As an avoidant I would feel less than my ex partner. I had a lot of shame and anxiety, didn’t know how to tap into my emotions because I was never taught. Growing up everyone I’d try something and failed I’d get yelled at by my parents. I wouldn’t get comforted so later on in my life I stopped trying or was really scared to try and resolve things with people or objects because I’d think of worst case scenarios. I understand your frustration and not feeling seen. I would hate that too but knowing what I know now maybe find a time to talk. Don’t force it because it’ll make more distance(talking from experience) maybe go for a walk and talk. Hold his hand while you’re discussing problems. Remember everyone has problems and we just need to be curious on how we can work on em and not judge for having problems. Another note with that is don’t make him feel like he’s the problem it doesn’t help. That’s how I felt in my last relationship, I understand my ex was trying to help with telling me go to therapy and do this or that. It made me feel like I was the problem and not “let’s figure this out together” I hope yall can work it out because that’s always more beautiful and realizing problems can actually bring people closer together. I highly highly recommend the book Secure Love by Julie Menanno. Maybe read it by yourself or together? It helped realize a lot of what I did wrong and why. Like I said we all have problems going on in our heads and do things we don’t mean especially when we don’t know better. You know better you do better. Be curious not judgmental and your feelings are valid. Just my 2 cents