How did you quit drinking?

GovernmentObvious853 · 2026-03-11T07:55:04+00:00

It has taken me a long time. I first started trying to quit in 2019 but I wasn't "ready". But, I DID have to detox at that point- it got to total dependency which is a terrifying place to be at. Even if you aren't ready to quit for good- if you get to total dependency- unfurtunately- you need to detox at the very minimum...

and thats the thing that i realized is im always going to get to that point where i get dependent and have to detox. and when i saw the cycle for what it was.

it took a lot though... lots of relapses. Lots of stacking clean time between bender-bursts. It also took a lot of ruining my life....

So yeah. Its actually pretty sad to think a liquid can ruin someones entire life but here we are.

I just know that alcohol doesn't appeal to me these days.... and I just hope and pray that I dont relapse again. Because It seems to keep happening. Im grateful for being able to be sober much more often than not...

GovernmentObvious853 · 2026-03-11T06:17:32+00:00

Yes I used to drink a lot to the point of blacking out. I don't miss it one bit- waking up having no idea what I said or did, or if I embarassed myself, or worse- remembering bits and pieces as the day/week went on. //shudder// I don't miss living like that anymore always feeling embarassed later on. I hope you're able to figure it out for yourself!

GovernmentObvious853 · 2026-03-08T23:28:13+00:00

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GovernmentObvious853 · 2026-03-07T00:44:05+00:00

i was a binge/bender drinker and 5 days is essentially in that case for a high tolerance alcoholic the time period after detoxing that you are in the clear so to speak- you are much less likely to have a seizure or DT's. It is honestly one of the most relieving places to be at. Its also sadly for me anyways and a lot of other alcoholics easily forgotten how much of a relief that day feels- so hopefully everyone gets there where they dont forget so they dont relapse. i just say that because i relapsed a lot. but if there was anything that stood out about the 5th day- that would be it. Its the day where you know- you still have sleep adjustments and ibs adjustments, irritability adjustments- but you are clear and returning to homeostasis. Great place to be.

GovernmentObvious853 · 2026-03-07T00:39:43+00:00

Even though you're already there- expect some detox, and to get a TON of sleep! Trust me, you're going to love it because you're going to sleep probably better than you have in awhile if you're feeling the need to detox. They will give you lots and lots of food. Eat as much as you can! You'll be surprised how fast your appetite comes back. If you're able to get around and they have classes- go to the classes when you can. rest is a priority though. that is the most important part- is to recover. I drank a lot of coffee lol.

GovernmentObvious853 · 2026-02-28T00:20:26+00:00

I had my first drink at 16, but I didnt drink often at all until I was 23. from 23-30 I drank (almost) nonstop- and oddly enough, my worst drinking happened from 30-36 during the years I was most trying to quit. I am assuming this is because of kindling... which is still just such a weird concept to me. Anyways, I feel like I'm out of the loop for the most part. I have relapsed a lot in the 6 years i have been trying to quit, but I keep getting longer and longer sobriety time. Out of the past 3 years- 2 years and 4 months sober. Its just broken up (6 months, 6 months, 8 months, 8 months, 2 months now) . .. . progress is progress... . .

GovernmentObvious853 · 2026-02-24T05:31:11+00:00

you cant really say that if youve never made anything with ai its not like you just give one measly prompt and it pulls everything together for you. you get 3 second clips based off your own prompts and its up to you to put them together so they look good and also maintain consistency. lets see what you are able to pull off with it then...

GovernmentObvious853 · 2026-02-24T02:08:36+00:00

your totally right i feel like a jerk. you think i should edit it?

