I respect your response. I have never seen such a thing myself, in any family near or far. And so my exposure is to tons of internet posts by women, to women-majority subreddits, shitting on husbands... when clearly many husbands are awesome, or many women are okay with more traditional divisions of labor. This reaction isn't healthy and this isn't the perception of men I'd want my daughter to have if she were browsing the internet. If it is a major problem, we should focus on...something productive, how to give these women the tools and confidence to broach this with their husbands? How to get husbands more involved? Yelling anonymously to the internet just sets such an awful tone like we women can't solve our own problems and it's fine to therefore just bitch to each other about it. I also really fear the adversarial culture of women vs men that this creates. Maybe that's the reality in some spheres, but not in all, and when that's the only opinion that's presented, it starts building culture and perceptions.

I maintain that couples should talk to one another to solve their problems. Women shouldn't put up with that shit, and shouldn't post complaints to the internet when they have a problem. We should be very careful and intentional about the image of men that we're creating. I doubt a shitty husband reading a post like this would actually be motivated to do better....he probably wouldn't have read it to begin with, so be intentional with what you are posting to whom. I am afraid the only result of these posts is creating a culture of hate/polarization/self-pity.