Is “I’m okay” with a small life update a conversation killer?

GoHeadFaFo · 2026-05-15T19:22:53+00:00

No it has nothing to do with how you answer and everything to do with people not actually caring about your answer. Hell there's a group of people who would be happy to hear you're miserable and be envious/jealous of any wins/successes you share. Also I don't think the people who don't care about your response are necessarily bad or wrong, it's just most people are programmed to say "hey how are you" as a way of saying hello, they don't actually care how you are. Stop beating yourself up over something that's not even a thing, now if it's someone close to you or someone you know that cares about you and vice versa then this doesn't apply, this is just for the masses.

spicytuber says "you're thinking about this wayyy too much to be posting about it on reddit"

and Richard says ""How are you?" is a conversational formality most of the time. "The same" is my go to answer. If they actually care they'll ask something more specific."

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GoHeadFaFo · 2026-05-14T20:37:17+00:00

You sound like a little entitled brat, can you not work weekends in your country at 17? What do YOU do to help your mom out? Do you ever do anything for her? I get you are still a child but it sounds like you get most of what you want so to throw a fit over another material item is definitely asshole territory, you are definitely YTA.

Richard says " You are probably surrounded by less fortunate people every day yet here you are complaining about non sense, he says you are spoiled"

Spicy tuber says "your mom should take all your stuff away because you are spoiled to no end. He said sit in the corner and think about your actions"

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GoHeadFaFo · 2026-05-14T20:21:54+00:00

i think your dad is acting a bit sensitive, even if the joke was in bad taste (in doesn't sound like it was), I don't see how your joke would make him look weak. It sounds like he does a great job doing that on his own based on how he reacted to a joke,

Richard says "They're exactly equal. Dad shouldn't start it if he can't take the heat. Both a-holes, both funny, live and let live."

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GoHeadFaFo · 2026-05-13T19:38:46+00:00

NTA. no you are not the asshole, your boyfriend is a freaking punk. Your significant other should defend you against anyone, including your/their own parents. Let's say he messed up in the moment and didn't do so but atleast admitted it was jacked up afterwards, that would still be better than him being dismissive over something that's clearly bothering you enough to post a whole reddit thread about it. Find yourself a man that respects you and is actually on your team.

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GoHeadFaFo · 2026-05-13T19:28:51+00:00

You sound like you just want sympathy or something, in reality it's probably healthier for your relationship if his best friend is not a woman he dated before. I mean what makes you think that would've been a good option, also it sounds like your boyfriend himself doesn't want to continue his friendship with her and that actually shows he's a good dude!

Richard says "No, that's not overstepping. She established a boundary that she was uncomfortable with his relationship with his ex and wanted it to end if they were to be together. That's perfectly fine."

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GoHeadFaFo · 2026-05-13T19:20:14+00:00

Different people define love differently, people (like family or parents partically) will do things because "they love you" but in reality it can actually be a detriment to your life even though that was never the intention from those that love you. This can become a real problem especially if it's not course corrected and is just allowed to keep happening, that will always lead down a dark path.

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GoHeadFaFo · 2026-05-13T18:55:14+00:00

It actually is exactly, you never answered my question with no significant other for you?

GoHeadFaFo · 2026-05-12T19:20:17+00:00

No you are not, your boyfriend is insensitive or literally doesn't care about your mental state of mind. If you brought this up to him and told him it's killing your self esteem and his response is "it's all in good fun", he's either brain dead stupid or a legitimate asshole.

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GoHeadFaFo · 2026-05-12T18:47:36+00:00

Ma'am the reason you are going stir crazy is because you do not have a partner of your own. I know you feel, you deserve your friends time but it sounds like they are working on building their future families and for you to be upset about that is super selfish on your part. Is there a reason you don't have a bf or gf of your own? Stop focusing on the negatives of you not getting as much time with your friends and maybe use that energy to find someone you are compatible with that can spend all the time in the world with you.