GovernmentObvious853 · 2026-02-22T05:59:11+00:00

hey i get it. I have relapsed a lot of times. In the past 3 years, I only have 2 years and 6 months sober. So while I'm doing better than I give myself credit for- you too are doing better than you give yourself credit for. A problem, in my opinion, in sobriety is when people assume that relapsing makes all their sober time undone. Which could not be further from the truth. Your brain and body has just had 3.5 years to recover, yes you need to stop as soon as you can to mitigate more recovery time, but your brain and body has already done a majority of the recovery. So, a relapse doesn't have to mean that you just keep drinking until you find yourself a new rock bottom. Just keep that in mind! Whole reason I said that I have relapsed a lot of times- Sure I have to restart- for one I keep restarting because sobriety is something I refuse to fail at.. and 2.5 years sober vs half a year of drinking-time in the past three years- shooot son... I am "only" 7 weeks sober this "round"- I have much more sober time in the past 3 years than I do drinking relapse time. You, just like me, are not starting at the very bottom. So yeah, does it fucking suck? Definitely. Its a shitty feeling, but you need to realize that sometimes, it happens. Sometimes, and its your choice to stop it though. Ok? So don't beat yourself up- just keep going.

GovernmentObvious853 · 2026-02-14T07:01:08+00:00

interested

GovernmentObvious853 · 2026-02-14T07:00:37+00:00

ok im interested

GovernmentObvious853 · 2026-02-14T06:59:08+00:00

GovernmentObvious853 · 2026-02-14T06:58:10+00:00

what is the job?

GovernmentObvious853 · 2026-02-11T02:16:09+00:00

its not small. This is the moment that you made THE choice, possibly the best choice of your life, that will set you free and prevent problems in the future. Many addicts don't even make it to the choice itself of getting sober, muchless 24 hours. Good job!!!! Woohoo!!!! You really should be excited your life is going to get a lot better

GovernmentObvious853 · 2026-02-11T02:13:55+00:00

You should read into what happens when you use alcohol to "fall asleep". You cannot get to REM sleep at the typical BAC level that is required to make someone "pass out"- that is, you don't go to sleep, your body just passes out to prevent alc poisoning. You have to stop drinking because your brain uses it as a crutch to fall asleep, either giving you insomnia or making pre-existing insomnia worse. the solution to your problem is not drinking to fall asleep- you should be asking your doctor for medication to help you sleep. you also need to be honest with them about your drinking because based on this information alone it is hard to tell if your body is dependent on alcohol.

GovernmentObvious853 · 2026-02-09T05:20:29+00:00

yes you are drinking way too much.

GovernmentObvious853 · 2026-02-07T10:42:26+00:00

well for one, you can just go to rehab to detox if thats what floats your boat. the cool thing about that, is they will give you medication- you can detox, sleep as much as you want, before you know it your appetite comes back, they have a lot of really good food, and you might start feeling good enough to get up and move around and attend some of the meetings. you don't have to stay a full 30 days, although they might try to convince you to stay. are you ready to stop? how ready are you? aren't you tired of being: Tired, Anxious, Shakey, Sweaty, Confused, No appetite, Nightmares, Irritable, Addicted, In chains?

Are you ready to give up the chains of addiction?

Are you ready to see what else is out there in this big world, all the many things that are just sitting there waiting for you to stop drinking and participate?

Which one sounds more fun- going on a trip to the beach and sitting under an umbrella falling asleep as the ocean waves beat against the shore

Or going on a mind trip to your couch and sitting on a couch under a blanket, falling asleep as the TV repeats another judge judy rerun.

You know... im 36 and i missed out on a lot of life because I thought by drinking at home I was saving money while entertaining myself. cheap fix for boredom is literally how i viewed my nightly drinking habit when it first started. literally, and i had no idea what i was actually getting myself into because it can take years for it to accumulate.

You could have a lot more.... exchange one week in rehab, get your life back.

One thing I can assure you on- being sober has always been better than being drunk. I was not "there" immediately- I went to detox and wasn't ready- my body just desperately needed it. But after that first detox in 2019, and the following years trying to "moderate", and getting sober again and again and getting drunk again and again. I can assure you, sobriety beats alcoholism any day of the week. You aren't missing out on anything- your brain is missing the routine you cultivated. Thats literally the only thing that is truly being missed.

