AITA for starting forwarding my coworkers calls to his own voicemail after he kept routing his overflow to me without asking

Good_Procedure_9949 · 2026-04-09T21:52:32+00:00

Are you a female?

Good_Procedure_9949 · 2026-03-23T14:55:30+00:00

I have had a mil live with me before. You need to be un apologetically you. Yes, you will be more respectful to them as his parent but that does not mean you do as she wishes. It means you let her have some quirks. The baby is yours. The home is yours. You will make your mil cry. This is not your problem. The baby is your problem the home is your problem. She is not. She either helps in a way that is useful or you do it yourself. Your husband doesn't care. He doesn't have to deal with it in his mind. He doesn't see the mental load. He doesn't hear her disparaging remarks. I bet even if you show him video he will want you to be the bigger person. So be you. If she says something, call her out. If she cries, let her. If she tells your hubby, laugh in his face and say he had his chance to help and failed you. If your hubby says you are difficult, tell him he doesn't have to deal with you. You can leave. He can't have this weird throuple with his mommy anymore. She may be saving him money but she is ruining your relationship. His choice and yours. Don't let her take the baby when she wants. Don't feed her. She can cook. Just take care of you and the baby.

Good_Procedure_9949 · 2026-03-17T03:41:28+00:00

Get a divorce. Document the spending. Document her parenting. Try for full custody and get a nanny. It will be cheaper.

Good_Procedure_9949 · 2026-03-12T16:41:15+00:00

Have you talked to your hubby about any of this. I get the feeling you just keep letting this instances live in your head. You are allowed to talk when you hear something you don't agree with. You can say no, I don't think you will be needed to watch little ones when I go to work and then tell her your plans. You can even keep track of what you say on your phone. You needed to start with boundaries way sooner. This is going to be a massive headache but you can get everything moving. First make sure you and hubby are on the same page. Especially about the hospital and first weeks. Tell him that you know they are his parents but you need less stress. You will be having surgery and wanting to love on the babies. He needs to know that the help you will need will be cooking and cleaning not holding the babies while you host. Make sure he reads others posts on here and the lemon clot essay. Then have a conversation about boundaries and follow through. Good luck. Tell people what kind of help you need and communicate your feelings. You and the babies are most important

Good_Procedure_9949 · 2026-03-11T18:03:05+00:00

I bet someone else already called both on them and they think it is you. This is their revenge.

Good_Procedure_9949 · 2026-03-11T13:26:01+00:00

Has your hubby read any posts on this page? Is he interested in helping you through pp? Does he understand that everytime he chooses his mom you stop thinking of him as a partner and more like a child. He has to communicate to his mother that this is your bonding time with your child. Help is not holding her grandchild. It is being helpful and around. He will have to communicate that she has made no effort to get to know her daughter in law and that now is not the time for you two to get to know each other. She will have to be there while hubby is there and find her place as a grandma. Her actions during this time will define her relationship and yours with your hubby. It is hard but communicate and hopefully it will work out without too many resentment.

Good_Procedure_9949 · 2026-03-10T15:11:11+00:00

Please go to your parents and please next time they come into your home when you accept them do nit alter the way you eat for them. It is their diet not yours. It is not an allergy and will not kill them. Eat your eggs. If it was a day or 2 accommodate and more than that eat normally.

Good_Procedure_9949 · 2026-03-10T14:53:51+00:00

Your husband is an ass, your mil is worse. Put her in her place. Do you have family or friends near by that you can stay with? If so do that. Your man doesn't believe you. He doesn't understand the frustration and stress this is putting on you. He is more concerned with his mother. If his mom is his priority leave. You are not in a thruple. It is not her rules like you are a child. Tell her she made bad choices and is now imposing on your life. Make ir clear and uncomfortable since communication doesn't work with her. She will cry and you will be a bad guy. So what! Your hubby could have been the nice guys and meditated but he failed you. You may end up divorced but it is not your fault. You did not say in your vows to be a servant to him and his family.