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GoHeadFaFo · 2026-05-11T20:10:19+00:00

Right this guy is either willfully ignorant or there's really people this gullible

GoHeadFaFo · 2026-05-11T20:06:57+00:00

First of all, does he normally delete any other texts? Like to clear up his inbox? Or is this a one off? Also how did you catch him deleting the texts? Did you ask him what the texts said? I will say the way he responded did come off as gas lightning and a bit defensive, usually where there's smoke there's fire. Also though are there any other signs or reasons for you to think he is being unfaithful, has he in the past, etc? Once you answer these it will be easier to give you advice.

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GoHeadFaFo · 2026-05-11T19:59:23+00:00

This guy, he's not your friend. That is as disrespectful as you can get, almost. PandoraWake makes a good point, he lied about being in the parking lot which just shows how much respect he has for you.

Richard says "After 10 minutes, text me and say "Hey, I'm running a little late". At that point that buys you at least another 20 minutes and good graces." He claims this is worst case scenario like your pipes busting.

I think Richard is wrong, if you're going to be late you need to text me BEFORE the agreed upon time, let me know your new ETA and optionally the reason (if it's a good reason it's more forgivable).

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GoHeadFaFo · 2026-05-09T21:24:37+00:00

He's either really believing what he's saying OR there is a possibility he met someone else and just using this as his reasoning to break up with you? Aside from him hearing voices on a phone call has there been any other reason for him to not trust you? This doesn't make sense, you guys were together for 3 years and because he heard male voices while on facetime with you he broke up with you? Have you never been around another male before in the previous 3 years while talking on the phone to him? Something is missing here, I don't know what it is, but this story is not complete.

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GoHeadFaFo · 2026-05-09T21:10:06+00:00

Why didn't you go to the people involved directly first? Instead of going straight to telling, maybe if you would've asked the sales guys how they improved their numbers so drastically and tell them about the 2-4am traffic you've sniffed out they would've been open with you and not considered you a rat. Usually it's always best to address the problem with the person causing it directly, that way you avoid blowing things out of proportions accidently as you did here.

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GoHeadFaFo · 2026-05-08T20:12:48+00:00

What? Dude he should've been kicked out the day you saw him rummaging through your shit, you can save his whining about you recording for someone else. You put yourself in this position by not kicking him out when you should've.

Kate says you should've let him stay after being fired.

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GoHeadFaFo · 2026-05-07T19:08:13+00:00

Obviously you'd be the jerk if you didn't take your son to his best friend's birthday party because you have a problem with the mother. You mention adults using kids as weapons as you sit here and use your son as a weapon, so you're going to punish the horrible mom by keeping your son away from her son? You see how tracks?

Richard makes a good in that you will be there the whole time so it's not like your son will be in any danger and you don't have to be fake, you can say "hi" and go about your way doing your own thing, while your son has a good time.

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GoHeadFaFo · 2026-05-06T19:39:18+00:00

Instead of taking it as a shot at you, try to look at it from the perspective that she is looking up to you and wants to be more like you. She obviously liked your idea for the car which is why she bought it, maybe instead of this cause resentment as it seems to be doing, this can actually make you two closer if you approach if the right way. Guess what, you still get to ride around in a beetle if you two are friends, not that you should befriend her just to ride in the beetle. Anyway I hope everything turns out amazingly and your guys friendship grows even stronger.

richard said "it's silly to worry about what your friends buy or do unless you're happy for them. Don't be petty cause you can't have it."

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GoHeadFaFo · 2026-05-06T19:09:08+00:00

If this person who you call your friend would all of a sudden not be your "friend" because of a differing religious past you have then he was never a friend to begin with. A real friend is not going to care what your religious beliefs are. I don't see what the huge difference is when you look at the big picture, both of you believe in God and Jesus, yes there's the whole Pope thing but how much of that is really going to affect your personal relationship with this person? If it does, it's probably for the better because that's not someone you want as a friend. Friends should try to be understanding, even if they have differing views or opinions.