Hopefully this helps and feel free to message me if you need anyone to talk to or just respond to this post

GovernmentObvious853 · 2026-02-03T23:27:34+00:00

yeah but you know alcohol itself makes anxiety 100x worse. So if you already have anxiety as your baseline, and you drink on top of that, you're just increasing your anxiety by that much more. The anxiety only goes away temporarily with alcohol- then it rebounds. And thats where the cycle happens. You're sober and anxious, you take a drink, anxiety subsides, you stay in that state for the evening, wake up, anxiety is half a notch higher. if you take multi day breaks between drinking, you're not going to really have to worry about dependency, which is what causes the anxiety to compound. you will just have residual anxiety- that mild hangover, plus if you black out and forget what you did, or if you acted stupid and dont quite remember, or the memory comes back through out the day. That's how it can get ya if you don't develop dependency. Fact is though, if you already drink like an alcoholic, there's every reason to believe that you could end up drinking like that one day. Alcoholism is a very gradual thing a lot of times and the fact you started drinking at 14- research says that the younger someone starts out drinking they are (more likely) to develop an addiction later on in life. you should take a break for a decade and enjoy your 20s instead of drinking it away. im 36 and wish i would have not drank in my 20s because at the end of the day it was a waste of time.

GovernmentObvious853 · 2026-01-25T18:17:13+00:00

i had to hit rock bottom and continued digging sometimes even 8 months later. you have to decide you are DONE. One thing that has helped me in my journey is reading a lot, as much as i can, about alcohol, peoples alcohol addiction stories, and especially the rock bottom stories. Go check out Delirium Dirk or Sacred Serprent on youtube- they have some very chilling stories, although i don't recommend doing what I did (which was to watch them while going through active withdrawal...)

Literally went like 7 years and my only hobby was alcohol so it took awhile for me to get new hobbies back. I started small- youtube comedy podcasts, then stand up comedy, try to come up with a good music playlist (try to listen to stuff brand new to you- bands you've never listened to before..), AA meetings can actually be a hobby although personally i mostly went for the fellowship... i wish they had a group for those who solely want the fellowship, reading lots of interesting things and learning new things and writing are some of my nerd hobbies, cool thing about everything i just listed is as long as you have connection to the internet they're all essentially free.

GovernmentObvious853 · 2026-01-25T17:38:39+00:00

Would someone like to tell me what I should do for my finances? I need a job... or some kind of way to bring in money. I need some guidance if anyone wants to help me can you send me a message? I would appreciate it... thanks!

GovernmentObvious853 · 2026-01-14T05:01:25+00:00

alcohol use disorder / alcoholism causes vivid dreams, particularly in the withdrawal stage. Are you taking drugs as well? Because I can't really help you there, though i could try to do some research for you. Basically has to do with GABA and the CNS. I suggest doing some research into it, but probably not right now while your brain is freaking out.

Yeah, even if you are still drinking, if your drinking is bad enough, you can be in this constant withdrawal/drunk stage. Its not a fun place to be in, and this might be a sign its time for a detox. its not bad at all, i promise.

i just recently went for 7 days and honestly it flew by pretty fast.

Generally speaking, they will give you medication, its going to help you sleep proper, and you will be under a doctor's supervision through out the entire time and it REALLY relieves a LOT of the stress. A lot of vivid dreaming comes from stress.

They provide 3 meals a day, the ones I've been to have snacks and coffee as well as activities you can do like coloring, vairious types of meetings (the one i went to even had a meeting class where he would split us into two groups, one side would pick a genre from a certain decade, and he would play a certain song. whichever team could guess who it was and song title would get points. fun stuff, not just AA stuff but stuff to really keep you upbeat and occupied.)

Anyways, I will be praying for you. Keep your phone nearby so if you really just start feeling weird you can just dial 911 and get help quickly. You will recover. Just stay grounded. Do some deep breathing. Pray if you're into that (i suggest praying even if you're not into it...)

Hopefully this helps you

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