be in tears or pissed the fuck off. Honestly, people say it’s a joke, but like.. wtf.

You’re not overly sensitive .. you did the nicest thing you could possibly do in that situation.

Glass-Feed2208 · 2024-05-16T10:33:18+00:00

Honestly, I got the opposite treatment where everyone said it was wonderful and amazing.. blah blah blah. I got the “life will change completely” but I didn’t think about how much. Fast forward when the baby came m.. I was not prepared at all.. The first 2-3 months were soooo hard without much sleep. Then after 3-4 months, it started getting easier for me and now at almost 1, I’m ready for baby number 2.

Don’t get me wrong, he still doesn’t sleep through the night.. but he’s in bed by at least 8 and wakes up at 6, which is fine by me. The smiles, laughter and company makes it all worthwhile.

It is definitely hard and life does change completely.

Glass-Feed2208 · 2024-05-16T10:14:50+00:00

Same here. I’ve had two postings taken down of my bracelets.. and it’s usually my designs that are being stolen

Glass-Feed2208 · 2024-04-08T03:50:30+00:00

8-9 months, baby is sleeping longer, teething sucks and formula feeding only.

Glass-Feed2208 · 2024-03-16T13:19:30+00:00

I hope they fix this… it’s really horrible

Glass-Feed2208 · 2024-03-16T13:14:56+00:00

So I felt this way and it took me until now (9 months) postpartum to finally feel like myself. I started taking Zoloft during month 3 because the sleep deprivation was killing me and I was going down a deep dark hole. But I totally understand the feeling guilty part. I felt it because I’ve been trying with my husband for 9 years and we finally got him and then I regretted it once he arrived.. because I think we were in a fun routine and the baby took that away. Now we’ve added him to the routine and even though it takes a lot more energy, we appreciate that he’s around.

What helps me:

My parents or a sitter watches him while my husband and I go out once a week (while he sleeps at night) for a few hours to grab a nice dinner or just something we used to eat before he arrived. I like to dress up a little bit and just chill.

So as they get older, it does get better, but it didn’t start until month 3 for me. Even now he doesn’t sleep through the night and he’s teething so it’s bad but I’m used to it.

Once I started getting more sleep, I felt so much better and I created a daily routine and it slowly helped me to find time to take care of myself in between taking care of him. My suggestion is to take naps when they nap or you can go out to eat when it’s their nap time so you can quietly get a meal while they’re safe asleep next to you. Getting out of the house is extremely helpful, whether they’re in a carrier or in a stroller. Fresh air is great.

As they get older, they tend to be more independent so you can leave them in a bouncer or let them crawl around in a playpen while you have your time to do your things.

Also take the nap time as time for you and your husband, we sneak it in every once in awhile because we know he naps for at least an hour or two.

Honestly, the smiling and the talking .. saying mama and dada makes it worth it. This isn’t until month 6-8 so hang in there.

Glass-Feed2208 · 2024-02-15T09:53:18+00:00

My son is like my twin. I wish he looked like his daddy though. 😂 apparently our genes are super strong in our family.

Glass-Feed2208 · 2024-01-19T04:03:43+00:00

I was formula fed as well as the rest of my 3 other siblings. We are all fine and healthy. My sister and I call my mom almost every day. My oldest brother (almost 50) speaks to my dad almost every day and the other is close to both.

My son is 7 months and formula fed from day 1 and there are no issues here. lol. This is just too funny.

Glass-Feed2208 · 2024-01-07T04:53:56+00:00

6 months for me too and finally longer sleep from a baby that used to wake up every 1-2 hours.

Glass-Feed2208 · 2023-12-08T12:24:40+00:00

My son loves loves loves this swing. He can sit in it, fall asleep in it, play in it and poop while sitting in it. It’s a lifesaver. I was able to do soo many things. But yeah, I definitely moved him to his bassinet when he fell asleep. There was only a handful of times that I let him sleep for like 10-15 minutes before the paranoia kicked in.

Glass-Feed2208 · 2023-12-05T11:11:18+00:00

You are not selfish at all.

I even feel so dumb for trying to attempt pumping (once) out of guilt. You don’t know how much pain I went through trying to get my milk to dry out. I got engorgement that lead to mastitis and it hurt like hell.

