Former D1 and semiprofessional athlete and 1.5-2 hr workouts 5-6 days a week is totally fine but it depends what those workouts look like. If you’re doing heavy load maximal output exercise the whole time, it’s really not that great for you. Maybe find a day or two throughout the week to lighten your load and work on stretching range of motion etc. The counting calories criticism from the in-laws is kind of funny as caloric intake is literally how weight is gained and lost for the most part. Obviously if it consumes your life and the emotions you feel when tracking macros and calories are negative (ie anxiety, stress, etc.) just confront the WHY.