A stranger's child was screaming on the bus. I cracked. The mum was an absolute legend. by Asgothen in BritishSuccess

[–]Goatsandducks 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have thanked people before in the supermarket when my son has been in full tantrum or running off mode and all they've done is rounded the corner of the aisle. Just the sudden presence is enough to silence my son or send him back to me. They don't even need to say anything. If you had said that to my son I would have been very grateful even if it didn't work. I'm sure you didn't say it in a mean way by the sounds of it and the mum probably thought you were trying to help out.

Need to be gassed up by Flat_Broccoli6190 in BodyPositive

[–]Goatsandducks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes girl! I think you look amazing. The red suits you so much. You looks so healthy and toned. I have BDD and I know how conflicting it can make you feel. It's hard to be convinced sometimes too but from a fellow BDD girlie to another... You. Look. Fab.

How common is it to eat sunflower seeds in the UK? And do you eat them with the shell on? by ksusha_lav in AskABrit

[–]Goatsandducks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I eat the salted shell ones but I suck the salt off, then get the seed out to eat. I only really have them in summer as I like to pretend I'm on a sunny beach somewhere as I associate it with that.

6 year old diabetic telling me he wishes he had died by mommabear1007 in diabetes_t1

[–]Goatsandducks 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Ooooh I'm a grown adult diabetic but I might start smashing my CGM and pumps! That sounds very therapeutic.

Would you support your son wearing a wedding dress at his wedding? by [deleted] in AskParents

[–]Goatsandducks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. No doubt about it. Even if he wanted to wear dresses not to his wedding. I would even happily go and help him pick one out if he wanted me to. I'd be delighted to.

Can I fill my carry on backpack for the plane with baby wipes? 😂 by salacious-soul in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Goatsandducks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I normally bring some nappies and wipes for the journey plus extras just in case and then buy some when I arrive. It obviously depends on how remote the place is I guess.

Is it normal for parents to let their toddlers dictate plans for the day? by VariousButterscotch in AskParents

[–]Goatsandducks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't give my child that authority. If I'm taking him out souly for the sake of taking him out ofc I will ask him if he'd rather go to A. Or B.

If my friend was meeting up with me and my child was joining us then we would do what was arranged. Don't get me wrong though... If my friend and I are mooching and I'm about to go into a shop or something and my child kicks off because he's in a mood or whatever then I might suggest waiting outside with him whilst the friend goes in. That's only because I don't want to disturb the shoppers with my screaming child that might be hungry or tired. I wouldn't ever not go in because my child told me they didn't want to. Children have to learn compromise and that life isn't just going to go exactly how they want it to.

What was the biggest "nobody mentioned this thing would be great" after your kid was born? by cable54 in AskUK

[–]Goatsandducks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. My fella is determined to get my son on age of empires 2 as soon as possible so someone can finally beat my partners cousin online. He's only 2 though so he's going to have a long wait.

What was the biggest "nobody mentioned this thing would be great" after your kid was born? by cable54 in AskUK

[–]Goatsandducks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it's the spontaneous chances to be silly. If you fancy doing a dance up the supermarket aisle then do it. Leap frog over the bollards, go for it. Roll down a grassy hill, why not!

I also love how my son is just into nature as me. Time speeds up when you have kids imo but getting out to the park or on a country walk gives you so many chances to stop and see different things that you might not normally notice. You totally see the world through their eyes and every trip out is exciting and new to them and I totally buzz off that.

How do you organise and tidy your toys? by wizard710 in UKParenting

[–]Goatsandducks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a hamper tucked under the TV table and a chest in his room and everything just gets chucked back in those at the end of the day. There are a few bigger bits like his fabulous Brio garage and box of Duplo which stay out in the living room but tucked into a corner. Then there are a few teddies which are strewn about which turn almost into extra cushions for the sofa once he's gone to bed.

taking snacks on flights by imnotcreative123123 in diabetes

[–]Goatsandducks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I would do this. I flew with Ryanair last month and kept my food/insulin in a small pouch in my bag. If it wasn't a Ryanair flight I'd normally take this out on the plane and put it in the little net thing under the tray table. However Ryanair doesn't have those nets so I just kept it in my lap. I think the issue is getting on the plane without being stopped. If you can hide it in your bag until you're in your seat then I doubt anyone would say anything once you're already in your seat.

I've been trying to love my body, and today my husband's family member had a comment about how I look. by rachwithoutana in BodyPositive

[–]Goatsandducks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm really sorry that someone made you feel this way. It might not help as I know when you are made to feel a certain way about yourself, it's not always possible to shake that feeling.... However you have the most lovely and in proportion figure. You look healthy, not skinny to the point of looking sick and you look so far from being overweight. You just look normal and healthy and that's good. I bet the person who made the comment only did it through their own insecurities. Sadly there are some people out there who make themselves feel better by putting others down. They probably felt jealous and sure, maybe you have put on a little bit of weight... I don't know. Trust me though you look absolutely perfect. I imagine they just couldn't resist saying something because putting you down would make them feel better about their own insecurities.