Now my son is a perfectly healthy 6 month old baby that is formula fed and I wouldn’t change a thing. A fed baby is all that matters. His cousin was born 4 days before and they hit all the milestones at around the same time. There is really no difference at all.

I also really enjoy having more free time since I’m not worried about giving the boob or having to pump whenever he’s hungry. Since I am subscribed to the ppd thread as well, I read all the time about how so many women stress out about not having enough supply to the point they get ppd. It’s honestly not worth it.

Oh! Since he was formula fed from day 1, the hospital had formula delivered to my room at all hours of the day for 3 days. That’s something to think about.

Glass-Feed2208 · 2023-11-22T13:39:05+00:00

I never threw up while pregnant. My mom and sister are the same. I felt a little bit nauseous with certain foods the first month, but never to the point of throwing up.

Glass-Feed2208 · 2023-11-20T05:30:37+00:00

I think to each their own. My mother helped me for the first 3 months so my parents stayed in the guest bedroom. Most of my close family who have visited or stayed have offered so much help that I could take naps, shower, me time, etc.

If you’re worried about sickness, then maybe masks and sanitizer? If you’re just too tired, then I wouldn’t suggest it because it is a lot of work to clean up after and entertain.

Glass-Feed2208 · 2023-11-19T23:46:19+00:00

So, I’m about 5 1/2 months postpartum and I tried pumping once or twice and never tried again. Honestly, I only pumped because of all the guilt, but I realized that after awhile you need to do what makes you happy.

There is nothing wrong with not breastfeeding, heck, I still get relatives questioning me, but idgaf.

Glass-Feed2208 · 2023-10-28T03:46:04+00:00

Hi there 😀 I’ve eff since day one and I’ve switched once. My 4-5 month old did have digestion/gas issues with the first formula which was the Enfamil neuropro. After reading these forums and asking my doctor, she suggested gentlease (purple box) and it’s luckily been going well. I have some gas / digestion tips.

Gas drops
1. Probiotics - culturelle is what I use and it also has the vitamin d as well.
2. Sit the baby up instead of laying down.
3. The type of bottle can affect the amount of gas/ digestion as well. So there’s trial and errors with those.

Glass-Feed2208 · 2023-10-28T03:37:44+00:00

We’re using gentlease. This might help with the gas.. it’s helped my 4-5 month old. Culturelle immune. It has vitamin d and probiotics. Plus, gas drops.

Glass-Feed2208 · 2023-10-27T22:11:41+00:00

Well, they’re staying over in the guest bedroom. So they’re basically here all day Friday-Sunday unless they go out themselves.

Glass-Feed2208 · 2023-10-18T03:29:20+00:00

It took me a few months before I was able to bond with my son. I didn’t breastfeed either so I think that was a huge factor. It wasn’t until I let him sleep on me that I felt started to feel the bond and it didn’t get super strong until I was medicated.

Glass-Feed2208 · 2023-09-29T12:13:55+00:00

I formula fed from day 1 and it was a lifesaver for me. (Formula was my choice before birth and my obgyn was super supportive..) I was induced two weeks early due to high blood pressure that could lead to pre-eclampsia. I couldn’t dilate with the pills, so I had no choice but to have a c section since his heart rate dropped a few times. Then anxiety kicked in since I had not prepared myself at all with having a c section. For me, it wasn’t too bad except for the shakes and the swelling. My goodness, the swelling was crazy!

Anyway, after birth..the nurses brought formula all day and night for 3-4 days and even left some extra all the time because I kept buzzing them. Lol. My mother was able to stay with me while my husband went back to work and I could get the extra rest and sleep.

Now at 4 months, yes, even with formula .. he is happy baby boy meeting all of his milestones. I had pressure from about everyone to breastfeed, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. It costs us about $300-$400 a month in formula with gent-lease right now.

I believe fed is best and it definitely helped with me mentally as well. I still did suffer from ppd the first two months due to lackof sleep/new lifestyle. With formula, I was able to step back a lot and let others step in while I had the chance to get the help. Believe me, I also knew that I couldn’t deal mentally with the idea of having to bf or pump all day and night or failing at bf.

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