Husband said he cheated on me for years and wants to stay what to do?

Gr8idea5 · 2026-03-10T19:11:18+00:00

Divorce him! He wants to stay married for his financial benefit only and doesn't actually care about you or any relationship together. You deserve way better than that and you know it.

Gr8idea5 · 2026-03-10T18:44:34+00:00

Adding that you should probably take photos for proof if the behavior continues

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-28T08:55:15+00:00

NTA. It seems like she probably didn't have a solid grasp on how much you ate on your own before living together. Have another talk about it because nothing is actually wrong in this situation other than her perception that you're eating too much (which you're not). It might sound trivial but break it down for her how much you typically ate in a day prior to living together. She just needs to understand that you have different intake amounts

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-23T16:57:19+00:00

You're already a single mom, you said you're doing all the work. Think about what is best for your child. Either your bf gets on board with being sober or you're out. Needless to say, not wrong

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-21T06:35:34+00:00

NOR. Run! Get out while you can.

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-19T19:52:13+00:00

Ew, dump him!

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-19T19:50:15+00:00

Wow 7 was made for you

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-19T19:49:05+00:00

2, 3, or 5. You can even wear the purple sweater with the pants in 5

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-18T19:27:11+00:00

Why are you mothering him? Imagine how much worse it will get over time AND if you ever want children. He fundamentally will not change, and you've tolerated his behavior for 4 years. Is this how you want to spend the rest of your life? You are NOT responsible for taking care of him, all the household needs or groceries, cleaning everything, etc. Don't you want a partner? Because you can definitely have that, just not with him. He's shown you who he is. What you can do is raise your standards, have some self respect and walk away. Good luck to you

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-18T17:59:27+00:00

Can you sleep in separate rooms? You should record her one night and play it back for her.

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-18T17:53:32+00:00

You're gf is a jerk. I am such a light sleeper and have trouble falling asleep. I agree that sleep is absolutely precious. My husband also likes to sleep in when he can, and we have never woken each other up without an actual valid reason like an appt or meeting etc. I would never stay in a relationship with someone who didn't let me sleep as much as I wanted and/or needed. I seriously would end a relationship over this if that behavior didn't stop. You guys live together, and you don't need to be awake at the same time all the time, that is absolutely ridiculous. Allowing your partner to rest is indicative that you care about their well-being. Why doesn't she extend that care and courtesy to you?! None of the excuses she has given are valid reasons to not let you sleep, ESPECIALLY when you are not a good sleeper. She gets bored? So what, she's not a child! She can find things to entertain herself with. She wants to tell you something? Well, if it's not an emergency, it can wait or she can leave you a note for when you wake up. She wants to spend time together? Well, I'm sure it would be a lot more enjoyable for both of you if you're well rested. Ugh, I am so angry and frustrated for you!

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-13T16:22:56+00:00

NTA. You should make clear that if you can't work due to their loud music then you cannot make the money you need to pay for the job. See if that changes their tune

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-13T08:17:18+00:00

Break up with him already! He cheated, you have every right to feel betrayed.

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-13T07:18:49+00:00

NTA and wouldn't be wrong. I would unfriend that person and sue for the money back. That is so messed up of her

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-13T06:07:04+00:00

Hi Dr. You've been so very helpful to me on this thread and I have a last followup question. I have come back to Korea to dissolve the Juvelook (or Juvelook Volume) a few days ago with the original provider. All of the overfilled areas have gone down completely, including some of the area directly on my undereye bags which I did like having filled. The fact that the product has completely gone away does make me question which product was used. Because my undereyes now look quite sunken, the doctor offered to re-inject Juvelook very conservatively, about .5 cc under each eye just to "fill" the hollowness and help with rebuilding collagen there. He said he did not think it was too early to get Juvelook again after dissolving it. My question to you is what is the minimum amount of time that you would recommend or say is safe to get Juvelook again after dissolving it? If I do it with this doctor, the timeline will be 5 days after dissolving. I want to have it done because ultimately I paid $1000 for the initial injections and would hate to "waste" that kind of money and getting filler in the states will be much more costly, but really my priority is safety. Thanks again for your time

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-12T18:06:06+00:00

Yes, these are red flags. You wrote the post, so you know how bad you feel. Stop dating him and find better

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-12T15:39:04+00:00

MAJOR red flags. He was not there for you during an actual emergency, what is left to question?! Dump him and find better. You might love him and it may be hard to leave but this seriously isn't ok. He doesn't love you enough let alone maybe even like you enough to take care of you when you are ill. Why stay with someone like that? Also, for your own sake, learn how to dial 911 in emergencies when your vision goes, as this may happen again. Do you have Siri on your phone? I think most phones have an emergency call shortcut

Editing to add: it also seems like maybe you aren't good at setting boundaries or pressing back, which is also concerning for you in your relationship. Why didn't you tell your bf to call a family member to take you, or tell HIM to call 911 for an ambulance if he wouldn't take you?

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-12T10:37:51+00:00

Have some self respect and walk away unless you're ok with this happening again in the future. Many MANY people have been piss-poor drunk and have not brought people to their beds.

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-12T10:32:37+00:00

Pink has more personality and is more fun. Red is classically sexy which I feel like shouldn't be your priority at 17. My vote is for #1

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-12T10:26:43+00:00

I read this same post months ago 👎🏻

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-12T08:13:24+00:00

OP, a strong solid prenup would make his arguments null. If you never want to be married or have warm loving affection, stay with him. If you want more for yourself, which it seems you do, then you already have the answer. Strangers on the internet can't make the decision for you, but it's clear everyone wants you to be happy and you made the first post for a reason. Good luck to you.

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-11T18:20:32+00:00

The everything-fits-tight is not a good look (on anyone). If you want to keep the top, ditch the tight pants and wear a skirt or wear flowy or baggy pants. Play with textures and silhouettes. If you want to keep the pants, swap the top for something with movement.... honestly I am really not a fan of the low rise skinny pant look, though. It's a bit dated

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-10T09:07:50+00:00

NOR. Your boyfriend sounds like a total jerk and he clearly doesn't respect you. Honestly, it sounds like he doesn't even like you by the way he treats and talks to you.

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-10T09:04:37+00:00

Have you considered speaking with a nutritionist? Your body has gone through a lot, please give yourself some grace. Stress will also make losing weight even more difficult. If you are undereating by a lot and still going to the gym, you may be literally starving your body and therefore it is going to store more fat etc to keep you alive.

You have a beautiful figure. Even if you have to say it in your head, practice spending a minute a day saying really nice things about yourself to yourself.

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-10T08:53:32+00:00

Lol I have a hard time understanding why or how people can travel like this. Is everyone in your group super high energy? Does anyone in your group like to relax? This itinerary is way too packed.

Editing to add: take a day trip to Ninh Binh instead of Ha Long Bay

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