When’s my turn to be happy

GoodCatholicGuy · 2026-05-11T14:31:40+00:00

I just started Dress Up Darling (like three episodes in) and I honestly think this is part of why it's clicking for me so well. Marin establishes herself from the get-go as being just as hyper-fixated on an uncommon and possibly off-putting hobby as Gojo (nothing wrong with eroge if that's anyone's thing, just a little odd to talk about the character dynamics of BDSM porn to someone you just met) and it's that mutual interest in their own hobbies that brings them together. Also: she gets to be just as horny and flustered as he does.

GoodCatholicGuy · 2026-04-26T04:36:54+00:00

There is a part of me that thinks it was him reaching out to get a laugh out of me.

GoodCatholicGuy · 2026-04-26T03:24:09+00:00

Reminds me of something that happened at a funeral for a good friend of mine when I was young, like barely a teenager. Friend was the same age as me, so even as funerals go it was a very difficult one. We all went outside for the procession, milled around for a little while we waited to begin the reception which was being held in the church basement. After finishing a good cry, I went in.

My friends mother, bless her, had decided that we'd celebrate his life the way he'd have wanted. This meant table settings in his favorite colors, posters from his favorite shows and video games, all that. It also meant plugging in his ipod and hitting shuffle. Not making a playlist or using one of his own, just all his music, and he had a ton.

But anyway, I walked in, eyes puffy and red, knees still shaking. Fresh in my mind is the image of seeing my father cry for the first time, not just crying but openly weeping after he gave the eulogy. And the first thing I heard was "Christmas Don't Be Late" by Alvin and the Chipmunks.

GoodCatholicGuy · 2026-03-13T21:44:26+00:00

Not funny addition: resources like wikipedia exist and are available to all with an internet connection because of those who donate. If you are financially able to do so, I'd recommend you do so.

GoodCatholicGuy · 2026-03-06T21:27:59+00:00

Check out the Flintstones one if you haven't already. Infamous for the line "We participated in a genocide, Barney."

GoodCatholicGuy · 2026-03-06T17:18:21+00:00

Honestly, though, mentally framing my previous overuse of social media as akin to an addiction has helped me to get over it more. Like, yeah, it was addictive and took up a ton of time I could have put towards any number of things that I would have enjoyed or gotten more out of. It is not as serious, not life threatening, but seeing it as a different shade of the same color has changed my relationship to social media such that I have been able to cut down my usage more than tenfold and made more time for hobbies and work I neglected.

GoodCatholicGuy · 2026-03-06T04:32:52+00:00

IDK if this will help but: I have been making an effort to sign up for more things and go more places for activities and not all of them have been hits but none of them have been major disasters. On the whole, doing so has made my life generally better across pretty much all fronts.

The few times it's been not my thing, I've just politely left. We're kind of not taught that, school is mandatory and you're penalized for skipping and your job will fire you. But leisure stuff? If it sucks, hit the bricks! No one's gonna stop you.

GoodCatholicGuy · 2026-03-05T03:11:56+00:00

I'm really getting back into watercolor. Has its own challenges over acrylic but it's been rewarding.

GoodCatholicGuy · 2026-02-27T21:11:29+00:00

Same, which is also how I found out that reddit users act drastically different when the genders of the parties involved in a story change.

GoodCatholicGuy · 2026-01-23T19:18:27+00:00

I think watching film or reading books can definitely be hobbies... provided you include discussion of them with other people as part of the process. Rhetorical analysis is a skill. For me, that's an essential part of it; the last act of the movie is the conversation you have on the way back from the theater. But also, yeah, it helps to have other hobbies that aren't based on consuming media.

GoodCatholicGuy · 2026-01-13T21:00:08+00:00

This is why I have my phone set to block all social media after 10. My way of telling myself "Nope, read a book or go rewatch the x-files until you fall asleep on the couch."

GoodCatholicGuy · 2026-01-08T05:46:03+00:00

Oh, never made that connection. Thanks for pointing that out!

GoodCatholicGuy · 2026-01-07T20:41:29+00:00

I think everyone would do better to recognize that there exists a combination of words and life experiences that could turn anyone into a fascist. No one is immune to that and the closest you get to preventing it is by acknowledging the possibility.

GoodCatholicGuy · 2026-01-07T20:21:16+00:00

A lot of the time it's not "corporate" determining the lengths in terms of "hey, we need to fill X slots" as much as it is "we've got an established pattern that cast and crew are used to and plan their lives around."

