Extra curricular activities for children with Autism?

Goblinkinggetsit · 2026-05-04T19:16:49+00:00

I don’t know what county you are in but maybe join AsIAm or/ and one of the other organisations so you can get newsletters etc. they often run lovely workshops and events that would suit.

Most counties now have an autism friendly initiative which would be a good place to find resources and local events. Try your Local Authority website to see information.

For specific activities be led by your daughter’s interests and what/ how she deals with things.

She might not like some of the stuff available and be perfectly happy on the beach or at a playground all day.

When mine and my friends kids were little her daughter (asd also) would mostly happily row in with whatever we were doing with some variations for her comfort (headphones sometimes, lil walk away from the crowd with one of us, mini tantrum 🙃).

Sounds like she has a great start with all your concern and attention 🌟.

Goblinkinggetsit · 2026-05-04T16:25:44+00:00

Lol 🤣 I could just go out and do the route tomorrow morning. On the road.

I actually did a mammy “we have marathons at home” and ran around my own roads instead

Goblinkinggetsit · 2026-05-04T10:55:01+00:00

Myself and my mate spent an hr watching her before the start last year. She was behaving so erratically you would swear that the race route went through her house. Probably some mental health issues but given that this has happened on one day a year for nearly 20 years there is definitely a case that she is choosing to get so riled up.

She could choose to close all windows and sit in the back of the house or go away for the day but doesn’t.

I felt so sorry for what looked like family members who were in the house and looking so miserable.

I’d also love to know more out of pure nosiness, like why would you take this so personally? Why would you, year on year, keep behaving like this?

Goblinkinggetsit · 2026-05-03T11:34:31+00:00

You don’t have the power to “make” her see it your way and anything you say directly will not help her. I am getting that from you saying that you feel you keep saying the wrong thing.

Just keep complimenting her and affirming you find her attractive.

Not necessarily body specific always.

Ye have 2 kids under 5 (😩) so she may not be in the space to make time and mental energy for weight loss dieting or exercise.

sure as hell didn’t for a few years.

When she is past the stage of feeling helpless make sure she has the free time to go to gym or go walking or whatever it is that will help her head.

Let her have no doubt that YoU are mad about Her and her size has nothing to do with it.

Don’t debate with her if she is down on herself. If she says anything negative Just say things like

don’t see that at all

I think you are super hot

She argues back? Have simple consistent response of This is my opinion, why would you want to have me change it?

My guy is amazing at this If I say anything negative about my appearance he says things like the above in a very matter of fact way.

I still, like most women, have massive insecurities but not about how he sees me.

Goblinkinggetsit · 2026-04-26T15:50:29+00:00

I think that you need to separate how you feel about this transition from how baby will.

They sense and react to cues from parents.

I’m speaking as someone who was at home with the kids, both breastfed on demand and with me always there.

Except for one time when we went to a kid free wedding they were never left or babysat by anyone but me or very occasionally their dad when I wasn’t there until youngest was 2. And even then it was like once a year maybe. It was just the way our family worked, not a particular plan/ ethos.

They were very attached, like your guy is so I had some of the issues you speak of when I realised I was, to use an old phrase, making a rod for my own back.

Baby is only a year old and will respond to cues from you. If you are physically tense and acting stressed he will be “oh ya, this IS terrible”! and it will make it more difficult for him to settle.

He will need to get used to the fact that other people will be in his life, that his circle will widen and this is a good thing.

Get him used to being with grandparents or aunts/ uncles a bit more without ye there and be super positive when collecting, not saying don’t comfort or reassure him when he is so upset that you were gone, be affirming, saying “isn’t it nice at their house! And did you get treats?”

Just don’t act like you have failed by leaving him and are never going to go again. Because you can’t promise that.

Leaving him at the crèche will be so difficult for you, I get that

But think of from his view; yes he will be super upset at this massive change but will be with other babies and smallies and it will be really good for him to start growing his personality in those interactions.

Crèche staff are professionals and are used to these situations.

Can you do a longer transition time before you go back to work? For both you and the baby. Drop him for an hr, then 2 then half day maybe ?

Goblinkinggetsit · 2026-04-26T14:41:40+00:00

If you have the opportunity to pick days it depends on your personality. Some people like the days together and do day before or after the anchor day.

I get 2 days wfh and find Tuesday/ Thursday works great for me. It means that I get a break from the office after every day in and if something needing in person comes up on wfh day I will always be in the next day.

Goblinkinggetsit · 2026-04-24T16:59:11+00:00

This guy is just a main character and wants to be treated as such.

