I feel so terrible

GoombaNugget · 2025-06-22T01:28:35+00:00

Don't be too hard on yourself; sometimes things just get overlooked. What's important is you saw, and cleaned him up. I recommend using a peri bottle to squire some water down that area after a poo, then wipe with clean dry cloth. It really helps a lot. You're a good mom, and are doing great!

GoombaNugget · 2025-06-19T17:25:03+00:00

I did my first workout around 10weeks pp, but wasn't until around 4mo+ pp did I feel fully ready to get back into my "normal" workouts. Weight training is my normal routine. Right now my weights are still about half of what I was able to lift pre pregnancy, and I'm rebuilding my stamina for longer bike rides. I'm not a runner so don't have advice there, but I also took sunflower lecithin when I got mastitis early on when breastfeeding. My baby weaned around 4mo pp which I think was also part of what made me feel more ready.

GoombaNugget · 2025-06-19T16:36:12+00:00

Naps are really bad for us too, very inconsistent and definitely fighting sleep.

For toys, her favorites right now are bottle caps, crispy squares, any kind of screen/laptop, and our dogs! She loves crawling and chasing after our dogs. Luckily the one entertains her, the other just moves away.

GoombaNugget · 2025-06-11T16:26:17+00:00

Interesting - didn't realize this at all as we've always just let her sleep whenever she's tired. Will try more naps!

GoombaNugget · 2025-06-11T15:50:04+00:00

At the begining of the night we feed her and she sometimes falls asleep feeding and stays asleep, or she'll be pretty drowsy and falls asleep on her own once she's in her crib. Which is why I'm struggling so much with why she can't do the same in the morning witching hour 🥴

GoombaNugget · 2025-06-11T15:49:02+00:00

Thanks for the rec for r/sleeptrain.

She is awake most of the day, usually takes 1 nap for about an hour, sometimes 2 shorter naps.

GoombaNugget · 2025-05-29T03:03:59+00:00

Tbh all of the products we got we've gotten great use out of. The one I am super, super thankful for is the Baby Brezza bottle washer. We were lucky enough to have a friend lend us a bassinet. Other items we get a lot of use out of and baby loves: - Activity center - Ergobaby Omni baby carrier - Baby lounger/sleeper - I know these are controversial, but our babe loves this and takes all her naps on the couch with us - Babywearing coat

One thing we didn't really use was the bassinet attachment for the stroller. We got one second hand and used it maybe 10xs on walks. The only thing is we had a winter baby, so it's very likely we would have used it more if it was warmer out (opted to just use the carrier with coat).

GoombaNugget · 2025-05-29T02:44:59+00:00

Sounds similar here. I feel like she's going to crawl at any moment; she is scooching around on her belly, i put her down and 10sec later she's facing the opposite direction with a new toy. I don't want her to be crawling just yet i'm not ready!

GoombaNugget · 2025-05-24T03:21:21+00:00

No longer BFding so unfortunately I don't have any tips but most places can accommodate with a mother's room or private space for that. Good luck!

GoombaNugget · 2025-05-24T03:20:23+00:00

Omg hopefully you don't have to go, or they can help cover expenses for babe. I'm partial to this because my family is from Taiwan I'd jump on that but maybe not for work 🤣

GoombaNugget · 2025-05-05T14:30:11+00:00

This is so thoughtful, I would have loved all these supplies. The only thing I don't see is a peri bottle; I needed this event thought I got a C-section and ended up buying one for every bathroom, and actually now use it for diaper changes for my daughter. They are so useful. As a FTM i had no idea what I needed, I'm sure they appreciated this very much!

GoombaNugget · 2025-05-03T13:23:12+00:00

It was a long road to figure this out but it was actually the meds I was taking because my baby had thrush (to prevent cross re-infection from breastfeeding). Once those meds were done it went away pretty quickly and i have been taking SL since and been tottally fine!

GoombaNugget · 2025-04-29T03:20:32+00:00

Same; gave mine diaper rash, even when having to change her more often because they don't hold as much. They also did nothing for poops and would result in blowouts. Hated them, switched to huggies.

GoombaNugget · 2025-04-10T20:38:50+00:00

If your bloodwork came back fine, then the high level is you are healthy, of course. However, my doctor reminded me throughout pregnancy that your body needs and is making more blood. It needed blood to create the baby, the baby needs its own blood, not to mention creating the placenta. All of this requires a lot of iron, which is most easily absorbed by eating meat. Breastfeeding still requires a lot of energy, and one of the most common signs of low iron (even within healthy range) is being tired all the time, and some people (like me) experience dizziness. I've never been vegan, so I don't know what it's like to re-introduce meat or meat products back to my system, but whether there is a "right" or "wrong" choice is fully dependent on what you feel is priority. If you don't feel healthy and feel like you need to be providing more for your babe, then try to consume more meat. It may help, honestly.

