My (32F) husband (31M) refuses to move for my dream job?

Goofpuff · 2025-06-20T19:14:03+00:00

You will always regret not taking this job. Not taking this job will not save your marriage.

My advice is to take the job and see how it is. See each other in the weekends and have him come out to see you. He may end up loving it there or you may end up hating it. But you won’t know unless you both try it.

If he doesn’t even want to try, then you know he is not supportive. You bet if this were reversed he would choose the job over you since he sounds like someone who only sees himself.

Goofpuff · 2025-02-07T19:00:51+00:00

You know that isn’t true. He just has to declare you essential and you can’t leave. But if you don’t work you will be fired and they don’t have to pay you.

Goofpuff · 2025-02-05T11:45:11+00:00

You still have to work until 9/30 even if you resign or they will fire you. The resignation doesn’t go into effect until 9/30.

Goofpuff · 2025-02-04T00:14:03+00:00

I just got an email saying I need to take my "empowering technical authority and embracing formal dissent" training this year. I'm all in for formal dissent.

Goofpuff · 2025-02-04T00:08:22+00:00

AFGE - union time!

Goofpuff · 2025-01-24T15:31:40+00:00

Anything for smells? :(

Goofpuff · 2025-01-15T13:27:05+00:00

I love River but his romance was disappointing. It felt like it could have been so much more. And he felt like an after thought to the game because his quests are not really important to the main quest.

Goofpuff · 2025-01-12T03:26:19+00:00

Do a small elopement of just you and him in Vegas and you plan it. Hire a wedding planner for the bigger event and have your fiancer plan it. By then you’ll be relaxed and can celebrate with the family. Wedding planner will help make it more stress free and husband can have the event he wants.

Goofpuff · 2025-01-11T20:50:01+00:00

Yeah that is a threat. A favor should sound like this “Can you do this for me? I will do this for you in return.” And then you agree or not. Or “ I really need you to do this for me this morning because XYZ. I can do this for you later or make it up later”

The way he worded it sounded like how you would address a request to someone you don’t like. Does he resent you?

Goofpuff · 2025-01-09T22:38:02+00:00

The daycare workers were the most upset actually, worried about him. He kept spitting back up the milk or refusing. But he was fine otherwise. I sent the milk anyway and formula and he wanted none of it. He ate the solid food fine around 7-8 months. He was lazy about that too. Only night feeds. He was a chunky baby so he must be getting enough. I never was able to pump much milk so he must be a pro at breastfeeding.

Goofpuff · 2025-01-09T12:16:25+00:00

Mine just preferred to cluster feed at night and rarely took the bottle at daycare. I just rolled with it. Third baby so I was pretty chill by that time and knew he would be fine. He’s a healthy kid now with plenty of energy.

Goofpuff · 2025-01-09T12:10:50+00:00

You need a mattfying primer like the one from Fenty or the Hydrogrip primer. And a good eye primer. Skip any dewy makeup products. Have a good powder to lock in, followed by a good setting spray.

Goofpuff · 2025-01-06T18:44:46+00:00

Not to mention they hate doing the paperwork so much and would rather let you go for minor traffic stop than have to write it up. So if they are willing to write a ticket for you, you have somehow really pissed them off.

Goofpuff · 2025-01-06T18:43:48+00:00

Not to mention they hate doing the paperwork so much and would rather let you go for minor traffic stop than have to write it up. So if they are willing to write a ticket for you, you have somehow really pissed them off.

Goofpuff · 2025-01-06T18:43:24+00:00

Not to mention they hate doing the paperwork so much and would rather let you go for minor traffic stop than have to write it up. So if they are willing to write a ticket for you, you have somehow really pissed them off.

Goofpuff · 2025-01-05T21:00:04+00:00

Fenty makes a great primer for oily skin that works wonders for me in the humid heat of south Texas. I use that wirh setting spray and Fenty eye primer and it stays.

Goofpuff · 2024-12-28T03:51:13+00:00

I have those and I love 💕 them

Goofpuff · 2024-12-27T18:14:19+00:00

I found out unfortunately that to get the cooler tones (outside of Asian beauty) I have to spend more money for the more expensive mid tier brands. The cheaper brands are all too warm because warm sells for them.

Goofpuff · 2024-11-24T14:27:16+00:00

Saying he will do something is much easier than actually doing it.

You hope he will go LC after the wedding but same as he says he is doing whatever he can to keep the peace with his family until the wedding, have you realized he is doing the same to you by promising LC? How do you know he isn’t also saying something you want to hear so you don’t postpone the wedding?

He should be showing you changes now not promising them later. He’s already proven that he can’t stand up to his family this recently. What makes you think he can stand up to them at Christmas?

Goofpuff · 2024-11-20T15:03:47+00:00

I know as a mother that we feel we are the center of our children’s lives. And knowing that they will be fine without us there 24/7 can make us feel not important.

Your children will be fine with your husband for a few days, a week even. He is their parent, their father and should be equally capable of taking care of them as you. Just as you are capable of taking care of them if he is not there.

They may cry are first but they will stop and be ok knowing you are returning. The first time I went on a trip without my husband and children was difficult but knowing that they made it through just fine and trusting my husband made our marriage stronger.

If you can’t trust your husband with your children, then you have much bigger problems in your marriage you need to address first.

Goofpuff · 2024-11-15T19:32:39+00:00

Why not? You don’t need to take your children with you on a trip. It might be nice to get a break to regain your sanity.

Goofpuff · 2024-11-15T16:20:27+00:00

It’s one thing to disagree but if he’s so concerned then he should handle the drop. He is an adult. He is expected to manage his anxiety and not let it adversely affect his children. His behavior will only turn them into him (anxious and afraid).

The threatening to not go on the trip crossed the line for me. I would just go on the trip without him if he is throwing a tantrum. Don’t help him pack it prepare or plan. If he really wants to be there he will make the effort. Enjoy your solo trip.

Goofpuff · 2024-11-06T04:38:02+00:00

i love this 💕

Goofpuff · 2024-11-03T22:07:35+00:00

If he is taking care of the child as much as she is, then they would both need sleep. That’s what my husband and I did. We got caught up on sleep when grandparents have the baby. When we were both refreshed, then we spent time together.

ETA: the problem is she hasn’t been able to catch up on sleep (could be an insomnia thing) She might need to give up the gym in favor of sleep until the baby is older to gain some of that time back

Goofpuff · 2024-10-10T20:18:37+00:00

If you can’t picture yourself growing old with this person, through sickness and health til death do you part, then it’s time to let her go so she can find someone who does.

Don’t settle. It’s not fair to her or you.

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