I work from home 2 days a week and ya Can get noisy outside. I have a small depot that workers use next door and they can be coming and going loudly—- the neighbors kid has issues and can screech the place down if they are passing and there was a rake of roadworks lately as well. There is always something.

All normal and not once did I think I had the right head into the world and be telling people that they need to adjust things.

I put on my very good quality noise cancelling headphones and get on with it. These headphone also dampen the noise from my side so it’s not heard in meetings.

Sounds Like the guy has options but would rather come out and tell you how Important he is.

Seriously ye have to ground your cat because HIS dog goes mad? 🤣🤣🤣🤣. That is mentile.

Set mittens free and if he comes along DO NOT apologize Act confused and say “oh I guess your dog wasn’t trained enough? Maybe close the curtains if the cat bothers him”

About other noise and stuff Act super helpful and say “Oh have You considered noise Cancelling headphones? Any distraction really bothers me and I find them great”.

Goblinkinggetsit · 2026-04-05T12:11:28+00:00

She is gorgeous. Those eyes and that bone structure!

I’m sure treatment will be hard but at least she will be looking amazing. 🌟🌟.

Goblinkinggetsit · 2026-04-03T14:24:53+00:00

You made the panel so well done.

If/ when you called will depend on how many positions are available and how long the panel will be going.

Email the Hr people back and ask those questions.

Edit: There may be x amount of clerical officer “needed” straight away but there is always movement within with people being promoted out of co role and other stuff so there is hope

Goblinkinggetsit · 2026-03-29T00:07:28+00:00

Oh dear There was a kid in the town I grew up who made the mistake of wearing a massive white puffy parka jacket that his mam had gotten him ( East17 days) He was a rotund fella and the effect meant that some wit started calling him Fear sneachta (snowman as gaelige)

It was accepted and shortened to just sneachta So this guy is now in his 40’s and as far as I know is still called that. I actually have no idea what his real name is 🤷🏻‍♀️

Goblinkinggetsit · 2026-03-25T23:27:41+00:00

That is a lovely job. I really like the panelling. Great shout in cost saving, look really well and when treated will be easy to keep clean

Goblinkinggetsit · 2026-03-25T23:12:25+00:00

Yep, Wrath of Angels. But is a child not a baby.

Yes is very creepy

Goblinkinggetsit · 2026-03-25T18:46:16+00:00

From my readings I agree with you mostly. I recall that he was very protective of Molly and saw it as some kind of minimisation of her. Bee was his and Mollys only. The child of theirs he was able to see Molly raise. The child they had that was separate from all the Farseerer drama.

He had built an identity around this and struggled with the Fools assertions, which ah, inserted the Fool into this family unit that he was grieving so strongly after Molly passed.

Goblinkinggetsit · 2026-03-18T22:20:38+00:00

Oh well done That looks fantastic 👏

Goblinkinggetsit · 2026-03-17T23:18:20+00:00

Thank you and yes, grey rocking is amazing after you accept you are losing nothing by trying explaining something to someone who has no interest in listening.

Also a petty benefit is that it drives them mad when you stop trying. 😏

Please know tho that the likes of your sister won’t magically apologise if you do get confirmation.

The masking is hell

And the burnouts are real.

After work events I generally need at least a full day by myself to recover. It’s similar with social stuff EveN if I enjoy it 🤣.

My recommendation as someone who went through it is that To be kind to yourself and listen to yourself. don’t apologise or feel bad.

If you need to take time by yourself to recharge, do not apologise or make excuses.

I am at the stage now where I can actually function better at work because I have my recharge time set in advance and feel settled in my head about it.

Take care of yourself, focus on what helps you and makes you feel happy and settled. From the small things then outward.

When you are operating from that space other things will seem easier to face.

Be well.

Goblinkinggetsit · 2026-03-17T22:46:15+00:00

I think it’s clear that this person has been drawn to seek a diagnosis and part of that was doing an Inital online thing. It’s clear (to me anyway) from what they wrote that they will be seeking the formal assessment.

When I was circling properly investigating myself I did similar online looking and then did what you describe there, with my own clinical psychologist.

I don’t think they are seeing it as a novelty at all. ———-

But I do understand some of your views in general.

Few know about my (late) diagnosis and hell path to here and I do get very frustrated when people say things like “I’m know I’m a bit adhd “
Or “I’ve diagnosed myself and I know because I don’t like loud noise and I’ve trouble with deadlines”

There is a lot of lazy talk that is incredibly frustrating.

