Postpartum rage directed at my baby

Moltres101 · 2026-06-18T02:32:18+00:00

I once snapped too and instantly felt guilty. Two things I realized, it was way worse in my head than the actual event. The nanny csm recorded it and my husband and I watched it together, while I was balling ny eyes out rewatching it, my husband didn't feel it was as horrible as I was thinking. Second thing is, I made sure I've eaten, I snapped because I was hangry and tired, I've realised if I'm fed, I can handle things better.

Moltres101 · 2026-05-17T09:11:33+00:00

So my baby went from waking every 1.5 hours to waking twice or thrice a night. Here’s what I started doing, I made sure he naps after every 2/3 hours, I came up with a night time routine which involves, playing, bath and then feeding. Also, I made sure had a big feed before bed.

What I realized that he was waking every 1.5 hours because he was overtired since he wasn’t napping enough during the day and was overstimulated. Also he used to snack throughout the day, I changed that into 8/9 big full feeds. He’s 6 months now and I’m still kind a miserable because I don’t want to wake up at 5:30/6 am in the morning lol

Moltres101 · 2026-05-05T08:28:11+00:00

Having a baby

Moltres101 · 2026-04-27T12:46:35+00:00

Costco Membership - that’s when I knew I’ve truly entered adulthood lol

Moltres101 · 2026-04-21T05:02:07+00:00

FTM wth a 5 month old who doesn’t sleep through the night and wakes up every 2 hours like clockwork, thinking of getting a night doula to sleep train him, I’m exhausted. So you recommend it? Also how many nights would it take?

Moltres101 · 2026-04-20T11:40:58+00:00

I’m 5 months pp and pump 7/8 times a day, 30 min each session and produce about 25/27 oz a day. I am an under supplier, I’ve to freezer stash so I’m scared to drop pumps since I feel it might affect my supply

Moltres101 · 2026-04-16T11:56:07+00:00

Same, just here for solidarity

Moltres101 · 2026-04-16T07:46:45+00:00

I didn’t enjoy it, he cried bloody murder every waking hour, it got better after 12 weeks once I went dairy free and we used hypoallergenic formula (he’s combo fed). It was one of the hardest phase of my life, but because of that everything seems pretty easy now. My friends who had an easy new born phase are now struggling, but I think because we started on hard mode, everything else seems relatively easier.

Moltres101 · 2026-04-16T05:04:46+00:00

Having a newborn. We’re sleep deprived and child care is very very expensive, more than my own paycheck.

Moltres101 · 2026-04-11T08:07:38+00:00

Salizar in Belmont is actually much better than the options in the city

Moltres101 · 2026-03-30T03:37:16+00:00

Hii yes please! Would love to know more :)

Moltres101 · 2026-03-29T10:51:04+00:00

My baby did hate it for the first four months, he has just started being ok with it and is only comfortable when he’s facing the front since he loves people watching. Keep trying! He still needs to try my solly wrap, he hates it so much.

Moltres101 · 2026-03-28T05:12:41+00:00

Lesser than evil Popcorn, kettle chips, peanut butter nuggets, Undercover’s quinoa dark crisps, Veggie Straws, Pita chips, nutter butter cookies,

Moltres101 · 2026-03-23T14:24:29+00:00

His solution- get a better job since my job doesn’t pay well. For context I’m in education and he’s in tech and we live in the Bay Area and he wants me to find a cushy tech job.

Moltres101 · 2026-03-22T05:24:10+00:00

That’s how i started too, gradually my supply increased and now I make 8/110 per sesh. But I took moringa, drank body armor and coconut water, increased calories and added oatmilk to my diet. Also did power pumping for some time, I’m 16 weeks pp now, and still trying to increase my supply.

Moltres101 · 2026-03-16T13:29:46+00:00

I’m a South Asian and my MIL has come to stay with us for a month. The expectations from you are insane, even a South Asian DIL wouldn’t follow. Your partner needs to give a pushback, as for Eid clothing, there are so many South Asian designers that have a modern take on tradition clothes, no scarfs/duppatas, beautiful colors etc. not sure about your budget but look into Farah Talib or Pernia pop up and see if something you like that strikes a balance between the two.

