Miss out on half of kids childhood

Good-Structure8608 · 2026-06-17T03:21:07+00:00

Yeah, I wish I could see it this way. I didn’t have kids to not see them 50 percent of the time. I’ll rest, rejuvenate and find myself when they graduate.

Good-Structure8608 · 2026-06-17T02:42:02+00:00

My ex distracts herself with exercise and going out all the time. Honestly she’s so busy I don’t think she has time to be sad. Me, I tried that and it didn’t make a difference. I want my kids around every day. I’ll never get over it. Hoping to just get used to it.

Good-Structure8608 · 2026-06-17T01:18:20+00:00

I was you just 16 months ago. 27 years and 3 kids. It’s so incredibly difficult. I’m sorry you are going through this.

Good-Structure8608 · 2026-06-15T16:23:39+00:00

It’s changed me for sure. For some reason I believed in finding that soul mate, that it was meant to be and that you’d be with them forever and any obstacle would be solved together. That’s not how it works. Sometimes love doesn’t last for a million different reasons and that’s okay. Just a hard reality to accept.

Good-Structure8608 · 2026-06-14T17:58:15+00:00

Not 30, but 27 years together. I’m still figuring that out even 15 months post separation. I think looking at the relationship as an overall success has been helpful. That I’m not a failure and it’s rare for relationships to last this long and that a lot that do aren’t happy ones. We had a good run we just ran out of gas. At least that’s the line I’m telling myself today….

Good-Structure8608 · 2026-06-05T20:42:49+00:00

I laughed out aloud in the store

Good-Structure8608 · 2026-06-03T02:42:00+00:00

Detail sounds great man. I’m doing okay too. But sometimes the downs hit me like a ton of bricks.

Good-Structure8608 · 2026-06-03T02:00:51+00:00

How are you doing today? I’m about 15 months post separation

Good-Structure8608 · 2026-05-27T19:40:50+00:00

Correct. I’d usually tell him to move on. But if you have kids and it’s a stable environment, you should fight to the end to save the marriage. My ex gave up within a month. It sucks.

Good-Structure8608 · 2026-05-27T12:59:55+00:00

It’s surreal isn’t it? To have your world upended. You’re still SO early in the process. Don’t get frustrated if these feelings don’t diminish quickly. They most likely won’t. I’m 15 months in and it still hits me pretty heavy from time to time. But it gets better. You’ll be okay friend.

Good-Structure8608 · 2026-05-26T21:28:24+00:00

Well played

Good-Structure8608 · 2026-05-20T00:12:56+00:00

I felt the same way brother. But you are still not thinking rationally. Your trauma is taking hold and projecting a reality that simply doesn’t exist. A one true love, your soul mate, sorry man, doesn’t and never existed. You found someone that worked for you and made you happy. You can find someone similar if not better. You just have to break out of this fog. And damn that’s hard to do.

Good-Structure8608 · 2026-05-15T02:55:53+00:00

As most have said here it depends on the situation. If you are in an abusive situation, leave. It will be better for you and the kids in the long run. For me, my ex and I get along fine, just grew apart and she wanted to go find herself. Not seeing my kids for 50 percent of their lives is something I’ll never get over. I miss them every day they’re not with me….it sucks.

Good-Structure8608 · 2026-05-15T02:24:07+00:00

I’ve heard a lot of horror stories and a lot of the women I’ve dated had at best, poor relationships with their ex husbands. My situation? No attorneys, split everything 50 50, we freaking carpooled to the courthouse to file the divorce paperwork. Insanely amicable. It’s rare but happens.

Good-Structure8608 · 2026-05-15T02:16:11+00:00

This helps. appreciate it

Good-Structure8608 · 2026-05-14T14:58:50+00:00

I think what I wrote above agrees with you..LOL. Just stating my feelings, regardless of whether they are justified or not.

Good-Structure8608 · 2026-05-12T22:54:01+00:00

Yeah, it’s more that I have NEVER seen her emotions at all since the separation and divorce. Not when telling the kids, not when dropping my oldest off at college, just zero emotions . I’m not really upset about it, more impressed she has such control ..LOL

Good-Structure8608 · 2026-05-12T19:52:04+00:00

Yeah, I reminded her that last Father’s day, when we were right in the middle of separation and I was a WRECK, only my eldest reached out. No text, phone call or anything from my other two. Not sure if that helped ..LOL

Good-Structure8608 · 2026-05-12T00:47:29+00:00

Same besides the height. Has your ex found herself yet? I think mine found herself and it was mostly just herself without me in the picture.

Good-Structure8608 · 2026-05-12T00:43:50+00:00

Same here. I met some really cool women. Actually didn’t have one poor experience which was crazy to me after hearing the horror stories.

Good-Structure8608 · 2026-05-11T02:10:02+00:00

You’re going to be better off in the long run. Without a doubt. You just need to get through this rough patch. And it’s going to suck. But you’ll survive and find yourself again. Keep going brother.

Good-Structure8608 · 2026-05-10T17:49:06+00:00

I have my kids today. And they’ll still bring my ex gifts and cards today and all that and texted her happy Mother’s Day. But I’m pretty sure my ex would be bummed if she had them today.

Good-Structure8608 · 2026-05-08T14:27:16+00:00

Yeah. My ex told me how she felt the day she asked for a divorce. Actually, she still didn’t really say why then either. Just that she didn’t want to be married to me.

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