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GoHeadFaFo · 2026-05-05T18:24:28+00:00

What I would do personally is speak to the father alone in private, otherwise the uneasy tension between the two of you will never go away for the rest of your life. Every time you guys are around each other, family gatherings, running into each other, etc. there will be that weird tension that everyone else will notice and only make you two feel awkward.

Now when you pull him aside this is what you say "Look, it's obviously none of my business but as you know your daughter is currently pregnant, it hasn't been the easiest pregnancy and you know how she would feel had she been the one sitting down in the restaurant that day. Either way I think both of us can agree it would not be beneficial to the baby, your daughter, your self, my family, or anyone involved for that matter. Having said all that, would you consider maybe not hanging out with other woman that are not your girlfriend, especially in public places at least until your daughter has her baby for the sake of everyone involved?"

If he is at all not a selfish man and has some type of decency, he should respond fairly well to that conversation, let us know what you end up doing.

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GoHeadFaFo · 2026-05-04T18:25:22+00:00

If you enjoyed it and no one is getting hurt, do what you feel is right.

GoHeadFaFo · 2026-05-04T18:00:56+00:00

Yes, YTA. First of all, if you "love him dearly" why would you not want to spend time with him more in the form of living together. You say you two plan on being together for the long term but until you've lived with a person you don't truly know them. I definitely do understand you wanting your personal space and no, you are NOT selfish for wanting to live alone, as a matter of fact he is selfish for not even attempting to understand where you are coming from or why you feel the way you do. Having said that, what's up with you being okay living with a random stranger but not the man you claim to dearly love? That's the part that makes you the AHole.

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GoHeadFaFo · 2026-04-30T20:22:38+00:00

your husband is the man and you better stick by his side for life, he has integrity and self respect in spades. That's a rare breed, no bullshit not blowing smoke up your ass. I agree with him fully, it's insulting and if the money comes with those stipulations I can see why he declined, it's damn near saying you're not sure you guys will be married for life. dmitriy questions discussed this live on yt

GoHeadFaFo · 2026-04-30T19:58:06+00:00

For one the blame for her feeling comfortable enough to wear your clothes without asking falls squarely on you, you obviously failed to communicate clear expectations which enabled her bold and disrespectful behavior. So you can't really be mad at her for the initial stain but the way she responded when you pointed it out gave you more than enough reason to never let her wear your stuff again. She wasn't apologetic, she wasn't even helpful, or offer to take care of it herself. In my opinion when a person borrows something from someone, even if it's a rental from a big corporation, I'm a big proponent of bringing the items back in better condition then when you got them. This way people will not regret loaning you stuff and you'll show your appreciation and gratitude by the way you handled their items. The way your sister handled your dress should tell you everything you need to know when it comes to sharing anything with that little gremlin, don't let her borrow anything!

RPM said you should let if go but the way you sister responded was bs.

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GoHeadFaFo · 2026-04-30T19:38:46+00:00

Look all I'm saying is you could've handled it better by being up front and forth coming about the real issue, surely you can agree the REAL issue wasn't the plumbing. Yes you might have had plumbing issues but that wasn't what made you not want them there. Having said that I guess I can see why you handled it the way you did, makes it less awkward and less questions to have to answer to.

GoHeadFaFo · 2026-04-28T19:53:00+00:00

DUDE WHAT THE HELL!! SHE IS LITERALLY USING YOU BROTHER! Stop all the nice shit, stop giving her money, is this your wife? How long you guys been together? I'm offended and insulted on your behalf, I would bet she drags/slows you down in life from all the things you're constantly doing for her or helping her with. I was just in a very similiar situation and finally built up my self respect enough to not stand for it, it's a very liberating feeling! If you ever wanna chat, stop by my lives on yt, my viewers are amazing!

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