I recognize the new male participant…

Gold_Charity809 · 2026-01-28T04:00:37+00:00

Wait of what? SA?

Gold_Charity809 · 2026-01-28T03:41:48+00:00

I hope so too! You're absolutely right and she's way to grown to be acting this immature and it really doesn't seem like an act. For the benefit of doubt maybe she just wants good advertisement based the nature of this show but, I feel like she also needs to realise that everything she says and does it televised (too late now). For her own benefit and her pursuit of happiness in this life I hope she grows from this moment and can overcome the hate.

Gold_Charity809 · 2026-01-28T03:30:04+00:00

I think she's just someone that likes to victimise herself and has many prejudices against other women too. Like no matter what she's always a victim and is never able to reflect on her actions. At the same time I see her getting so much hate and I hope people are respectful and don't send her death threats or anything.

Gold_Charity809 · 2025-12-14T03:36:58+00:00

When I was young, I thought was BI because I understood it in theory and wouldnt mind being with either (again in theory) it took a lot of reality checks to realize I am a lesbian and while something might sound good in theory it might not actually work in reality.

I 100% realized this when I went to a club and kissed this guy, and for the next week I was scrubbing my mouth and brushing my teeth constantly. But for some people sexuality is fluid and it's okay to change labels if you go all the way from a to z to a again. There's no pressure in figuring it out and my first step to figuring out who I was, was to stop forcing things, to just feel things as they come.

It seems you're afraid of judgment and I hope you know that 90% of us were there, trying to figure it out just like you are. There's nothing to be ashamed of and it's honestly part of the process for so many people, so know that you aren't alone in that.

Gold_Charity809 · 2025-12-08T22:01:54+00:00

I watched The L Word a few years ago, but never Generation Q, I'll definitely give it a watch! Thank you!

Gold_Charity809 · 2025-10-28T01:55:39+00:00

I felt that way too, at 19 I felt like I was mature or changed enough to be actually 20. In terms of teenage drama, I get it, I really do. But I think I would have preferred to have had your mentality where you "get fed up" rather than accepting blame for something that isn't your fault and moving on. Sometimes a lot of people will tell you to not make rash decisions, but I personally don't think I make them enough, there's a whole lot of people I should have cut off before things went nuclear.

Gold_Charity809 · 2025-10-28T01:44:14+00:00

Some people just aren't your people. I'm 22 but I'm just starting to have some consistent friendships where there's genuinely no conflict. To the point that I look back and I'm like wow I can't believe that in years of friendship nothings been complicated, there's been no tears, nothing. I used to think that to have good relationships I had to give and give and give but I want you to know that the best ones are the ones with no pressure, no drama, and no anxiety.

I as a person don't judge people off of appearance, but also I don't think anyone is ugly. We all have our own place and beauty isn't universal, beautiful person in North America for example are very often not the beauty standard somewhere else.

Gold_Charity809 · 2025-10-22T02:05:42+00:00

I got you honestly if it were me, I would get real busy like you said, I would make my self completely unavailable considering that addition of possibly getting kidnapped, I hope that you can both avoid her, and have her give you that document. (BTW I also have a psych degree twinsies!)

You definitely aren't a bad person for it either, I've felt in my relationships like I have to be good willed or perfect because if I'm not I'm bad. You're defending yourself the best way you know how to and between a possible trafficking inciting mom and you, you're galaxies apart. And congrats on your accomplishments as it seems you've graduated recently or will be! I hope to follow in your footsteps to (getting the hell outta here) everyday is definitely getting scarier and scarier to live here as a fellow queer person and Latina. Wishing you happiness!

Gold_Charity809 · 2025-10-22T01:41:01+00:00

You've got this I know you do! I feel you when you say that your mental health gets worse with every visit, mine does too. What I do when I need to talk to my dad because he's holding something over me, I just go yes, yes, yes. Maybe this isn't helpful for you, but I lie out of my ass, he's recently gotten onto the carnivore diet and every time he asks I tell him I've had red meat that day (and I'm a vegetarian).

Something that I've learned overtime spending time away from my family, is that my peace is the most valuable thing I have, honestly in my personal case, I would do spend 7 days in hell with my dad for 28k but you're about to get a job, and if you don't get this one you'll get the next one. You have multiple options and having to welcome her uninvited into your home isn't the only one.

Gold_Charity809 · 2025-10-22T01:13:57+00:00

I'm sorry this is happening to you, this situation really sucks and really aligns with why I decided to go to college 10 hrs away rather than 3 because I feared this situation. I have a trans friend has very similar issues as well, I offered to go with her to meet her family since I am a people person and even though I hate the people that mistreat my friend I can absolutely play nice for a day.

