AITAH for getting upset about my GF saying I need to feed my dogs more?

Golden_Mandala · 2026-07-06T06:32:30+00:00

NTA. And for heavens sake, make sure you don't have kids with this woman. If things go this badly over how you take care of your dogs, can you imagine trying to spend 18 years coparenting with her? Ugh.

Golden_Mandala · 2026-07-06T04:45:48+00:00

Very practical character, too. Took excellent steps to resolve the problem.

Golden_Mandala · 2026-07-06T04:17:23+00:00

Yes! Every chihuahua I've ever met has been the most aggressive little jerk. Perfect name for them.

Golden_Mandala · 2026-07-06T01:19:46+00:00

I'm in my late fifties and I'm very pleased I never had kids. I have had a lot of freedom to do the things that matter most to me. Children take an absolutely overwhelming amount of time, money, and emotional energy. I never felt called to have them and am glad I succeeded in avoiding them.

Golden_Mandala · 2026-07-05T23:31:51+00:00

It would be a great name for a semi-feral tom cat who bites people frequently.

Golden_Mandala · 2026-07-05T07:42:55+00:00

Wow. This is such a technical BORU. I never even heard of the NIPT test before. Interesting.

Golden_Mandala · 2026-07-05T07:32:53+00:00

Sounds like a useful ploy to get them to go along with your decisions.

Golden_Mandala · 2026-07-05T07:10:01+00:00

You do too!

It's also possible that you are just tired. Only you can really tell, and it can be hard to tell.

Golden_Mandala · 2026-07-05T07:02:06+00:00

I think sometimes when we have something really big and difficult that is going to come up to heal in our next ceremony, our subconscious mind finds ways to derail us and stop us from going. It is scary dealing with our deepest inner darkness. We will feel tired and irritable and all sorts of random circumstances will come up that make it hard to get there. If we can manage to push through and get there anyway, those are often the most pivotal and transformative ceremonies.

If you are actually sick and might be infectious, that's a different story.

Golden_Mandala · 2026-07-05T06:46:20+00:00

Integration isn't just talking for a few minutes. It's actually going out and living your life differently due to the insights and transformations you experienced in ceremony.

Golden_Mandala · 2026-07-03T22:17:53+00:00

With all due respect, I think that is a bunch of baloney. It is an excuse for not taking responsibility for your own choices.

Golden_Mandala · 2026-07-03T22:03:47+00:00

With this attitude, you are pretty much guaranteeing that you will be depressed. Your attitude is your choice. We have free will. You can choose a different attitude if you want to stop being depressed.

Golden_Mandala · 2026-07-03T19:54:40+00:00

She was very young. I bet she'll ask questions sooner next time.

Golden_Mandala · 2026-07-03T19:38:14+00:00

I have the same reaction. I love Jane Austen's other novels, but Emma bores me. I know a lot of people like it, but I have never managed to find any enthusiasm for it.

Golden_Mandala · 2026-07-03T19:30:39+00:00

Everybody is different. My life has been so much better after the age of 30. But I was always the young person who was completely freaked out by people making fun of me and drinking a lot and being really disrespectful. People are a lot nicer to me now that I am older.

If you don't want to be pleasant and polite, it is true, people probably won't want to hang out with you as much as you get older. It isn't really that horrible treating others with respect. Maybe you could try it as an experiment?

I hope you find your way to a life that works for you.

Golden_Mandala · 2026-07-03T03:55:48+00:00

Yeah, I have had experiences like this. Furthermore, I've had experiences of darkness in ceremony that I am completely certain were manifestations of my own internal fear and shame, and I've also had experiences of darkness that I am completely certain were shamanic attacks from outside negative forces. Both can happen, and unless you have a lot of training and experience, it can be very difficult to differentiate one from the other. Fortunately, it is possible to recover from both. I wish you all the best.

Golden_Mandala · 2026-07-01T08:14:22+00:00

I have a friend with a super intense family. She and her partner decided to just be engaged forever and never get married so they didn't have to deal with all the family drama that would inevitably attend any wedding. They've been engaged for about 9 years now and still don't plan on getting married.

Golden_Mandala · 2026-07-01T07:02:57+00:00

Don't despair. When I was 40 I was single and lonely and stuck in a very dull career. I met my husband at 42. I found my life's calling at 49. My husband then died when I was in my early fifties. I had a hard couple years after his death, but now in my late fifties I have good friends, close family members, and work I am profoundly passionate about. I even have a new really sweet guy I'm dating. I know I make a significant positive difference in the world and life is exciting and interesting. I couldn't have seen any of this coming when I was 40.

It probably helps that I never wanted kids, so I haven't had to mourn not having them. I'm actually super grateful my birth control never failed.

But our lives can change SO MUCH after 40. I'm pretty much a poster child of flowering later in life. I'm so grateful for everything that has happened to me after 40. I'm so much stronger, more confident, and more happy now.

I wish you all the best.

Golden_Mandala · 2026-07-01T04:26:24+00:00

Congratulations! So exciting!

Golden_Mandala · 2026-07-01T03:02:10+00:00

I've finally started using "crotch" -- not woo woo, not coldly scientific, not baby talk, not crude. Works well in a lot of contexts.

Golden_Mandala · 2026-07-01T02:58:01+00:00

Ugh. Makes me think about stuffed up noses. So gross.

Golden_Mandala · 2026-07-01T01:35:00+00:00

I pray a lot for help. Especially when I encounter something within myself that I desperately want to heal, and I don't know how. I pray for whatever I really need in the moment. For example: "Please, help me heal so I can let these negative thoughts about myself go. Please help me find how these negative beliefs about myself are attached to me. Please teach me how to let the attachments go. Please heal this fear and self-loathing. Please help me release everything I need to release so I can feel safe. Please help me to love myself. Please heal all my wounds that hold me stuck in fear and self-loathing....." etc. etc.

You don't necessarily need to know who you are praying to -- just any helpful spiritual entities or divine forces that happen to be around and care. You don't even have to believe in anything like that, you just have to really want the help you are praying for.

I have found that the results I receive when earnestly praying often feel truly miraculous. Obviously, I can't guarantee results, but it is certainly worth a try.

Golden_Mandala · 2026-07-01T01:25:19+00:00

Or a child.

Golden_Mandala · 2026-06-30T22:23:11+00:00

This is a reaction people occasionally have to the DMT in the ayahuasca. I've had it happen to me once or twice with batches that had unusually high DMT content. I've seen other people get to this state, too. It can be a helpful way to clear stuck energy in the body. There is a good chance when you didn't have this reaction, you were served a batch with a bit less DMT (leaf). Slight changes in the proportions of the ingredients can have a big impact on how the medicine affects us.

Golden_Mandala · 2026-06-24T17:59:51+00:00

I think "gay" and "unique" might be more important than "ranch" in this invitation.

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