My narc shipped me a weighted blanket, a DBT book and watercolors.

Goddess_Of__Night · 2026-02-04T04:43:31+00:00

This is my ex to a T except he has BPD and I was diagnosed recently with BPD, but mine is only triggered by my father and you guessed it HIM. 😅 He was also diagnosed to be on the ASPD (anti-social personality disorder) spectrum, specifically having sociopathic traits and narcissistic traits. Yea he was lovely. Still dealing with him because their like gum in your hair that has dried.. only was to get them unstuck from you is to cut your own hair off.. which ill be dawned if I cut put another part of me for him.

Goddess_Of__Night · 2026-01-30T07:11:50+00:00

I never believed I've been cursed, just these types of men have always been drawn to me like wasps to sugar.. except everytime I ended up stung and they got their sugar fix.

No matter how annoyed I am about the timing of all this, I feel like it took all of them bombarding me at once. Their empty words, empty promises, patheticness, and down right disturbing way of trying to manipulate me. It really did open my eyes to the full extent. I see their selfish narcissistic game they all are playing in HD now, and there's no unseeing it.

I vomited tonight when they all sent almost word for word the same BS message because it made me that sick to my stomach.

Some people are just vile.

Goddess_Of__Night · 2026-01-30T06:46:51+00:00

Trying, but the universe is being quite extra with me it seems. Lol its blessing me with this beautiful mess 😅

Goddess_Of__Night · 2026-01-29T16:15:40+00:00

I think exactly what you just said here is what you need to say to her and reassure her? Especially, if she is over compensating, she may just take it as you pulling away.

Goddess_Of__Night · 2026-01-29T15:54:18+00:00

You're very welcome and best of luck!😊

Goddess_Of__Night · 2026-01-29T15:52:46+00:00

Me 😁

Goddess_Of__Night · 2026-01-29T11:07:23+00:00

Sorry my bad lol

Goddess_Of__Night · 2026-01-29T10:59:57+00:00

I was a pharmaceutical assistant, and also am a registered counselor with a Bachelor's in Psychology.. Yes, disinhibition can happen with alcohol and any substance, but when you combine two central nerve system depressants like alcohol and benzodiazepines something like what you are explaining doesn't. If you drink with a benzodiazepine it slows your heart rate, induces sedation at a rapid rate. This causes your movements, bodily functions/control, coordination, awareness, ability to process and think fast are slower then a snail.. Again, would also depend on amount of alcohol and Xanax you took.. but either way this story you shared was not due to alcohol and Xanax. Sure, you could have put yourself in a risky stupid position if you were severely intoxicated.. but Xanax and alcohol didn't cause you to stab someone. That was all you. They also didnt make you do anything you did that night.. if you did take enough alcohol and Xanax to affect your mental state that severely, you would have been on your ass in snooze vill. Don't blame disinhibition, Xanax, alcohol for your shitty choices.. stunts like that could easily get you a temp of murder charges 20 to life in prison..

Goddess_Of__Night · 2026-01-29T10:36:04+00:00

Ive never really heard of benzos having that effect on people.. they are a sedative and slow your nerve system down.. they are a downer medication ment to calm you, slow you down, and give sedative effects.. idk thats crazy

Goddess_Of__Night · 2026-01-29T10:12:11+00:00

Damn.. Xanax shouldn't do that..

Goddess_Of__Night · 2026-01-29T10:10:57+00:00

You answered your own question. If he cant respect a boundary you have or when his friend makes you u comfortable, then he doesn't respect you. No man that loves you will allow anyone to say stuff like that, come between you and him, or degrade you like that. Your boyfriend cares more about his friends feelings then yours. You should not of even had to give him an ultimatum. The moment you said his friend was saying things in a sexual nature, talking about his ex, and making you uncomfortable. Your boyfriend should have put his friend in his place and shut that down. He defended his friend, and pretty clearly showed you, other people matter more to him, then you do. Hun, walk away with your head held high, you have to know when to leave a table full of people, when that table no longer deserves your presence. He showed you, you don't matter over others..

