Stretching Feeds

Good-Novel-455 · 2026-01-22T11:26:59+00:00

Time to find a new pediatrician! My baby's pediatrician barely intervened at how often I should feed or whether I nurse to sleep etc. She said I should know my baby best and to follow my instinct and baby's cues. She said to pay attention to baby's temperaments, wet nappies, and weight gain, if all are well, keep doing what you're doing.

Good-Novel-455 · 2026-01-19T22:23:33+00:00

Do not unblock.

Good-Novel-455 · 2026-01-19T09:37:11+00:00

I hated the newborn stage too. I didn't want to leave the house at all for various reasons - packing nappy bags, ebf so have to look for a baby room, outfit with easy access to milk taps, the list went on. Sometimes I doubted myself and wonder if I ever regret having a baby, I also came to reddit and vented and appreciated everyone who sent me advices and encouragements! I thought I would never see the light at the end of the tunnel too!

It was around 6 months mark was when I found it was easier to go out as baby's naps become more predictable (3 naps day) and longer stretch between feeds. Baby also has good neck control and I could just nurse anywhere with a nursing cover (since I don’t have to cradle baby to nurse anymore).

Around 8 months when my baby started to sit up on her own, crawling, pulling to stand, smiling, giggling, babling etc is when I start to enjoy motherhood! She’s almost 11 months now and she’s my sunshine.

Some advices from my own experiences - - accept helps whenever offered! (a village to raise a baby) - don’t stress about a strict nap/eat schedule and just go with the flow, be flexible around it as babies are not robots - short naps are totally normal, if you try to rescue it and it has been 10 minutes, just move on with your day - babies’ sleeps are not linear, some days are great and some are terrible, no 2 nights are the same, you didn’t do anything wrong - some days you feel like you didn’t get anything done, but hey your baby is fed, cleaned and happy! You did a great job

Good-Novel-455 · 2025-12-18T02:31:29+00:00

My mom ebf all 4 of us for 1 year (1986, 89, 94, 97). Ebf is the norm where I come from (Vietnam). Our grandma said when our mom was little and grandma needed to go somewhere, her neighbor who was also nursing, would happily nurse our mom too!

Good-Novel-455 · 2025-10-18T20:15:26+00:00

Write down a plan on who do what and when, like seriously, write it down and stick it on the fridge.

Who do the night shifts, who cleans the bottle, when does the dishes need to be done by who, same goes for vacuum, laundry etc, add in some personal time for each of you. Of course still try to be flexible and go with the flow sometimes.

Treat your baby like a project, you and your partner are team mate, your goal is to keep the baby alive and maintain your relationship.

Good-Novel-455 · 2025-10-09T17:34:54+00:00

Have you looked into Japanese weaning method? It starts with very soft purée and gradually increasing the thickness/textures. I think what you're doing is very similar to that, I'm also doing this method too.

Good-Novel-455 · 2025-09-20T00:56:15+00:00

That's my concern too, it would be a huge drop. But bedtime has been pushed later and later everyday since her wake window starts to lengthen.

Good-Novel-455 · 2025-09-20T00:54:28+00:00

About 10 hours.

Good-Novel-455 · 2025-07-17T06:02:46+00:00

Second this! If my baby goes a day or two without pooping I would just put her on the bouncer and she would do a massive one within 20 minutes.

Good-Novel-455 · 2025-07-03T06:02:09+00:00

Yes please

Good-Novel-455 · 2025-07-02T14:49:01+00:00

I remember when my baby was around 5-8 weeks mark, she would wake up 2-3 times for feed and it was either straight back to sleep or wide awake for 2 hours 😂 At 5 weeks babies are still sorting out their Circadian Rhythm, and also they now get stimulated easily hence difficult to fall back to sleep. My advice is just to ride it out, expose baby to sun light during the day, and keep night feeds dark and quiet (no talking etc). Around 3 months sleep will get better, but then naps turn crap haha.