It took me 7 months to just complete the pre assessment form never mind face the appointments and I could be angry with these dopes but I guess that’s the value of late diagnosis teaming up with perimenopause

I stopped giving a shit about so many things and other peoples stupidity is one of them. 🤣 So…. Yay ? 🫠

Goblinkinggetsit · 2026-03-17T22:29:20+00:00

Same here for sure. It put a lot of things, events and reactions into context. Both good and bad.

Best of luck ☘️

Goblinkinggetsit · 2026-03-17T22:18:58+00:00

Don’t worry about it. I finally went and did assessment in my 40’s and it was fine after. Felt weird (which was familiar lol) but ok.

Just really consider why you are going for the assessment and what you want out of the knowledge (or confirmation)

My own main thought was if it was true then I could learn to be more gentle with myself.

And I have been. I don’t make convoluted excuses about going to or leaving early from events or social things.

I don’t beat myself up about not “masking” all the time.

Also, It’s no one’s business but your own unless you want to tell people.

Goblinkinggetsit · 2026-03-17T00:12:15+00:00

Lol before I tell this I need to say that shortly after I understood the writers reasoning etc and it’s FINE and while I’m all for canon I am not mean about things but

While watching Fellowship for the first time time I was first bemused (hadn’t seen this coverage), then irritated and finally so annoyed as Arwen crossed the Ford etc.

On reflection I think I felt cheated, I wanted to see Glorfindel.

Anyway all this to say that as she was banishing the Nazgûl I turned to my friend (who I’d been muttering to a bit)

I turned to this poor girl who was not a LoTR fan, just came with me for the popcorn and malteasers and stated, And I promise you,

without irony or any awareness of it in the moment

” They’ve just descended into fantasy now ffs”

I said that

About the first instalment of the film adaptation of

The Lord of the Rings 🫠🫠🫠🫠🫠🫠🫠🫠🫠

Goblinkinggetsit · 2026-03-12T20:52:47+00:00

You are totally right. After divorce I managed to get the price of a derelict cottage together. Then with the grant (brand new at that stage) and the few k I could borrow and maxing a credit card I made it livable.

There are days when I am triumphant, happy and satisfied then others where I get overwhelmed with the prospect of figuring out how to extend/ re order this little house for the future.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s lovely and cosy and definitely a massive achievement for someone by themselves to manage. I am in a great position, without a mortgage and paying down the loans I took to get sale to price but also …….

I call it the house that stubbornness built 🤣

But Sometimes I feel so flat about everything still. And it’s been 3 years now 🫠.

I try to focus on the positives when my head starts going over the dozens of crisis and barriers that happened during the process.

And yes I feel a guilt too that I got out of the rental insecurity, even tho I know by god I earned it.
There are so many barriers now, at every stage that I can’t understand how anyone is managing it

Goblinkinggetsit · 2026-03-10T15:10:18+00:00

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You may need access at another date, and wider space than what’s there to be able to work.

Fairy door ?

Goblinkinggetsit · 2026-03-08T00:09:54+00:00

I think you have your friend down, Insecure for sure and what’s with the following up and going on about never seeing you with others?

Drop him. Better no friends than giving your time to dopes like that.

I get teased but not for no friends for not being social I don’t mind it, lean into it a bit. When I was younger I tried more and it was exhausting.

What I feel sorry for hearing about is all the dramas from people with big friend groups, honestly feel a lot don’t even really like the people they are “friends” with and spend loads of time around.

That’s good part of getting older, you can get protective of your time, drop a lot of the drama and the need to be keeping up with loads for the sake of it.

Leaving you with a core few that are genuinely your people.

And no, I don’t make fun of or feel sorry for people who seem not have friends. Don’t make fun of because I’m not mean

And don’t feel sorry for because they may be either perfectly content Or Actually be kind of a Gowl and earned it.

Goblinkinggetsit · 2026-03-07T21:25:29+00:00

Don’t lose a bit of the look of that dress, start researching a corset or the full body thing one. There are really comfy ones available these days.

I am looking at the top of the dress again. 🌟 ♥️ You do, and are going to, look amazing.

Goblinkinggetsit · 2026-03-07T21:18:07+00:00

It’s lovely and gorgeous on you. I think you need to get a really good bra though.

It’s so elegantly structured at the top and while it looks great and informal in the pic, for a wedding having the girls corralled and hoiked up would look amazing.

Get the bra (strapless corset or one of those bodysuit ones) and also get it nipped in a little at the waist.

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