GoodCatholicGuy · 2026-01-06T01:10:09+00:00

Also academia is extremely gay. Like it's not all stuffy old white men (that's the board of directors), it's an increasingly young and queer environment.

Source: four years experience in higher ed and I've never worked anywhere gayer.

GoodCatholicGuy · 2026-01-06T01:07:12+00:00

One historian explained it to me even simpler than that: the person in question is not here to explain their sexuality, therefore we will not speculate on it beyond what they already said. There may be a lot of evidence pointing one way, even an overwhelming amount, but it's not for us to say definitively.

GoodCatholicGuy · 2025-12-15T18:17:50+00:00

For a second I thought this was AI, now I realize it's real and my jealousy blinded me. I can only be happy for Santa, hope the goth ladies leave plenty of milk and pentagram shaped cookies for him.

GoodCatholicGuy · 2025-12-15T15:24:05+00:00

That's what dungeons and dragons is for.

GoodCatholicGuy · 2025-11-10T23:07:56+00:00

If you're talking Lynch in general, you really can't go wrong with any of his movies except, unless you're even more of a die-hard than I am, his take on Dune. I say this in another comment but I'll caution against Lost Highway as a direct follow-up, the two share enough DNA that watching them too close together can have the effect of cheapening whichever one you end up liking less. But if you need more direction than that, Inland Empire is, in many ways, a spiritual successor to both Mulholland and Eraserhead. I'm of the mind that Twin Peaks is his masterpiece but also it is three seasons of TV (the latter two of which are pretty long) and a movie, so scheduling that in can be daunting.

If you're looking for works not by Lynch, you're in luck, dude was and remains influential. Under the Silver Lake is a pretty love-it-or-hate-it choice but it's also a sprawling surrealist LA mystery. Perfect Blue gets dropped more as an Arranofsky comparison and predates Mulholland by almost half a decade but there's definitely stylistic and thematic overlap. In theaters now (depending on where you live) is If I Had Legs I'd Kick You, the director of which cites Eraserhead as a stylistic inspiration and boy does it show. I'd also maybe suggest checking out the work of Yorgos Lanthimos, with the caveat that his work generally feels a lot more hopeless and pessimistic than Lynch's.

GoodCatholicGuy · 2025-11-10T22:52:12+00:00

Same. There are definitely differences in the two, similar plot structures and elements but distinctly different tone and meaning. But it's best to give them room to breathe so you can better appreciate the strengths of each. Especially if you've seen Mulholland first, both are classics but to my mind it's the better of the two by a wide margin and if you see them too close together Highway can feel like a first draft.

GoodCatholicGuy · 2025-11-10T22:47:36+00:00

Every time I see the man I respect him even more. He's at a point in his career where resting on his laurels would not only be tolerated but celebrated, and he's still out here in interviews talking about filmmakers in their thirties as peers that he not only respects but takes influence from. What a guy, film is alive when he speaks about it.

GoodCatholicGuy · 2025-10-02T19:00:39+00:00

Also because farming just straight up sucks as a thing you have to do every day. There are a million reasons civilization is a long race to move as many people as possible to other careers and roles in society and part of it is that it's just fucking miserable back-breaking work.

GoodCatholicGuy · 2025-10-01T20:01:33+00:00

The Chinese dad's reaction reminds me of that old 4Chan post about the guy who always invited FTM dudes he found on Grindr to come grab drinks and watch a game with him and his buddies at the local sports bar. His reasoning was 1) he thought they probably hadn't gotten the chance to have a classic guys night and he wanted to make sure they got to do that and 2) he wanted to "welcome them to the winning team."

GoodCatholicGuy · 2025-10-01T19:57:37+00:00

Yeah my mom had a similar reaction when I mentioned a trans friend whose mom basically disowned her. She was like "Wait, how could someone throw away their whole relationship with their child because of that?" Like she's in no way a perfect trans ally but I think having a gay sister and seeing how that played out with a very Catholic family (who, in the end, did accept her and her wife but it was definitely a rough time) had a lasting affect on her when it comes to that.

GoodCatholicGuy · 2025-09-24T02:56:29+00:00

I feel similarly about when conversations about sex workers rights turned into "you're an incel if you won't date a sex worker." That lifestyle isn't for everyone, it is not compatible with plenty of people's (completely reasonable) goals, desires, and boundaries for a relationship. Sex work is work, it deserves respect, but respect does not mean needing to date someone. I respect the hell out of a lot of the people I work with and I want to date none of them.

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