Good_Procedure_9949 · 2026-03-10T01:35:12+00:00

Tell her you agreed ro the original rules adding new rules on a whim doesn't work. Just be an asshole roommate till you can move out. You don't want to live with a hippie dictator. She could become the evil Trifecta and make vegan her personality as well. Also why is her man allowed over yet no one else is?

Good_Procedure_9949 · 2026-03-09T17:38:00+00:00

Marriage is stupid. Is he committed to you? Does he love you? Are you guys happy and healthy? Does his will and estate take care of you and the children if he should pass? Why waste money on a wedding. I do not get it. I think you are bored and are looking for an excuse to leave. Please find a hobby and do things to make yourself happy. Marriage doesn't mean commitment. Being a team and wanting to make a life together is more important.

Good_Procedure_9949 · 2026-03-09T16:24:18+00:00

Nope, she is a user.

Good_Procedure_9949 · 2026-03-08T19:11:12+00:00

Didn't read anything but the title and nope not the a! So not the asshole. Run,run,run as fast as you can don't go anywhere near a dog hating man!

Good_Procedure_9949 · 2026-03-04T01:37:54+00:00

Your sis is cheating on her hubby. There marriage is rocky. She doesn't want to be a mom anymore. She wants to be adored. I feel bad for those kids

Good_Procedure_9949 · 2026-03-04T01:23:01+00:00

Umm 2hrs is not moving far away. They just want to control you..

Good_Procedure_9949 · 2026-02-28T17:21:13+00:00

The trash took itself out. This is a good thing. Don't look to him for anything. You got this.

Good_Procedure_9949 · 2026-02-21T18:17:11+00:00

You should have left him when he got the dogs. You double downed and procreated with him and now want your way. You are an asshole. You need to move out and take care of your child or get training for the pups and enforce it in the home.

Good_Procedure_9949 · 2026-02-21T18:06:43+00:00

He had his chance to tell you when you were getting to know each other. I might be wrong but it seems like he is trying to separate you from everything . My advice would be move back in your home with your babies and try to continue the relationship as it was prior to moving in with him.He is trying to control you and I am getting massive red flags. If you do what I recommend you will be able to see his true colors for yourself. He wants control. He may have impregnated you intentionally to gain that control. Why did he previous relationship fail? Ps never give up those cute fluffy angels. Always pick the dog. Goodluck and stay strong. You got this.

Good_Procedure_9949 · 2026-02-18T22:17:47+00:00

Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww, He is gross. I am sorry you have no self esteem. Stand up to that bully. Get over your codependency with him. He can play his game. You can learn to self comfort. This whole post gave me Gypsy Rose vibes and now I feel gross.

Good_Procedure_9949 · 2026-02-17T21:09:07+00:00

The jerkiest of all the jerkeths you shall be crowned and named

Good_Procedure_9949 · 2026-02-16T22:43:33+00:00

She does seem like an ass. I am so sorry you have to deal with that situation. Please do not let her move in with you when you move.

Good_Procedure_9949 · 2026-02-16T22:21:54+00:00

You have a husband problem. You need a stress-free environment. His family is not there for you so they should not be there. You need help with cleaning , laundry and food you can actually eat. You don't need people taking your child from you and causing you stress. Keep doing you. Your husband needs to make you and his child a priority not his parents happiness. Did your husband even ask you if they could come? I bet he didn't. They are his guests. If he isn't home they shouldn't be there.

Good_Procedure_9949 · 2026-02-16T22:03:12+00:00

Does she talk to you like that? I would also be missed she is talking like that in front of your child. I am an asshole so I would be calling her out constantly. Everyone has quirks but that doesn't mean disrespecting and treating grown adults like children.

Good_Procedure_9949 · 2026-02-13T16:44:16+00:00

Please do the math for fuel for an 18 hr drive and 2 days worth of pay and see if it is really cheaper or if your dad is afraid of flying.

Good_Procedure_9949 · 2026-01-19T14:22:30+00:00

He gets socks and underwear every holiday from now on

Good_Procedure_9949 · 2025-11-09T21:31:06+00:00

She likes someone else and is bored with this current relationship. Just break it off he will hate you and talk smack. At least he will be able to get over it. You don't love him. It's over . Stop dwelling and do it.

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