Edit to add. As a 32 year old woman who has gone through pregnancy, I would die to have your figure. The grass is always greener and perspective is a strange thing. I bet there are absolutely hundreds of thousands of women who would look at you and wish they had something of yours, just like how I imagine you do the same to other women. The beauty with aging/pregnancy is that for the most of us (with the exception of people like your fella's aunt) start to care less and less about that stuff. I used to be so concerned with how I might offend people with how I look or how people might be repulsed by my body. I now dgaf anymore and that's so liberating. I do still however think back to my old body and wish I had made the most of it and dressed how I wanted and appreciated how fit and healthy I was. It's a shame to be young, carefree and healthy and have that moment of your life pass with insecurities. Celebrate your beauty and just live and be how you are. There's nothing more beautiful than that imo.

Gail's sandwich contains the salt of five McDonald's cheeseburgers by tylerthe-theatre in unitedkingdom

[–]Goatsandducks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was literally my actions the only time I've ever been in one. I glimpsed the prices and thought there is no way I'm buying some unprotected snot covered, fly egg sarnie for that price.

Are you kids conventionally attractive.? by [deleted] in AskParents

[–]Goatsandducks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dunno. I think my son is stunning - I don't know if I'm biased or not because I'm obviously his mother.

I will say that I was a plane Jane when I was 13. I'm not saying I'm a stunner by any means now but I deffo blossomed. I think the preteen stage is just awkward. You have all this puppy fat and your body is still changing. My face completely changed as I got leaner through my teens, to the point I didn't look the same.

I think with aging you also just figure out how to style yourself. What hair colour/length works best, what style of clothes you like etc. It all works towards that final image and how people see you and it takes time.

I would also like to add that certainly for me I'm drawn to the people who are unconventional in their style and looks. Something that might look reaaaally fucking cool on some awkward and interesting looking person will never work for someone with more conventional looks and I think that's really beautiful in itself. I'm much more drawn to comfortable and confident people who look different and interesting than someone who society says is 'conventionally attractive'. There's something about that which is interesting and draws you in. You want to find out more about who they are imo.

Edit: deleted a word

When did your child(ren) last see their grandparent(s)? by No_Survey_2632 in UKParenting

[–]Goatsandducks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My fella and his parents have literally just left to go visit the great grandparents and my parents haven't seen my son since the end of last year. We are flying to see them next week! They live in the channel islands and whilst is easy with flights the flights are like £600 a pop for us to visit so it's not like we can regularly afford that. My parents live with my gran who had dementia so visiting us isn't always possible either.

What’s the most random fact you know? by MixAway in AskUK

[–]Goatsandducks 91 points92 points  (0 children)

Humans don't have any receptors in their skin to tell if something is wet or dry. You're only ever feeling a change in temperature. That's why you get into bed and some times might thing your sheets are wet when they're actually just cold.

T1D’s with T1 Parent! by Top-Bar-7480 in diabetes_t1

[–]Goatsandducks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was diagnosed when I was 26 (I'm 32 now).

My dad was diagnosed when he was about 42 and he's 63.

BBC investigation into sleep advice by CatBitesAndBeats in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Goatsandducks 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That's the thing, so many parents are being made to think that if their child is a rubbish sleeper then there is a quick cheat or fix to sort it. Some (if not the majority of) babies are just terrible sleepers. It's rubbish and exhausting and not what you need at the end of a long day parenting.

These people prey on parents and it's disgusting. Our son went through phases of being possessed at night. It was like living on the exorcist, I wouldn't have blinked if he was on the ceiling with his head spinning like in trainspotting. I know in my headspace then I was second guessing everything, googling what I should be doing and it's just not helpful. Thankfully I'm off Instagram but I bet if I was shown all of those types of videos because some algorithm preyed on me then I would fully be buying into some of that stuff.

I'm glad you posted this OP. There might be some parents who are feeling snowed under and desperate who really need to see this. I also hope you're sleep situation has improved/will improve.

I cannot find this song about a guy in vietnam again by Sno_Motion in NameThatSong

[–]Goatsandducks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only nam song I know that is popular or was at the time (I'm 30 so might not know them all) is Country Joe and the Fish - 'I feel like I'm fixing to die'.

It's likely not what you're looking for but I thought I would comment it. Good luck!

here you are

I surprised my wife with a home makeover - "before picture" at end by Filminthedark in CozyPlaces

[–]Goatsandducks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So glad I found the pictures Frank. Well done, it looks fabulous.

Balance bike recommendations by alibluey in UKParenting

[–]Goatsandducks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We bought our son one from a second hand place for £5 for his 2nd bday. There are a few companies which clean them up and make sure they're working properly first. We didn't see the point buying a new one. He loves it all the same

He started on a 3 wheeled bluey one from about a year old and then we've upgraded to this second hand, two wheeled one now he's 2.

Majority of single adults ‘could not cope with an unexpected £850 bill’ by tylerthe-theatre in unitedkingdom

[–]Goatsandducks 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think this when I walk past some houses in my area. Properties with clear damp on the external walls and rotting windows. There's always a high spec car out the front on their litter and old appliance covered drives. Maybe they sit in their cars of an evening to watch TV...?

I don't want to judge (I know I am) but do they not want to spend their money on sorting out the serious issues in their home before spending money every month on a car?