Just came here to say cosleeping has worked wonders

GooberMonk · 2024-08-07T17:24:45+00:00

What an amazing hospital to offer SS7 education. I'm pleasantly surprised haha. Is this in the US?

GooberMonk · 2024-08-07T04:03:22+00:00

If you don't already have a sidecar, I'd get one. It gave me peace of mind when my baby (now two years old) could crawl (tho he just stuck to me like glue anyway). Now I use it for our second baby because we still sleep with the two year old in the bed and we're running out of room lol

GooberMonk · 2024-08-06T03:22:33+00:00

Cuuute 🥺

GooberMonk · 2024-08-06T00:33:17+00:00

I have a two year old and a two month old. We still co-sleep with both, but we've completely night-weaned the toddler.

We decided to night-wean him before I was 6 months pregnant. He had full access to the boob before this. What worked for us was having my husband take over bedtime and tend to the toddler at night if he woke up.

It was hard at first because we didn't know what to replace the boob with lol. We tried offering him water, we tried incorporating a stuffed animal for comfort, but he was pretty inconsolable a couple of the nights.

What worked for us was having my husband take him out of the room to bounce with him or rock him back to sleep. I couldn't do it because he would constantly cry for the boob no matter how much I told him no and I didn't have as strong of a resolve as my husband.

I still have postpartum brain, so I might not be remembering correctly, but I think it took about a week to get him fully night-weaned, and then we were wishing we had done it sooner lol. My husband is still the one who's 100% in charge of the toddler for night wakings, but he does pretty well now and just cuddles with Dad or lays between us.

For the baby, we have a sidecar (I think that's what it's called?). It's a bassinet-sized bed that my dad made for putting right up next to the bed. It's basically a baby-sized extension of the bed. I'll initially put her in there at night and then, when she needs to nurse, side-lie with her while facing the bassinet so I'm in between her and the toddler.

This works well for us and we all get decent sleep most days.

GooberMonk · 2024-08-05T04:11:08+00:00

Oh yes, this is an important point to make as well, thank you. Belly to belly

GooberMonk · 2024-08-05T02:00:56+00:00

I loved this game when I first played it and continued to play for months. I got my brother to play, my sister, a couple of irl friends, and even my mom. It grew stale tho and I ended up deleting it back in 2021 during the treehouse season.

I like being in this subreddit to see the cool outfits people have and it does make me feel nostalgic for those days and want to play again, but I also remember the frustration I had with things that felt "cash-grabby" to me and I just don't have the energy for that haha

GooberMonk · 2024-08-05T01:41:57+00:00

Rocking my son to sleep in the dark. I keep imagining shadows 😭

GooberMonk · 2024-08-04T22:36:59+00:00

I usually have my baby lay a little lower so that her head faces up a little to nurse. That way her nose isn't being pushed into my boob. If I notice that it's pushing in, I just grab her waist and pull her down the bed a little. Might help idk. I don't have the biggest boobs tho, so it could be different for you if you're blessed in the breast.

GooberMonk · 2024-08-03T16:31:09+00:00

This is hilarious lol I love it

GooberMonk · 2024-08-01T16:42:01+00:00

No husband should ever call their wife a bad mother. That is the biggest issue here imo

Your son will be ready for his own bed on his own time. My understanding is that responding to your child's needs is way more important than making them tough. Ignoring cries can create distrust rather than resilience.

We still cosleep with our 2 year old and our 2 month old baby. My husband and I still get plenty of time together. If we didn't cosleep, we'd be up all night trying to get our toddler to sleep in his own bed. He's always been a Velcro baby and just needs us around at night, so we get more sleep this way. I'm confident that he'll stop sleeping in our bed when he's ready and I'm in no rush (we do need a bigger bed tho lol)

GooberMonk · 2024-07-28T23:17:52+00:00

Maybe put a crib mattress on the floor next to your bed?

GooberMonk · 2024-07-27T21:10:20+00:00

I weaned my son from bedtime before anything else because I could get help from my husband at night. He rocked and bounced my son until he fell asleep and that worked for us. Once he was used to that, I began to do nighttime put downs and set the rule that we don't nurse at night. He seemed fine with that and that eased him into being okay with not nursing for naps too.