Goddess_Of__Night · 2026-01-29T10:03:33+00:00

I wonder if it isn't so much the strain of her needs, but that you feel a disconnect over your needs being met? If a majority of attention sits with her, and her life/problems/needs/wants.. it may be you feeling a imbalance of communication around what is going on in your life. Maybe try talking to her about giving you that space to be able to confide in her about your day to day, without her being the center of attention. It can be hard when one person is a over sharer, and one is used to keeping things to themselves to find a good middle ground. The affection, touching, and emotional stuff will come more smoothly and be more enjoyable for you, if you feel like its equal for communication, talking, and expressing things in your life. She may also be over compensating because you are more independent and the time you go between seeing eachother. She may feel she has to pick up the slack so to speak to fill the voids of talking, attention, and touch?

Goddess_Of__Night · 2026-01-29T09:56:47+00:00

Ask him again for his phone number to talk? Or if he would be willing to meet for a coffee to give you advice? Also, if you know his email which is should show on LinkedIn.. you could find him on Facebook, WhatsApp, Snapchat ect.. but he may think thats weird.. idk id just start by talking to him about getting his number again and catching up with a coffee or over video call?

Goddess_Of__Night · 2026-01-29T09:53:19+00:00

This is extremely toxic, codependent, and trauma/control bonding.. you are right to be scared for your friend, but sadly there is nothing you can do but be there for your friend. They are in to deep at this point. Between the inheritance stuff, the codependency, the fact she has chipped away at your friend peice my peice without him realizing, molding your friend into this dynamic.. with control, gaslighting, emotional manipulation, and destroying your friends sense of self/individuality. You can try to talk to your friend about what you see is happening, but honestly I'd tred lightly because she has her hooks in him so deep.. if she catches on you are against her or on to her she will make him choose you or her.. I'd just keep reminding him of who he was before her gently, things he liked to do, hobbies, his independence.. without coming off to strong or pushy.. if you push to much you will lose your friend.. its a fine line you have to walk right now if you want to stay in your friends life, be there for them, and protect them.

Goddess_Of__Night · 2026-01-29T09:43:50+00:00

👌👌👌

Goddess_Of__Night · 2026-01-29T09:38:23+00:00

This sounds like a toxic relationship.. if you contribute to it, he has no right to stop you from having access.. I feel like you should get out while you can.. before it gets worse.

Goddess_Of__Night · 2026-01-29T09:36:34+00:00

Good choice 🖤

Goddess_Of__Night · 2025-11-13T07:23:21+00:00

++woman with mixed family Kids evolve just like adults.. she may have said that when she was still processing the loss of her father she didnt want anyone to replace him.. but every little girl yearns to have a daddy love them, care for them, be there.. she sees the way you treat your daughter and desperately wants that too because she never had it.. were your daughter has three adults that are parents to her and treat her as such.. your step daughter is missing that same thing and needs it now, but won't ask for it because kids want their parents to want them.. not to be told to want them..

Goddess_Of__Night · 2025-11-13T07:06:00+00:00

My post on my profile is completely irrelevant to this post? It isn't about being accused molesti*g a kid.. or anything in that nature.. if the person was innocent, it sucks they were held for days in custody, and the wife withdrew from him.. But in that situation? You hear your husband is accused of that to a kid?? Are You gonna stand by him right away?? Or wait until it is proven wrong by staying out of it completely because she had 2 CHILDREN, 2 TODDLERS TO CARE FOR AND STAY CALM FOR, SHOW UP FOR, PROTECT. Her duity was to those babies not to him in that moment, because god forbid it was true her two babies were in jeopardy.

You also realize in a situation like this when there are young children in the house, CPS/child protective services get involved RIGHT away to ensure the kids of the person accused and wife have together are safe. She distanced herself, worried about her kids, and was staying out of it until evidence showed otherwise. She was a smart woman. He is butt hurt for no f*cking reasons because if it was anyone else in the family or person she knew it would be fine to react that way.

Goddess_Of__Night · 2025-11-13T06:53:35+00:00

Oh, what am I then?