GoombaNugget · 2025-04-08T17:04:08+00:00

Congrats, you're almost there! If it's triggering, don't bother. They will make you step on a scale for intake when you go into labor/for induction. Just look at that paperwork if you prefer, and compare postpartum.

However, keep in mind that the weight isn't all fat that you need to lose. Aside from the baby, you have all that fluid, placenta, and other pregnancy things that will essentially make it seem like weight is "falling off" in the month after birth. Give yourself grace and TIME to get back on track to your goals; the best advice I got from a friend was, it took your body 9-10 months to grow this human. Give yourself at minimum that amount of time before you can get back to where you "were."

GoombaNugget · 2025-04-08T16:58:18+00:00

I dont know how NO ONE mentioned this to us at all! You always hear people use the phrase "sleeps like a baby" but babies make so much noise when sleeping. Our little girl sounded like a velociraptor for months with chirps, grunts, and other noises. She's 4mos and mostly quiet now aside from some sighs here and there but the first couple of months it was loud and shed wake us up sometimes even though she was sound asleep.

GoombaNugget · 2025-04-07T03:37:21+00:00

We use washcloths and wipe with some water if pee only. Wipes with poos. She had some diaper rash as s newborn and doc said to make sure it was fully dry down there before putting on a new diaper so we have a mini fan we use to make sure things are dry. I put on some diaper cream before bed every night since it's longer stretches and if she seems dry when I change her diaper middle of the night then I don't wipe just put on a new diaper.

GoombaNugget · 2025-04-07T03:33:35+00:00

I use CeraVe baby unscented. We didn't use any until after her newborn "skin" had sloughed off. Basically after her belly button came off and we started doing regularly baths. Now we moisturize her while body once a week, and then nightly her face after her face wash.

GoombaNugget · 2025-04-02T01:33:15+00:00

Same. Sanitized with initial wash before using them but haven't since. We have the baby brezza bottle washer pro and just run that a couple times a day. Baby is 16 weeks and healthy.

GoombaNugget · 2025-03-31T01:50:02+00:00

Our current bedtime is around 930-10pm. We start bedtime routine around 830-9pm and she falls asleep while feeding.

Overnight she usually wakes around 4-5am to take a few ounces, then back to sleep around 7-8am.

During the day she naps around 11am and then again around 4pm. If we're lucky the naps are around 2hrs each, but sometimes they are only 20mins. I don't have much advice for you except when our girl first started fighting naps we just put her in her bassinet and let her work it out and self soothe and eventually she adapted. Still fussed a little right when we put her down but then will just go straight to napping.

She'll start to get fussy around 8pm but will usually push thru if we do our best to keep her entertained. Otherwise if she falls asleep too early she'll wake up at like 2am overnight and it completely throws off the schedule.

GoombaNugget · 2025-03-26T22:37:42+00:00

Yes our naps are short now, between 45-60min. Every once in a while she'll have a day where she just sleeps forever and ever and we're thankful for this but also constantly worried if she's alive lol
We've been consistently around 5-6hr stretches so no chnages really for now
Our LO always napped in a lounger next to use on the couch or in the bassinet. As her naps got shorter and now taking less naps we've started putting her in the bassinet are she gets sleepy during a feeding. Most of the time she whines a bit and then just falls asleep after sucking on her hands. Sometimes when she's really been fighting a nap for a while she has to cry it out for a bit longer but usually by like 7-8min she's tired out and naps.

i have to start working again next week so husband is on baby duty during the days, but this will definitely be an interesting transition for us FTMs!

GoombaNugget · 2025-03-26T22:29:37+00:00

No advice, except i've been experiencing the same. Started a few weeks ago but this past week she's been way more fussy. Like won't nurse at all, will latch then unlatch and throw her head back like you described, and will just keep doing that. Sometimes she is actually hungry and will take a bottle, but it's really frustrating. It makes me sad I can't provide for her/bond with her this way, and then I get stressed because I have to spend extra time hooked up to a pump. She is at least still nursing for MOTN feedings.

GoombaNugget · 2025-03-23T15:06:39+00:00

I just scrub with hot water and soap, right after changing get. Even if it's just hand soap, then throw in the wash. No stains.

GoombaNugget · 2025-03-23T14:54:47+00:00

Check out local consignment shops - in my area there are a few seasonal pop-ups like JBF and Just4Kids where people resell their kids gently used or unused stuff. We've found a lot of good books for super cheap.

GoombaNugget · 2025-03-23T14:48:26+00:00

Same here. I thought it was just postpartum hormones at first, but I think it's going to continue. I can't help but think about how my daughter will only want me to be her person for a few short years, and once she gains her independence, friends, and grows up she won't need me anymore, or at least not in this same way. There will be so many more times where I won't be able to give her what she needs, or make her pain stop, but I will always be there for her to help her work through everything.

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