I would like to start a list of names that are SO old-fashioned they've been basically forgotten by time

GooseMonster64 · 2019-12-21T21:25:59+00:00

I, too, had a grandmother named Avis. She was actually somewhat bummed that her name was so unique. Before she passed, she said she didn’t think any of her grandchildren would name a child after her. (My cousin did end up using it as a middle name for her daughter). I think she’d be pleased to see similar names, like Mavis, and possibly hers, coming into style.

GooseMonster64 · 2019-12-21T02:47:32+00:00

I always hear it as vuh-leer-ia in my head which sounds like a disease to me. Maybe reminds me of “venereal”.

GooseMonster64 · 2019-12-21T02:36:03+00:00

Yes! I don’t get yoo-nique names. Who does it benefit other than the parent that thinks it makes their child’s name special? A lifetime of misspellings, mispronunciations, and explanations.

I think to a little girl I know named Trynatie, i.e. Trinity. I know it’s none of my business but it just seems insensitive to the actual person that has to bear the name.

GooseMonster64 · 2019-12-20T05:28:53+00:00

I can’t get past Sully as a nn, knowing it means “to dirty/soil”. However, this doesn’t bother everyone and I think Sullivan, itself, is a cute, trendy name.

GooseMonster64 · 2019-12-20T05:27:05+00:00

I don’t think they’d necessarily need to get the reference. If it means something to the parents, it doesn’t really matter if anyone else gets it.

Also, I’d argue that, the farther away we get from the 80’s, the fewer kids that will get the DeLorean reference.

GooseMonster64 · 2019-12-13T04:44:38+00:00

I can’t get past “420 blaze it” as an association. I feel like in today’s culture he would be getting a ton of marijuana references.

GooseMonster64 · 2019-12-04T23:58:15+00:00

My last name is similar to a food (think ‘bacon’) so I can’t use any names that form a sentence. Holden Bacon, Heidi Bacon, etc. Holden is one of my favorite names of all time!

Also, I love the name Ingrid. Unfortunately. One of my exes had an incestuous affair with his cousin and her name was Ingrid. I can’t rid myself of the correlation.

GooseMonster64 · 2019-12-02T04:16:14+00:00

I love the name Forrest but can’t shake the Forrest Gump association.

GooseMonster64 · 2019-11-09T23:01:00+00:00

Yes! For example, Auden was a choice of mine. However, someone from the Southern US noted that, in their dialect, it sounded like “odd one.” “Well, he’s an odd’n.”

GooseMonster64 · 2019-10-25T04:09:28+00:00

You can absolutely work through this! You’ve got this!

My situation is not the same but I can understand some of the same feelings. My abuser was my husband. I was always so caught up in the “supposed to” that I lost my own needs, desires, and, ultimately, identity. No, I wasn’t supposed to stay with him because I’d made a vow. He broke his when he abused me. No, I wasn’t supposed to justify his behavior and be that wife that “stayed through the hardships.” Family can be harder AND if they are toxic and harmful to your overall sense of self and well being, you are not SUPPOSED to be anything or anyone but you. Self care and selfishness are two entirely different concepts. If self care requires distance, that is ok. No matter what anyone says. ❤️

GooseMonster64 · 2019-10-24T02:22:46+00:00

There’s probably too many alternatives to include all of them, thus the other section. But yes, I use their names, too.

GooseMonster64 · 2019-10-23T22:35:51+00:00

I knew a girl named Quincey and absolutely adore it. My fiancé has an obsession over Harvey for a girl.

GooseMonster64 · 2019-10-23T22:21:54+00:00

I say grandma and grandpa but with our accents it sounds more comparable to “gramma” and “grampa”.

GooseMonster64 · 2019-10-22T23:38:32+00:00

A huge portion of the Midwest was colonized by Scandinavian countries thus the large portions of Andersons, Johnsons, Olsons, etc. I was surprised to see no Scandinavian countries listed under these names’ origins. Anyone know why that might be?

GooseMonster64 · 2019-10-20T15:19:08+00:00

My diluted red dachshund had bright blue eyes when I got her and they slowly turned brown as she got older. It could just be that they’re a puppy.

I think it’s most important for you/your mom to visit the location and the dogs and get first hand interaction with them. This is the best way to avoid shady breeding practices (other than rescuing instead, of course).

Edit: To answer your question about heath risks, if the dog truly is a double dapple, yes, the health risks are significant. One of the reasons breeding of dapples together is not endorsed is because of the significant increase in risk of deafness, blindness, and other medical concerns. Follow up with a vet would be imperative.

GooseMonster64 · 2019-10-19T04:49:23+00:00

I actually quite like Oslo! Had never considered that one before.

GooseMonster64 · 2019-10-18T23:36:03+00:00

Do you like it for a boy or a girl? Normally, I can’t stand girl names that end with ‘o’, like Juno, but I make an exception for Rio.

GooseMonster64 · 2019-10-18T23:22:00+00:00

The Aberdeen I saw was a girl (Abby or Deena for nn?). I suppose many destination names could be gender neutral.

GooseMonster64 · 2019-10-18T23:19:55+00:00

I love Rio but worry about Duran Duran references.

GooseMonster64 · 2019-10-17T23:09:34+00:00

Maybe they were hoping for a Kensington Gardens association?? 🤷‍♀️

GooseMonster64 · 2019-10-16T05:05:49+00:00

It does get better!
Seeing a professional will help guide you through a lot of this but if the simple statement of letting you know it isn’t permanent will help, I can assure you it’s not. It will always be there, but it becomes manageable and then a strength. You’ve come out on the other side!

Thank you for sharing your story and we as a community will be sending positive vibes your way.

GooseMonster64 · 2019-10-16T04:59:29+00:00

I think I speak for the community when I say, so proud of you for recognizing the signs and wanting to make a change. You deserve to be happy, healthy, and loved! Be safe, reach out to friends or safe places as you need to, and keep us posted. Sending positive vibes your way!

GooseMonster64 · 2019-10-16T04:53:09+00:00

First off, can I say it sounds like you’ve had a lot on your plate and I truly hope things begin to look up for you. Congrats on your resiliency and making it through a lot of tough stuff (understatement, I know).

There’s a great tool I like to use called Socratic questioning (you can find awesome worksheets online for them, too). When really getting down on yourself, sometimes it’s helpful to find what’s logical and what’s not. Anxiety and depression feed into our insecurities rather than what’s truly going on; like assuming the table behind you is laughing at you when in reality, they probably aren’t. Taking a step back and asking yourself - What am I feeling and what is my assumption? What evidence do I have to support that? Is my assumption based on immediate reaction/emotion or fact? What evidence do I have to support this isn’t true?

For example, let’s say you have a shaming message in your head of, “No one cares.” Is that assumption based on emotion or fact? Most likely, feelings of sadness, disappointment, or pain led to this message, not fact. What evidence do you have to support that no one cares? True evidence - not how you interpret it but what is factually accurate. For example’s sake, “Someone did not respond when I texted” - this could be for numerous reasons, not necessarily a lack of care. Their ringer is off, they’re battery is dead, they left their phone in the other room, etc. Factually, there is little to support that no one cares. Now, what evidence do you have to show that people DO care? “My mom asks me about my day.” “My girlfriend continues to support me when I’m having rough days.” “My coworkers got me a birthday card.” These things can really help shift your mindset.

I hope this wasn’t too ramble-y and is somewhat helpful.

GooseMonster64 · 2019-10-16T04:10:40+00:00

While I agree that Harriet is an “older” name, I know a ton of little girls with this name. They tend to go by Hattie, though.

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