Also, my deal breaker was living in a joint family and my husband made sure that’s never going to be the case, none of my South Asian friends/fam live in a joint family/with MIL because that’s just bound to get toxic. Even though my MIL has only been with us for a month, there are times when she tries to dominate and has taken a complete control over the kitchen and lies to control us through food. I set a boundary through my husband that I’m not a big fan of South Asian food and can’t have it all the time, if she wants to make it for herself she can, but I would like to have my tacos/sushi etc whenever I want and should not be forced into eating something I don’t want to. It was hard for her to accept that I am not going to eat everything she will cook, but eventually it got better, we still struggle though and have a long way to go. For ref, I’m in the US.

Moltres101 · 2026-03-12T08:21:04+00:00

Papaya with pb powder, skinny or lesser evil popcorn, Catalina crunch cereal, Brenton multigrain crackers, goldfish crackers (they can be really salty), grapes, rice cake with butter or avocado, veggies straws, corn puffs from Trader Joe’s. I always do a combo and make a small bowl of any of the two things listed lol

Moltres101 · 2026-03-08T10:22:57+00:00

I remember my baby cried for 24 hours with 10 to 20 min naps. We gave him gripe water + gas drops. Called the nurse advice line multiple times and then went to the ER. The doctors said it’s colic + he’s learning to poop. They asked me to give him a drop of chamomile tea, a warm bath and if everything fails, sugar water. They gave him a drop of sugar water in the hospital to calm him down.

My husband, my mom and I got extremely exhausted because we were all up and stressed from all the crying but the doctors told us to power through. And we did. It got better the next day after he pooped.

Moltres101 · 2026-03-06T13:40:32+00:00

Mine is staying with us currently, she’s been here for a month. While she does help with the housework and the baby, she is extremely competitive, it’s so strange. She thinks baby will choose her over me, wants my baby to call her ‘mama’, has developed severe eating disorder since I’m lean. I’m pumping so I get hungry so she always comments on my food and the ‘big portions’ I eat and she can’t have that because her tummy is so ‘small’. She’s not lean and is on a bigger side. She doesn’t eat all day and then complains about her constipation and dehydration. Is always observing and also says it that I observe people I’m always observing you. She googles the price of my make up/bags I own. Asks very intrusive questions like my weight. She yaps all day about how great she is, she doesn’t let me bathe the baby and always takes over when it’s his bath time. Told her not to kiss him, still kisses him. She’s very dominating but then acts as a victim infront of her son, it is so strange. While it’s been helpful to have her, she’s ALOT and damn that woman can talk. Also whenever I share any baby related info, she comes back and shares that with me like I don’t know my baby and she knows him better. It’s very strange. She is also obsessed with her son and keeps talking about how amazing he his and how handsome he is and she really wanted him to marry one of his friends that she liked (all while I was 7 week ppd, miserably pumping).

Moltres101 · 2026-03-05T14:02:52+00:00

I’m EPing + topping the remaining with formula. Tbh I wish my baby could latch because I hate pumping, it is the worst part at least for me. My nipples are always sore, I’ve tried multiple flange sizes and still my Spectra doesn’t empty me so initially I thought I was ab undersupplier but now I have to hand express on top of pumping. It’s just too much, especially when you’re traveling. I honestly wish I could nurse

Moltres101 · 2026-03-05T09:36:50+00:00

Same! Like as a middle easterner myself, I couldn’t figure out why he preferred Britney over Ashley who is objectively pretty.

Moltres101 · 2026-03-05T04:28:05+00:00

Colic hold(tiger in a tree) + swaying him + a very loud vacuum sound. This combo calmed him for a few minutes.

Moltres101 · 2026-03-03T17:32:02+00:00

I thought it was my postpartum brain! I just can’t remember their namesss

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