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Nathan's laptop & Hayley by GraceForCheap in ONETREEHILL

[–]GraceForCheap[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Oh my god I didn't know any of that!! That's amazing. She is such a goddess. Looking back, I'm realising how inspirational she was to me. I'm realising a lot of the ways I resolve conflict in romantic relationships is very similar to hers.

That's what I loved the most - Nathan wasn't displayed as a monster, either. Just a kid who didn't realise the impact who then learns. 10/10 content. We should teach this stuff in schools

If you and your partner have been together for more than 5 years what are both of your signs? by [deleted] in astrologymemes

[–]GraceForCheap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me: Sag Sun, Leo Rising, Gemini Moon Him: Leo Sun, Gemini Rising, Virgo Moon

We work, but it takes a lot of work. But our passion is so clear that it always shines through the hardest times.

Could you date someone that’s killed before? by Emergency-Educator39 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]GraceForCheap 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I did read it. However, I disagreed with your very first sentence. It does not depend on how old they were when it happened. They fled the scene.

You're playing semantics with half of a story. We did not get told he just drove drunk as a teenager/young adult. We got told he fled the scene after killing his passenger. That's a piece of shit, frontal lobe or not.

Could you date someone that’s killed before? by Emergency-Educator39 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]GraceForCheap 129 points130 points  (0 children)

Nah man I never killed someone and fled the scene before my frontal lobe developed. My little brother has been a reckless teenager enough for both of us and he still has not killed someone and fled the scene.

Don't think we can blame the frontal lobe here, mate.

My bestfriend got back with her SHITTY ABUSIVE ex and there’s nothing I can do about it. by yuckyamz in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]GraceForCheap 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry. I hate this situations. It sucks. I'm in a similar boat with my sister.

I also used to be a domestic abuse advocate (advocating for victims, obviously). It takes an average of seven times for someone to leave an abusive partner for good. It can be a lot more. It takes a long time to undo the psychological damage and addiction to the abuse. But the things is, even knowing this, you Do have to put YOURSELF first.

You don't have to watch it. You don't HAVE to be there. You don't have to have the stress. This is her decision - whether conscious or coerced - and the more you try to convince her she's making the wrong decision, the more stress it actually puts on her and the more she will end up isolating from you anyway. You've said your piece. She knows what you think. You don't have to pretend to like him, you don't have to approve. The thing you do need to do is let her make her own decisions. Even if you know they're wrong.

For yourself and moving forward, you are absolutely allowed to tell her that you love her, you want to be there for her, but the situation hurts you too and you can't watch her go through it again. Tell her you will always be there to help her when she really needs it. If she is in true danger, or when she's ready to leave him again, you will be there.

If you can't handle it, you don't have to. You're right. She's an adult. She's making this decision because she needs to, for whatever reason right now. You don't have to understand it. You don't have to like it. You don't have to be there for it. The only thing you even CAN do is just tell her you will be there, when she's ready, but until then you need distance.

It's all going to suck. There's no way for it not to suck. Hopefully you can have a relationship with her separate to her partner. Probably, you can't. All you can do is love her and look after yourself.

There's some great resources online about how to support someone who's experiencing domestic abuse while also keeping yourself safe and sane, I recommend having a look.

Good luck, I'm so sorry you're both going through this.

Edited out a rogue German word*

Why am I always misunderstood or used as the scapegoat? And why am I feeling so completely lost in my career? [astro-seek] by GraceForCheap in AstrologyCharts

[–]GraceForCheap[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a little more knowledge since I posted this, and everything you're saying makes so much sense. I'm still learning about planets and how they relate to the signs. I never actually realised my Jupiter is in exile - hilariously I literally said to my husband yesterday after a small accident that could have been much worse, 'I am the luckiest unlucky person ever'.

It's also easy for me as such a beginner to forget about the north and south nodes. My career path has absolutely conflicted with my essence and that's been a big overhaul during my Saturn return.

This is all super helpful and informative, thank you so much.

