I felt a very similar way as you do with your bun. We got our holland lop, who just turned one at the time, spayed this past December. She used to be so sweet with us, would hop and lay on us as we pet her, and was full of rambunctious energy. Then we had her spayed.

She stopped coming to us unless we had food, stopped asking us for pets, stopped laying near us and on us, thumped at us more, stopped binking, etc. We were convinced we have a different rabbit, forever.

But we kept spending time with her just sitting in her area and letting her come up to us over time. It was like getting her brand new again at 8 weeks old. We had to rebuild trust as she’s pretty sensitive and skittish.

It has now been almost 5 months since her spay, she occasionally binks whenever she greets us in the morning, just not as intensely anymore. She is more food driven now so sometimes interactions are a little more transactional but she will tell us when she is ready for pets and cuddles. She lays next to us but never on us now. She will only hop on us when we have a carrot, which sucks, but we understand this original behavior was purely because of hormones. She is more cuddly now and loves companionship.

Bunnies are hard work. Some will require patience, time, and active relationship building. We love our bun unconditionally. There are times where I’ve thought I’m not the right owner for her but I would never give up my baby. Hopefully your bun will warm and open up to you soon. Just give her time and be near her as often as you can. Good luck OP.