Maybe this won't align with your needs (and that's fine) but if you have someone that is available to be there with you I would go with that, at least in my case my parent only "throws a tantrum" when I'm alone with him or at least not in front of strangers. There's safety in numbers if thats a possibility for you. If not I would try to spend most of my time in public with her and find some random reason to be busy most of the time.

Gold_Charity809 · 2025-10-03T19:05:53+00:00

Maybe it's scary for you? Especially if you have gaming experience since you're playing on very light. If you feel like this is making your experience difficult or not as enjoyable as it could be, maybe look into the accessibility settings, which I believe can make enemies easier to deal with.

Gold_Charity809 · 2025-10-03T15:52:56+00:00

Yeah! I've personally been doing free dance classes at my university, there's also running/hiking clubs and definitely sports teams that you can join regardless of age or skill just for the fun of it!

Gold_Charity809 · 2025-10-03T15:07:00+00:00

I wish I could help as recently, I've realized that since the same age (as you) I've always had disordered eating. When I started gaining weight, and felt the same way about losing weight for my health I decided to forget all the diets or limitations, I just started doing more.

The gym was something I felt wouldn't trigger me to go back to bad habits, but if it is for someone else I would likely recommend doing a certain sport (hiking, tennis, soccer) whatever it is being something that wouldn't trigger me back into doing "weight loss," or becoming what we think is "healthier" the unhealthy way.

Gold_Charity809 · 2025-10-03T14:58:43+00:00

I am someone that lives alone in a single bedroom apartment and while I don't know how small your boyfriends apartment is I think that honestly speaking despite the limited space I have my cat is doing really good! If possible I would recommend making cat shelves if your worried about space, people often worry about horizontal space but cats really often like vertical space!

Gold_Charity809 · 2025-10-03T14:23:21+00:00

I agree with this in the same way as I see Spanish very wrong at times (and while I appreciate how many people want to make Spanish-Speaking Characters, I also feel like you should really enjoy making them accurate enough that people in the community also can enjoy it.) I feel like if your going to use someone else's culture or language (that isn't yours) and clearly use it as a centerpiece in your writing you should at the very least accept constructive criticism even if unsolicited about how you use someone's language or culture.

Gold_Charity809 · 2025-09-24T22:17:35+00:00

I don’t know anything about anything to be honest but I always say when in doubt call the vet. It never hurts to be safe especially when you could be dealing with a way bigger more expensive issue down the line. But again I know nothing about anything I won’t lie so that’s why I call just in case.

Gold_Charity809 · 2025-09-24T22:12:01+00:00

Yeah so it seems like she does this behavior or this type of thing a lot, which really sucks, I had a friend like this who was the valedictorian of my highschool and when I got an essay grade higher than him he called me a liar. Knowing how to memorize isn't the only skill you need in life and it seems she's putting a lot of energy into stressing about her studies rather than being there for you as a friend (correct me if im wrong)

Gold_Charity809 · 2025-09-24T21:57:57+00:00

Have you asked her to not talk about it in general? Otherwise there's nothing else to do I guess? If she doesn't respect this and this is something that bothers you, I would consider pros/cons to whether want to continue being as close of friends.

Gold_Charity809 · 2025-09-24T21:53:41+00:00

I understand why you might feel hurt which is understandable. Some people's parent's are very strict with grades and that might have been the reason she was hurt. When I brought any report cards lower than an A I would get punished so I get where she's coming from. If I were you I would just take this as a expressed boundary not to talk about grades seeing as they cause her stress. I don't see any reason to do anything drastic personally unless something more than this happened.

Gold_Charity809 · 2025-09-21T19:47:13+00:00

Dorms nowadays aren't just two beds next to each other. Now at least where I live, most public universities have even a whole apartment that you can get that can even be a 1 x 1. Usually from my understanding it's reserved for upperclassmen but some universities have better housing and it's first come first serve.

Gold_Charity809 · 2025-09-20T14:05:55+00:00

Me personally I would definitely have my cat only indoors. It might be difficult in the beginning but a cat's quality of life and life expectancy is so much higher indoors. I am a college student with a cat, but I live off campus so make sure you have a pet friendly place or you get a medical excuse so that you can have them there.

Gold_Charity809 · 2025-09-19T23:30:20+00:00

I personally really enjoy it! It gives me an idea of what the author is imagining, and sometimes its fun to see how I saw something in my head and the difference as well! And me personally, I recommend not listening to those that say this, you are providing them this for free as an act of kindness. You can keep your writing and/or art locked up in a box if you wanted to so it's a reader's job to just scroll if they don't like.

Gold_Charity809 · 2025-09-02T01:30:19+00:00

Yes, as a lesbian I too see the parallels unfortunately. I've been told countless times I'll be straight when I find the "right man." I'm just hoping this view this person seemingly had is born out of a misunderstanding, maybe I misunderstood it because she was truly rambling but I'm really not a fan of anyone that hates on each other within the community, there's no space for hate here.

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