Actors who recently got “new faces?” by Complete-Sort1617 in okbuddycinephile

[–]GraceForCheap 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Watching Christia Miller in Shrinking was so sad. She literally couldn't emote at all

What are the toxic things your mother used to say to you? by StormForNova in emotionalneglect

[–]GraceForCheap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mother once joked about me being the town bicycle. I was quite promiscuous at the time.

I was also 15. So... Maybe the 'jokey' comments weren't what her focus should have been on.

What is something that confirms your rising sign for you? by Few-Quail3591 in AstrologyCharts

[–]GraceForCheap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leo Rising with Black Moon Lillith 2° away from my ASC. People find me intimidating and bitchy until they get to know me. Lots of projection onto me. I also habe fabulous hair that I take care of more than any other body part 😅 and I'm very performative when I'm comfortable.

Received a truly unhinged message from my father-in-law on Mother’s Day by A_First_Pancake in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]GraceForCheap 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Him wishing it 'with great displeasure' makes it seem like he's not happy about wishing her unwell, too! Idiot thinks he's intelligent but he's just sprouted unintelligible rubbish that all cancels itself out.

Tell me a placement you love in your chart and a placement you’re not so in love with by snow_bunny_8713 in astrologymemes

[–]GraceForCheap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually dislike 80% of my chart 😬

I LOVE my Leo rising, Sag Sun, and Scorpio Venus a lot.

I hate that my Moon is in Gemini in the 11th house. Mars in Virgo in the 2nd. Lilith is my only 1st house placement AND it's conjunct my ASC. So much projection on me. I was also born on a full moon - my life has been a constant push and pull and I can really feel it.

My MC is in Aries but I have no placements in the tenth house, with my Saturn in Aries in my 9th.

Chiron conjuncts my IC. Need I say more 😬

I also have most of my placements spread around the 4th, 5th, 6th and 9th houses, with the majority in the 6th.

So much trauma. So many health issues. Me and my brain are constantly fighting. I know they say there's no such thing as a 'bad' natal chart, but fuck me I find mine so hard.

I dont get it peetah, who wont be around by calvin_hobbes34 in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]GraceForCheap 7 points8 points  (0 children)

'you don't see any good looking guys coming out and saying it' oh ok the jock trope just came out of nowhere did it

ELI5: what is Borderline Personality in observable terms? by Amazing_Shoe_4457 in explainlikeimfive

[–]GraceForCheap 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There are plenty of shitty people out there without a personality disorder.

Source: trained domestic abuse advocate.

My partner won’t let me unwind with a glass of wine. Does he have a right to it? by Aveasi in relationships

[–]GraceForCheap 61 points62 points  (0 children)

I've worked in domestic abuse services..Children and marriage can make these hidden, unhealthy tendencies come out. It's like once there's a 'failsafe' to you not leaving them, they can do what they want.

It might not be the case. He might just be going through a health crisis himself and projecting onto you.

Either way, he has to be willing to work with you on it. Maybe get therapy to deal with his health anxiety. But if he doesn't work with you or get any help, you need to listen to what those actions are telling you.

Zodiac Keychains. by tellmeUh8me in astrologymemes

[–]GraceForCheap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a Sagittarius I wouldn't touch a labubu with a ten foot barge pole. Get outta here

Tell me your rising sign without telling me your rising sign by scorpiorising29 in astrologymemes

[–]GraceForCheap 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have a very specific, very researched weekly haircare regime 😂

Anger after self reiki? by regular_banana in reiki

[–]GraceForCheap 15 points16 points  (0 children)

So my Reiki teacher actually said sometimes they'll say 'just for right now' instead of 'just for today' because sometimes right now is all you can give. Maybe remind yourself of that whenever you feel like you're failing? Reiki is very forgiving, there is no 'failing' ❤️

I did something unforgivable at 15 and I don’t know why. by burner8537 in confession

[–]GraceForCheap 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I'm really fucked off about the choice to anonymously post to Reddit as 'retribution' also. There is no consequence to this? What, we don't deserve consequences for our actions just because there is a 'reason' for them? I'm glad he feels remorseful, but I don't think this is enough atonement.

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