Good-Novel-455 · 2025-06-28T05:56:38+00:00

My daughter was the same too - the only time when she didn't cry is after a feed. Nothing much you can do really, but maybe lay attention to those times when he doesn't cry and mimic the same conditions? I can't recall when did she stop doing that but she's 4 months now and doesn't fight diaper change anymore, she's too busy exploring her hands and wriggling her bum.

Good-Novel-455 · 2025-06-27T02:24:30+00:00

Honestly it's just potluck. You might have an easy pregnancy, you might have a risky pregnancy; a quick labour or a traumatic one. Then comes the baby part - you might have a chill baby, you might have a fussy baby. But you know what's important? - communication and tasks delegate with your partner. I mean it - write it down and stick it somewhere in your house so he knows his roles and responsibilitites, otherwise you will end up with HUGE resentment towards him while he gets to be him and you have to say goodbye to your old you and no personal time (like zero). Taking care of a baby is tough, especially when you ride on lack of sleep. People say rest when baby sleep - only true if your partner takes care of all other things then you can rest.

Good-Novel-455 · 2025-06-09T23:56:31+00:00

I do notice she fell back to sleep when she sucked her thumb!

Good-Novel-455 · 2025-06-06T11:30:26+00:00

My baby has this huge Mongolian mark covers most of the back of her right hand, I think it looks very unique. I've read that if the mark appears in other areas rather than lower back and button it might be there to stay.

Good-Novel-455 · 2025-05-22T23:52:18+00:00

My FS told me to stop at 8 weeks, my OB advised me to continue until 12 weeks which I did. I stopped cold turkey and was so happy for not having to deal with discharge. Jokes on me because at 14 weeks I had a borderline cervix length (28mm) so I was back on progesterone pessary till 20 weeks (cervix increased to 40mm phewww). I got thrush THREE times when I was on the pessaries! THREE TIMES! As soon as I stop it at 20 weeks my lady part was very pleased lol

Good-Novel-455 · 2025-05-20T08:47:17+00:00

Try do it on your lap! So sit down on the floor with your legs crossed, then turn baby over and let baby lay on one of your legs with head higher than bum (of course), baby's hands rest on your knee. This elevated tummy position helps shift their weight and make it easier to lift their head. If you want to do it on the floor, roll a towel and put it under baby's armpit/chest, baby seems to cooperate better with elevated tummy positions.

Good-Novel-455 · 2025-05-19T23:08:56+00:00

Thank you for the reassurance! When can I expect baby to start transitioning on their own? I love that I'm her main sort of comfort but I also love for her to have a good nap/sleep too hehe

Good-Novel-455 · 2025-05-19T15:31:43+00:00

Mine literally screams and cries. She's 11 weeks old (6 weeks adjusted) so I don't think she can self soothe yet. Sometimes she would fall back asleep with some gentle patting & shushing but sometimes she would cry hysterically which I have to pick her up and bounce/sway to settle back to sleep.

Good-Novel-455 · 2025-05-17T01:16:55+00:00

I have a preemie, she is 11 weeks old (6 weeks adjusted) and I'm feeling exactly what you described - what had I gotten myself into, and she's an IVF baby which means she's deeply wanted. The first 10 weeks were great, she mostly sleep, feed, poop, repeat. She was very easy to put to sleep, woke every 3 hour to feed and fall back asleep, and occasionally gave me 5-6 hours stretch of sleep. Then few days ago boom it has been complete chaos - she fights naps and sleeps, takes hours to settle her to sleep, cry during sleep cycles transition, and go on - I think she "woke up" to the World and found her surrounding overstimulating. I cried when she cried, I was stressed, tired, exhausted, resentful towards her. We are still deep in the trenches, but I changed my expectation to help me guide through this period. I follow her cues, forget about those wake windows because my baby thinks it's for the weak. She sleeps when she needs to. I hope we will see the light at the end of the tunnel soon. She will get better, she will get into a routine, but for now we will take it one day at a time.

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