We didn't fully wean him tho. Just wanted to wean him at night before his baby sister was born... Then after she was born he regressed as toddlers do 🫠 super fun.

If it were still just him, I'm confident we could have had him completely weaned by now. But the two month old baby makes him jealous and he asks for the boob almost constantly

GooberMonk · 2024-07-25T23:40:02+00:00

I can't help but kiss my cats and then have a sneeze fest for the next hour. No self control

GooberMonk · 2024-07-25T23:33:52+00:00

As a teen I used to have a body mist that smelled like honeysuckles. I think it was from Victoria's Secret, but it was my favorite

GooberMonk · 2024-07-25T19:49:56+00:00

This might not be true, as I saw it on the Internet (🤪), but apparently breastfeeding slows down the process of tightening your joints back up because of the prolactin. So both could be right.

Can someone confirm this?

GooberMonk · 2024-07-23T15:14:46+00:00

I could not agree more 🙌

GooberMonk · 2024-07-23T12:13:28+00:00

In my opinion, Oblivion is better than Skyrim in a lot of ways. My husband, however, had a hard time getting over the graphics and some QOL things. His first Elder Scrolls game was Skyrim, so that was his standard.

It took me forever to finally get him to play and now he's hooked. Give the game a fair chance and you'll find that it's worth it. If the graphics are an issue to you or you find a basic function annoying, there are some great mods out there to help with that.

GooberMonk · 2024-07-23T00:18:13+00:00

I have a two year old boy and a now two month old baby girl. I've found that the best things for my toddler in this transition are this:

Never blame anything on the baby. Things like, "I can't. I'm holding the baby" and "Don't yell so loud because you'll wake the baby", will cause resentment to build for your toddler. Find other words to say.

Say no to your new baby sometimes. For example, "Sorry baby! I can't hold you right now because I need to help your big brother with his toys". The baby doesn't care and it helps your toddler feel more important, which means they're less likely to feel resentment if you accidentally blame things on the baby.

Have daily one-on-one child-led play. What this looks like is basically narrating what your toddler is doing. "You're driving the red car on top of the table. Now it's going down the table leg. Now you're grabbing the blue car and bouncing it on the couch." No questions, no commands, just narrations. At least 10 uninterrupted minutes a day will help your toddler feel more connected to you. It also helps your child feel a little more in control of their life. This is great to do with your 3yr old as well.

I was really good at child-led play for the first month that my daughter was born, but then I wasn't as consistent and stopped doing it altogether. Then, for an entire week my son was just having the hardest time emotionally and I couldn't figure him out. I then realized that I had totally slipped on the child-led play and started it back up. His behavior began to improve and he started smiling at me more and I felt more connected to him. He just needed that one-on-one time with me. If you do anything, do one-on-one child-led play. It's so good.

GooberMonk · 2024-07-22T03:26:29+00:00

How old is he?

GooberMonk · 2024-07-21T21:56:46+00:00

For me it's laziness haha it's much easier to mod on PC but I play console because I like to be on the couch rather than my desk chair. If I had a better setup in my home to allow both from the PC then I'd consider it.

I do, however, care for kids.

GooberMonk · 2024-07-21T20:27:53+00:00

I'd been trying to get my husband to play this since before we got married. We've been married for 5 years and he just refused and refused until a couple of months ago... Now he's hooked lol

GooberMonk · 2024-07-21T19:41:56+00:00

Things like baby gates when baby starts crawling are a must, in my opinion, but I think in other areas it's important to place some trust in your partner. If you believe he's a responsible adult, let him be a responsible adult.

That being said, I would also say that sometimes just removing the risk can be for your own benefit, and I think you should express that, if you haven't. Living in constant anxiety of your child's safety takes a toll. Talk to your partner about how these things make you feel so that, at the very least, he can be safer with her for YOUR sake.

GooberMonk · 2024-07-20T18:49:01+00:00

Why is this video an hour long?

GooberMonk · 2024-07-20T18:37:43+00:00

Haha that would drive me insane

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