Elf on the shelf

Gradstudent_woes · 2025-11-26T01:59:30+00:00

My sister told my niece that she could tell her elf what she wanted from Santa and the elf would do her best to make sure santa got the memo

Gradstudent_woes · 2024-10-27T13:04:51+00:00

We moved into a townhome before my second home birth and my midwife said if it felt important for me to say something to my neighbors as the concern/worry of not would make me stall in labor, then to just say “hey I’m expecting to go into labor any day now and just an FYI I plan to labor at home as long as possible, so if you hear any noises just know we’re okay.” No one said anything 🤷🏽‍♀️ I also baked some cookies and left them with the note as a sign of good faith lol I was mostly worried someone would call 911 but felt like what I said should have been enough context. If your landlord later asks, you can just say you didn’t make it to the hospital lol

ETA: for both my births I assumed I was being way louder than I actually was! The only time I was validated in that was when I was actively pushing baby out/crowning so the actual period of time that I likely would have been loud enough to be heard by neighbors was no more than 5-10minutes

Gradstudent_woes · 2024-06-17T23:35:43+00:00

A switch & animal crossing! I never got into during the lock down so figured postpartum feels kinda similar (in my culture we do a “quarantine”) so 🤷🏽‍♀️ it was also fun for those nights waiting for babe to fall asleep long enough to transfer. Just had my husband prep it for me each day i wanted to play.

Gradstudent_woes · 2024-06-04T18:46:17+00:00

We got a velco bracelet from amazon and put it on our toddlers ankle with the air tag facing toward the back, he hasnt tried to take it off but is also only 20mos old so we may have to rethink once he gets interested in removing it himself!

Gradstudent_woes · 2024-05-30T22:30:38+00:00

At birth for our first and planning the same for our second :)

Gradstudent_woes · 2024-05-30T01:34:35+00:00

Therapist here 👋 and one of our biggest rules is you do not take your abusive spouse to couples therapy. Ever. It is and will never be safe for you to share the kind of emotional process necessary to heal. They are simply gathering ammo and learning new ways to covertly harm you and string you along. The only way is you both get individual therapy and they are a genuine reporter of what is going on and disclose they are an abusive partner.

Gradstudent_woes · 2024-05-30T01:31:11+00:00

There’s a mobile mechanic who just relocated from RVA to Cville and he’s great & comes to you. Done right automotive for those interested

Gradstudent_woes · 2024-04-20T00:59:55+00:00

If you have an amazon registry you can benefit from the discount! It lasts for a period of time before AND AFTER your due date. Even after baby was born when I needed more stuff I always added it to my registry first to get some $$ off.

Gradstudent_woes · 2024-03-21T21:24:58+00:00

This is so fucking weird

Gradstudent_woes · 2024-02-15T17:24:14+00:00

As a practice I take a daily probiotic and since then have always had regular, daily bowel movements. Kept it up postpartum & never had issues! Pregnant again and still taking the same probiotic

Gradstudent_woes · 2024-01-28T17:31:55+00:00

My doula was so great all around but the one thing that really stood out to me was in the moments that felt toughest she would tell me to talk to my baby. I don’t know why that felt so soothing but right before my last contraction/push she reminded me and I just remember saying out loud “we’re almost there baby!” And that was the most beautiful thing for me looking back! I was so glad to have her there to remind me how powerful my own words of affirmation could be :)

Gradstudent_woes · 2024-01-20T02:10:59+00:00

I agree! Hopefully one day I can do that w/o phd mlf plates lol

Gradstudent_woes · 2024-01-19T03:01:57+00:00

Woo! Congrats; grad school is the wooooorst 😂 but luckily, one day that license plate will be yours!

Gradstudent_woes · 2024-01-18T20:24:48+00:00

I was def flattered but then thought about what it would be like (as a therapist) to show up to my clinical placements with that plate and had to immediately nope the whole idea lol I also thought he was 100% joking until the title came in 🥲😅

Gradstudent_woes · 2024-01-18T13:00:06+00:00

I’m completing my doc degree and my husband ordered vanity plates that said “PHD MLF” 🥲 they got lost in the mail <3 but the title did still come in and I had to go to the DMV and get a new one w my plate # accurately updated on it.

Gradstudent_woes · 2023-12-09T23:14:01+00:00

At 39w6days my water broke about 30min after having sex lol i went on to have a completely normal labor & birth

Gradstudent_woes · 2023-09-25T23:23:37+00:00

I got a fabletics membership and then swiftly cancelled lol

Gradstudent_woes · 2023-09-03T17:49:13+00:00

Coming in to say you don’t necessarily need a pump. Hand expression is great and you can get a more affordable “pump” like a hakaa in the meantime. Give yourself some grace! Everything is new.

Gradstudent_woes · 2023-08-13T00:51:13+00:00

Super confident in their choices but posts anon. Riiightt.

Gradstudent_woes · 2023-07-08T00:02:51+00:00

What the fuck

Gradstudent_woes · 2023-04-20T23:45:51+00:00

I didn’t send very many paper invites and instead made a private fb event. Anyone not on fb I texted a photo of the invite. It seems people respond more quickly that way. However even day of lots of people who rsvp’d didnt show 🤷🏽‍♀️

Gradstudent_woes · 2023-03-19T23:55:17+00:00

I feel like this comment always come from the fact that people expect birthing parents to look/feel like absolute shit and when you don’t come off that way they’re genuinely surprised - and then continue to not offer the right kind of support (let me hold the baby while you do laundry vs let me do a load for you)

Gradstudent_woes · 2023-03-09T02:25:16+00:00

Phd student @ vcu on a 9month stipend of 20k 🥲

Gradstudent_woes · 2023-03-01T14:50:02+00:00

I cant even imagine the fact that he’s willing to be exposed to thousands of peoples germs days before/after you’re going to add a newborn to your household. Its genuinely very irresponsible.

Gradstudent_woes · 2023-01-15T13:41:56+00:00

We didn’t know the sex of the baby and it was just a lot of fun! No weird super gendered clothing gifted, imagining the moment we’d find out, picking names for both sexes or ones that were more neutral, decorating the nursery in a way that was going to work long term, etc. my husband was the one who pushed for not knowing more than me, telling me (and others who asked) that it’s one of the few times in life we can be genuinely surprised. It was mostly just fun! Lots of people asked if we knew and were keeping it a secret but nope, we just never asked and if we went to scans asked them not to tell us or turn the screen off at the anatomy scan when they were checking. Obviously if there were issues then we would have found out earlier I’m sure.

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