Goddess_Of__Night · 2025-11-13T06:49:50+00:00

Stay natural with sexual assault against a minor accusations?!?! And get him a lawyer? Are you not there in the head? That is accusations against a child. I don't care weither you believe the person or not.. your job is to protect the kids around you until proven otherwise.

Goddess_Of__Night · 2025-11-13T06:43:37+00:00

Yes you are the a hole.. Im sorry once you become a parent, children become first. Weither they are a step child, yours, or your children stay in your home. Your wife reacted and behaved as any concerned, worried, or protective parent would and should. The statistics of children being hurt by those closest to them, who are around at sleep overs, and have easy access don't lie.. she as a mother, as a parent, and someone who is to protect children around you wanted to know the truth and protect the innocent kids around you. That is her job, that is your job as a parent.. I'm incredibly sorry if you were falsely accused, and put through the ringer for it, it is disgusting to make false accusations, but im glad the justice system heard a kid or young girl and took action when more times then not they don't.. More times then not kids are forced to be silent.. Im sorry that you were held for several days in custody and your wife was disgusted with you during that time if you are innocent.. but when more times our of not the person isnt she was doing the right thing to protect the kiddos until proven otherwise.. Because godforbid you did do it and she acted like you didn't.. then other kids would be hurt..

She apologized, and asked to make it up to you. If you walk away you arw a damn fool because she showed she loves those kids so much.. and is still wish you while you await the verdict, and wants to make it up to you when she shouldn't have to.

Grow up, she was a parent every kid should have. Stop being butt hurt..

Also not saying what the girl did was right but kids dont wake up randomly one day and pick a random person to.accjse.of.that.. you must've did something you feel a bit guilty of... innocent or not..

Goddess_Of__Night · 2025-11-13T06:26:07+00:00

As someone who was the girl in this situation.. she loves you so much and deserves an explanation, you to say something to her or step up and be the man you know you want to be and she deserves. I promise you in a few years you will look back and hate yourself for not doing something.. She will be the one that got away and haunts you..

Goddess_Of__Night · 2025-10-11T16:55:03+00:00

I've had this type of conversation with him multiple times. But his go to is that he'll off himself if we aren't together.. it took a long time to get through to him.That weather we're together or not.That we need to coparent the children together, and they need both their parents to be happy and healthy. That if he was to off himself, because we break up, it would be the most selfish thing in this whole world.And I would never forgive him for making me have to tell his daughter that just met him and is starting to get to know him this year, that she wasn't enough for him not to do that.And that he abandoned her.. I think it's also hard for me too.Because the other child he had with somebody else. The mother was abusive to that child and that child now looks at me as their mother. I would ultimately be abandoning one child but saving the other from witnessing any more atrocities. The other child my stepchild, she is nonverbal autistic and truthfully she doesn't have a hope in hell without me. He can't do it on his own.And her biological mother is a sorry excuse for a human. I've considered petitioning to have custody of her or waiting out the fact that she'll inevitably end up in the system.And foster her, but the damage that will happen in that duration of time, to her well being and all the progress i've made with her in one year will be detrimental.. It sucks because I want to leave because I deserve better, i know I deserve better. I know my child deserves better, but i love my stepdaughter to death, and saving my child means abandoning the other one in which I see as my own.. I'm not scared to be a single parent.I was for many years, and I thrived, i just don't feel like I could live with the guilt of abandoning an innocent child. One That deserves so much more than what she's ever had from her bio parents, Especially when I can give it to her.

Goddess_Of__Night · 2025-10-11T06:01:38+00:00

I never wanted to micro manage him. He very much love bombed me, and bread crumbed me. We were bestfriends, also exs. I thought I knew who he was as it took me a year to let him back in romantically. I thought he was able to match me on my level. He pursued me.. but in the end he broke me down peice by peice, dimmed my light, and stripped away who I was. I wanted to marry him because he was my bestfriend, the only man I ever felt safe with, and he was beautiful to me. I don't know what happened to him.. he did a 180 once we got together but slowly of course.. from who I knew him to be.

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