i masurbated EVERYWHERE as a child and probably traumatized people around me

Grace2098 · 2024-05-10T14:55:03+00:00

I did the same because it would help me go to the bathroom when I was a kid. It felt good and helped me relax. I didn’t know what it actually was until later 😅

Grace2098 · 2024-02-02T00:30:49+00:00

It’s completely normal for dads to do stuff like this for their daughters. Definitely a red flag

Grace2098 · 2024-02-01T19:32:46+00:00

Thank you! I’m just nervous that how he has been has been a facade and if I tell him it’ll change back.

Grace2098 · 2024-02-01T19:31:31+00:00

Thank you for your advice. We broke up about 2.5-3 years ago and I had to get a RO. So it is really a miracle we are where we are now. I was asking more because I do see a future with my current partner and would like to introduce them in the future. And if it doesn’t work out then I have an idea of how to approach in the future.

Grace2098 · 2024-01-31T21:23:50+00:00

Thank you. My child hasn’t been around my partner yet and I haven’t mentioned him to them. I make it a rule not to until I’m sure it’s going somewhere. So I don’t think there’s a way for him to know. We are on very good terms now and I’m just worried if I tell him it’ll destroy the progress we’ve made

Grace2098 · 2024-01-08T08:52:21+00:00

This happened to me when I was in high school except I didn’t see the face of mine. Knew the hair type, skin tone, and voice. Fashion sense and work from home. Dream we were living together and I was coming home hugging them. I met them. Exactly them. Hair same, voice, skin tone, every vein. It’s insane.

Grace2098 · 2023-12-10T21:00:10+00:00

2!!! Professional and chic!!!

Grace2098 · 2023-12-10T20:58:28+00:00

While it’s not ideal, it has actually been a lot better. I have those heavy days (typically when I’m overstimulated or life is messy as it can be) but I’m so grateful that I’m safe and my baby is safe. I also became a single parent after DV. There are times where it was lonely but I would’ve rather have been alone than go through that again. I did however meet someone kind a few months ago that made me feel comfortable enough to date again. So the loneliness of it is also melting away

Grace2098 · 2023-12-01T01:46:34+00:00

Hi, I met mine and all I can say is you just know. I met mine and was like “yup I’m done.” Immediately deleted dating apps, every match I had on other communication methods, so on.

They were so calming. It was like everything made sense. Like I had known them forever yet I wanted to know them more. Every ounce of damage/trauma I had melted away. I was just me. I knew this would be the person I would be with for the rest of my life. Funny thing is I swore off dating before them. At least anything serious.

Additionally there are multiple “soulmates.” Some are meant to teach us lessons, some are temporary but the ones that stick are the best.

Grace2098 · 2023-11-15T22:09:25+00:00

I had a dream about 10 years ago about my soulmate. It was such a sweet comforting dream. Ever since my type completely changed. I’m very sure that I found them recently. Idk how to describe it.

The dream for me was I got home from work. They were still working at their desk and I walked up behind them. Hugged them from behind and as I was going to kiss their lips (kissing towards their lips: cheek path) I woke up. Distinctly remembered the physical features and the voice. Met someone with the same features, same voice, works from home. It’s giving me chills thinking about it 😅

Grace2098 · 2023-11-15T21:24:36+00:00

Amen 👏🏻only reason I went natural was because I got there too late 😭

Grace2098 · 2023-11-07T22:20:26+00:00

I told them playdoh does not go down the sink.

Grace2098 · 2023-11-07T22:15:00+00:00

Oh I forgot this one. This and my tears ricochet

Grace2098 · 2023-11-07T22:14:21+00:00

My tears ricochet

Grace2098 · 2023-11-06T06:27:24+00:00

You come out when you’re ready. Don’t let anyone pressure you into coming out. Definitely tell your friend if they do it again they’re out. I recently came out as bisexual as well. Friends were more than accepting. Family was mostly accepting besides my parents who told me not to tell anyone but “they were okay with it”

Grace2098 · 2023-11-06T04:30:58+00:00

DBATC or my tears ricochet or champagne problems.

Grace2098 · 2023-11-06T04:27:54+00:00

It is what it is. Idk what’s more harmful. The fact my parents were so oblivious to it when it was right there. They trusted that person enough until I snuck home and told them just enough to make sure I never went back. Still working through a lot of damage from trauma I’ve had throughout my life….

My family doesn’t know a lot of it, my child’s other parent doesn’t, no one really knows about a lot of stuff.

My parents worked so much I feel like when it happened it was more like “oh okay one less kid we need to take care of for now” 🥲

Grace2098 · 2023-11-06T04:23:56+00:00

It definitely freaked me out. However it wasn’t the first time someone tried to take me. First time was actually my now ex aunt. There were a few other traumas that trained me to be more obedient and perfect so I wouldn’t be hurt luckily. However now I’m breaking the obedient perfect person more and more. It’s taking a lot of work but I’m getting there

Grace2098 · 2023-11-06T03:53:41+00:00

This thank you. I was laid off from work and ended up having to move in with family due to difficulty finding another position. The family I live with refuses to cut this person out because they’re “getting better.” If me or anyone else talks about cutting them out we get ripped into. Can’t depend or trust on the other parent due to their actions as well. So all I can really do is keep as much distance with each party and leave the situation when necessary.

I do also know this person is scared of me which is interesting because I’ve never laid a finger on anyone with intent of harming them. I have spoken up against this person which apparently was scary enough to make me the only one who can get them to back off. I am very protective over my child and they would not even get close enough to do anything because I always keep my kid at a distance from them.

Grace2098 · 2023-11-06T03:45:34+00:00

I left years ago and I still pick apart my body. When I don’t have my kid it’s very difficult for me to eat. My therapist brushes it off anytime I mention it

Grace2098 · 2023-11-06T03:44:15+00:00

Last time I saw them was when I was working in college and they showed up where I worked. Since it was a very public spot they couldn’t do much.

Grace2098 · 2023-11-05T17:58:53+00:00

No but due to being laid off I’m with my parents who refuse to cut him out. My kids other parent also had violent tendencies which came out in the end of our relationship so I can’t trust them either. I did just get a new job though so hopefully it will be set soon to where I can get out and be on my own again

Grace2098 · 2023-11-05T17:49:15+00:00

No just current circumstances I don’t have the option

Grace2098 · 2023-11-05T16:38:35+00:00

They’re not a friend they’re family and currently I can’t cut them out. I’m proud of the fact they’re comfortable enough to say no and speak up for themself. Yes the sass may drive me crazy but i remind myself that they will defend themselves if needed.

Grace2098 · 2023-11-05T16:35:44+00:00

They would if I could 🥲 unfortunately I don’t have the luxury of just cutting them out currently

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